Getting To The Truth Thursday

Getting To The Truth Thursday

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Lets jump straight into it shall we. How many of you all think you are in a one on one relationship only to find out you’re not? Well don’t be discourage because a lot of people found that out over the Valentine Day extravaganza, that they are in multiple situations. This is why this holiday doesn’t hold water to me. Yes I know I always get something and this year made no difference, but in reality if I didn’t get anything I wouldn’t be disappointed. I mean I get gifts and love 365 days a year so one day will not destroy me in any way.

What I do understand is that this is all that most have to look forward to and that is because this is what they allow. Is this your fault? Yes and no. I say that because you didn’t get involved in your life or your relationship. What you have been doing in belonging into a relationship or an endless marriage but not involved. I know you all do so much together, but how many of you share the deepest darkest secrets? How many of you know what your mate is doing when you decide to do you? Think about it, if you think you are getting away with it, so do she or he. When you think that you are in this committed relationship and find out that you are in a triangle web of lies is horrifying. When you find out that there is multiple partners involved is more devastating. When there is a child now present that wasn’t there when you met. When there is a boyfriend wherein you thought you were the husband or a girlfriend wherein you thought you vowed your life to him forever. When you find out an ex is a still ongoing thing and now you are the side piece. I see it all the time and much too often. How about when you find out that everyone knew but you? Then you blame everyone for not telling you about it. Please open your own damn eyes to see the truth and not hide behind what is given to you or what is being said to you. Yes, anyone can say that they love you but if they aren’t showing it then that’s where the problem lye. Why do you make it someone else’s business to get in your life, love and relationship? When they are there you then tell them to mind their business when isn’t beneficial to you. Then question their loyalty when it is hurtful only because you didn’t want to hear it in the beginning. Well my friends we all stand in our own way to shame the hurt and cover up the pain. We force ourselves to believe that there is no way this person could do this to me. “Not after all I have done for them!” “Not after all I have given up for them!” “Not after what I have given them!” “Not when I could have been with or loved, or done or did!” My question to you is why didn’t you just go with your instincts? Because you got in your own way and thought you could change a person instead of just moving to the side and allow nature to take it course. We have that I am better than; I can make you feel; I know I have; I am the right person syndrome and come to find out you weren’t. Your aren’t or weren’t the better; You couldn’t make them feel; You didn’t have; and of course they end up with someone else still.

The problem is no communication. People are afraid to ask the hard questions. Are you seeing someone else? Is there a new child I need to know about? Where is you loyalty and love in this relationship? Is there new skeletons I need to be aware of? Make bold statements like, I scheduled both of us for STD testing. I am going to the doctors with you and no I will not sit in the waiting room. There is no confidentiality when it comes to my health and we are married or in a committed relationship. I do it all the time. I tell my mate come go in the room with me and be there for the examination. There is no secrets when it come to me. If we are sharing bodily fluids we might as well share a doctors appointment, health report, dental visit, eye examination, or specialist visit. People say there are in a relationship and then do everything by themselves. Reason for uncertainty and secrecy. Not me I am an open book and invite my mate to all my appointments, even Gynecology because if anything is different then you made it different. I don’t play with my health, life, family, love, or money and yes in that order. So get all involved in your life, love, health, and family business. Because at the end of the day it matters to you as well. Do not rely on someone who barely holds their head up when speaking to you the truth to tell you the truth. Because I know that I am who I am and I am not here to make your feel better and me feel worse. I am not here to make life better for you while I live like shit. I am not here to play guessing games with my life, health, nor this relationship. I am here to better us and if there is no us then I surely know how to leave for the better. I am not going to throw dirt on your name because that isn’t in my character. I will however, turn a blind eye when you see the grass wasn’t greener. I will however, forgive you for your ignorance. I will however, continue to wish you the best of luck because you did me a favor. You help me dodge you; that bullet that is killing that current relationship. Thank you for showing me a different side of the mirror. I only saw the reflection I wanted to see and not the image that was stirring back.

Your life is in your hands so don’t just give someone the power of your freedom, love, health, journey, nor destiny. Don’t allow anyone to decide when any of it is over. You are your director, publicity, narrator, producer, writer and critic. So feel free to live your life like you think it should go and not how someone else views it. Get Involved in your relationships, marriage, family, home, and life. If you don’t someone else will!

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Unlocking The Truth Within

Unlocking The Truth Within

Goddess morning Royals. First give praise and worship to the all High.

How honest are you with yourself? How much do you lie to get ahead in life, love, and business? How many times have you been caught in your web of deceit?

Honestly we all have done it and frankly gotten away with it at some point. Am I correct? Of course I am. We have all lied to ourselves, to our significant others, friends, family members, our children, and others just to either look good at the moment or just because we can’t help it.

Question: How many of us have gone back and made the lie a reality to stay face or told the truth that you lied? Not many some even pile onto that lie and make it worse. Why in the world would we ever do that but we have? How many of you all are cheating on your significant other, taxes, diets, church, or family? When I say cheating on your family, you pretend that the family you were born into isn’t your family or prefer another family and spend more time with that family. Again everyone have done it, whether it is your significant other’s family because they make you feel special; or you taken on the role of a mother or father to someone else child because they respect your more. How about lied on an application because you thought you were best qualified for the job? Then realize you have over stepped your boundaries. Lied about degrees you don’t have and when it was time to produce them couldn’t. Lied about your abilities to function in a fast pace work environment and well fell short. Still we have all committed some sort of facade in our lives that we aren’t proud of or wish we never done it to begin with, but did and now have to live it out to its fullest.

What to do? What to do? Well I tell you what we can all confess to the mess we have created. We can hold our heads up high and be proud of who or what we are instead of creating a person who we know we can’t live up to. For those who have cheated on someone, just let them go, because clearly they aren’t the one for you or else you wouldn’t have been able to cheat on them, even in revenge. Now I don’t have to tell you about those taxes because the IRS will get you soon enough and at this rate they are going they are more vigilant of those falsifying information. Don’t go to jail or ruin your life over a few hundred dollars. I promise you the lawyer will cost more, so why bother. Unless you are so dumb or cheap to opt out for a public defender, then you already know your fate. As far as life goes, we all want or have wanted to be someone else at a moment in time, but remembered we are just who we are. I say be proud of that and own it. We have all wanted to be better than the person we think people see. Unsure who that is through their eyes we try to make ourselves more and still end up being less. Then feel sorry about it and wallow in self pity, doubt and hatred not only for ourselves but for those we tried to impress.

The thing is I like who I am and don’t need any hallelujah or thank you Jesus from no one to just be me. I am comfortable in my skin and whoever don’t like it then they don’t have to deal with it. When I look in the mirror I see who I am and not who everyone wants me to be. If you start trying to change for other then when you look in the mirror and don’t recognize who you have become, then who are you? You can’t claim yourself because you need validation from whoever you changed for to tell you who you are or have become. Now I get it some of us need change but for yourself not for others. If you know that you are a horrible person then yes by all means change and quickly please. But it you are a good person and don’t quite fit in then you just don’t fit in. Make yourself a magnet and have them try to fit onto you and who you are not the other way around. If they still don’t attach themselves to you then maybe you are trying to fit in the wrong places, and faces.

Believe me there is a group for everyone just like that is a person for everyone. Who knows you might just end up being that life of the party that you were hoping for in the beginning. Then again you might just fine that piece that fits so well that you don’t care if the rest doesn’t match up well at all. You may land that job that you have been wanting for so long that you now have the opportunity to turn them down. You could start that successful business you been working on for years but didn’t have the nerve or will to put yourself out there. Trust it feel good being the boss of your own destiny. No matter what unlock the true you so that you can be happy, and love who you are as a person and not what others think about you. Remember it is only an opinion and not a fact unless you accept it as who you are.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

What I Want and Need

Goddess morning Royals. First give praise and worship to the all High.

I want a life of happiness, love, joy, and peace. I want financial bliss and a home to leave for generations to come. I want a life wherein there is no war, hatred, or destruction. This day is so far fetched though but this is what I want. I want for my family to get along and be mindful of one another’s feelings. I want a world where my future grand and great grandchildren have a chance at life like everyone else on this planet. I want a day in the life of stability where there is no one who wants death as a part of their day. I want healthy lives for all and a disease free world but again this day is far fetched and unheard of. I want a world without judgement and everyone can be who they want to be as long as it doesn’t harm anyone. I want justice for all and not just for some. I want political warfare to be done and jobs wherein people are delighted to have one. I want a world with encouragement as a daily note given by all. I want technology not to control dinner tables or conversations when face to face with one another. I want a place where freedom of expression doesn’t mean degrading others just for yourself worth.

I need all this and a companion to share it all with for the rest of my life.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove