Manic Monday! Don’t Panic It’s Monday!

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

I know this is my topic for today, but I am only writing it because my son experienced something dramatic Friday and made him dread Monday. You want to talk panic! On Friday my son’s school had to experience a threat of a mass shooting.

It was too many police on Friday when I dropped him off to school. He said Ma it looks like our school was in another school on school fight again. I ask him do he get involved in those fights and he told me no. He said I have no beef with no one at another school, because I have friends that goes to those other schools. Looking at how many officers were on the perimeter I told him no this is something else. I told him to find out just in case I had to come back and get him. He got out and an hour later he calls me and tell me I need to come get him because he fear for his life.

I didn’t even want to know what was going on at that time so I rushed to the school to get him. While I was driving he calls me back and say Ma, there is a child here talking of shooting up the school, that’s why the police was on the campus today. I couldn’t even thing at that moment. I know that the night before a 14 years old had shoot several people in a school in California. Prayer are with the family and the victims of that shooting and all of the previous shootings. SideBar: What is going on with our parents that we can’t see the hurt and distress before it comes to a mass shooting? Why is it that we choose to ignore the signs of a mentally disturb child or an abused child until something tragic happens?

I got to the school and was as calm as possible. It was still several police on the campus and I asked them if the situation resolved and one of them said yes but the other said the perpetrator is being sought. Which to me means no. I am not one to blame anyone but those who needs the blame and well I didn’t have have time at that moment. The only person on my mind is my son who was in the bathroom with his cellphone calling me for help. I got him and got out of there. I wasn’t the only one, I saw about 50 other parents getting there children as well.

Now today is Monday, Manic Monday at that and his nerves are all over the place. I am dealing with the situation but I know that he needs more support than just me. So I am calling in the troops and since it is a lot of us we are going to rally around my son for support. Our mission is to help him get through this and back in school, because he told me his isn’t ready to go back just yet. I can understand his concerns especially since we aren’t sure if they have the child in custody. To make matters worse my son told me that he knows the child because they are in the same French class together. He said the child confides in him but he never thought things were this serious. I told him to pray for him and ask the Lord to guide him and send him the necessary help he needs. People talk to your children. Listen to your children. Hear your children even when they aren’t saying anything. Don’t ignore your child’s cry for help or attention.

That’s my Monday so far, what is yours looking like. I tell you one thing I will not panic because it is Monday. I will live this day as any other but more productive than the last.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Sunday, Let’s Talk Food With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Unhealthy Foods

Do you like to snack? Do you like fast food? Do you like lots of bread? Do you like soda? Do you like candy?

Let’s be honest, we all either use to love it or just like it now and again. It isn’t all the time that we do it but sometimes we like to splurge a little. We like being able to go to those fast food places and pick up something quick. We might even get to comfortable and order up a meal or two for the family. Question is how often do we do it? Is it twice a week, three times, four times or everyday? How often do we eat the unhealthy things that is leading us to an early demise is the question? I mean we know death is coming but we don’t want to rush it either. We aren’t ready before our time is up or are we? If we are eating away our feeling, emotions, and habits through unhealthy foods then we are ready sooner than expected and we can’t blame anyone but ourselves.

We are parents turn right around and introduce it to our family and then wonder why our family is tired all the time, drained of energy and all they want to do is rest. Why they don’t have the brain power to study, be productive, or ambitious enough to strive for greatness. It’s because we are pushing cancer, laziness, and high blood pressure, obesity, diabetes down their throats and they have no idea that we are doing it. We are the ones that goes grocery shopping and pick up all the snacks, sodas, sugary drinks, candy and over processed foods. We leave out the goodness our family needs. We might pick up fruits and veggies but we focus on things that make our lives more sustainable and not healthier. We want more time to do other things than standing in the kitchen cooking healthy meals or making sure we’re not killing our children.

Don’t do it any longer, remember CANCER is a business not a DISEASE! They don’t have to tell us that they are poisoning us, they just have to please the FDA and only the government and the Savor knows who is really doing their job and who hands are being greased. What we do know is all enriched foods are bleached so they are definitely unhealthy for you. If it’s dead then why even bother, but I do get it. Some meets, if cooked and prepared. suppose to provide nutrients, but honestly I doubt it. I think it is all financial gain with the lies. I know that make it taste so good with all the chemicals and dyes that they put in it but if your not sure then don’t do it. If it is loaded with sugar and sugar by products then we already know it is going to lead to health problems so why do it to ourselves.

Remember your life and those who you love life is in your hands, let’s make the right choices for them until they are old enough to do it for themselves. By then they will know what choices is right because we would have taught them well. Live longer and healthier by making the right choices.

Sending you love and kisses. #GoddessLove.

Saturday Sit Down With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Death is just a scary word! Everyone wants to go to heaven but not all wants to talk about how they are going to get there. In order to see the Savor you first must move on from the vessel that enclose your spirit. We all know that our vessel is just clothing for the soul and when we take off that fabric finally, that we will not be putting it back on. Our will might be weak but our destiny is strong. It has to come to an end and we all know it but when, I think, is what scares people so much.

I say don’t sit around and think about it nor wait for it. Go out and live within your vessel the best you know how until the day you no longer need your clothing to keep your spirit covered. When your spirit is ready to be exposed to the world, they will not be torn by your vessel but rejoiced by your soul. I think it is only hurtful when people haven’t really understood your purpose in their lives, so they missed their opportunity to know of their own purpose. They can’t find themselves and haven’t found themselves by the time you are ready to shed your fabric. They question death because they aren’t sure when their time is but have no reason to understand why your time is now.

Yes the feeling of losing someone is uneased and very painful but if you really stop and think about it, you haven’t loss them they just transitioned into their next chapter and now you must focus on your story. We cannot live our lives through someone else’s book and think when their story ends so do ours. It isn’t like that! This just mean that you weren’t paying attention to your story being written because your eyes was on someone else’s book. Stop try to step in their success or life and direct, publish, narrate and produce your own story. You never know what extraordinary things you might leave for others to read. Who knows your story might change or direct someone else life into learning to write their story and making it a novel no one can put down.

So when death comes knocking don’t be afraid to open the door because it just mean that another chapter is about to happen for you so that someone else can tell your story in a way no one will believe. It can’t all be fairytales and rainbows, sometimes it has to be horror and thrillers, with a side of danger and mystery. It is all up to you how your story goes, but how it ends will never die with you. There will alway be someone to tell what they have been told or experienced being in your chapters. So in fact your story lives on and on and on. It gets better with each person that tells their part or how they remember it for themselves.

Remember Death is only to be absent in the body but present in the spirit. Let’s see what your story is about and who will tell it as great as it is.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Confession Thursday – “Are You Really Happy Within Yourself?”

Goddess evening Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

I asked this question because I had a person tell me, “if my significant other can’t make me happy then why be with them?” I replied by asking them were they happy within themself. They replied with “yes I am!” Got sassy with it so then I went on to state this and this is where things got dicy. If you are happy within yourself then you significant other doesn’t need to make you happy. Their job is to provide, love, protect, care for and keep sexually satisfied. That didn’t end well for them at all.

Here’s the thing if you are happy within yourself, then no one else can steal nor make you happy. Because if you aren’t then you will feel like that person isn’t the person for you. Reason being is because you aren’t sure what happiness is so in turn you cannot be sure if that person is doing what you should be doing for yourself.

My number 1 rule is: If you aren’t making yourself happy there is no way a man or woman can do it. That now is a problem between you and your Savor.

My personal saying is: No one can be your everything and you be your nothing.

It just cannot and will not work, not in this lifetime or the next. You have to learn to be really happy within yourself before you can expect for someone not to be able to take that happiness away. So get to know you and what you like before you think that someone else can do what you haven’t been able to do for your lifetime. If you can sit by yourself and not be bored out of your mind, then that mean you are content with you and can appreciate alone time. Most people think alone time is with their homies and not with the people they love because the ones they love is the ones that is making them unhappy. Wrong! You are miserable within yourself and as soon as you come to the conclusion that this is what is making you dislike yourself and being around other the sooner you can get the necessary help you need.

Stop holding other people accountable for your misery as well as your dislike for others. That is all you and you need to face the mirror and find out why you dislike you. In order for you to dislike someone for no apparent reason mean that there is hate for yourself within you and you need to address the issue right away.

Prayer, meditation, writing, singing, or rediscovering yourself is great ways to start to find the happiness within you. Love you and be happy with you so that you can love others and be happy around and for others

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Wednesday – Is This Really What You/I Need?

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

There are times when we really want more than we can handle. When we get it we ask why God put all this on us. Never realizing that we put this on ourselves. God had nothing to do with your own sabatosh. We then find other avenues or people to point the finger too. Still no ones fault but your own. We are afraid to admit when we have caused our own demise; it is better just to find someone to blame for our mistakes. Just take a break from what is causing you to doubt yourself and then ask yourself; “Is this really what you need?” Ask it as if someone else if posing the question. Then turn around and repeat the question; asking for yourself this time. “Is this really what I need?”

You know what you want and what you want from it but is what you need even in the picture. We tend to think that somehow the two are the same when in fact they are very much different.

“What I want?” Based on what you see but not necessary what you need. You just want it because it is either the latest trend, idea look, with get you the attention you really don’t want, or is what someone else has. Or the biggest and most problematic thing of all, to show others I can afford it. Of \course you could afford it at the time but then you didn’t need it so now it is costing you and you can’t handle it.

“What I need?” This is going to enhance what I already have in place. This will increase my flow, marketing, and strategy to get further. I will have enough capital to create more. This will make my life a lot better and I will be able to do more than I have ever done. Profits will soar and my opportunities will increase and 100 fold.

See the difference isn’t what others see, it is what you see. It makes life better when you know what you need versus what you want. Stop focusing on what others have so you can get what you really need. Your wants will be covered by your needs as long as you wants aren’t ahead of your needs.

Note* People will be your friend because of their wants while tearing down your needs. People will praise your downfall, but hate your come up. This method applies to those who claim you as well as those who dismiss you. Ask yourself is this person someone I want in my circle or someone that I need in my circle? If you can’t decide then ask the hardest question of all. What do they bring to my circle that make them worthy of my presence? If still you can’t come up with nothing then that person is a want and yes, they can be fun to be around but they aren’t a necessity and so they really only get the attention you want them to have which is little to none.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Living

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the al High.

We are just want to live on this rock. Everyone said they struggle to survive. When are we going to stop surviving and start living? I for one would like to wake to my family and say have a great and mean it without the thought of them dodging bullets, running from the police, being harrassed by the drug dealers, worrying about some high ass junkie stabbing them for money they don’t have, or being bullied. It is a shame that we have to live in a world where these are our general worries.

Remember when you were a child and you worried about school, being bullied, getting into fights, homework, classwork, test, food for the family, mommy struggles to make ends meet, daddy out here doing #GodKnowsWhat to make it happen for the family. Yeah, well guess what haven’t much changed at all. Our children go through the same things we went through as a child, and just like our parents we tell them these are grown folk’s problems. We were told the same damn thing. Then when we became teenagers our parent told us we had to find a job or help out around the house. Again nothing has changed! We just want them to learn lessons and learn to mature. I wonder if it is too much pressure. I wonder if forcing us into the struggle at an early age isn’t what makes life a survival and not a way of living.

With school being hard as hell, children being children and making poor decisions; with growing up moving so fast; with trying to find their identities; with the question being asked what are you going to do with your life when you grow up being on the table and in the back of their minds; with what you do now determine who you will be in the future being thrown in their faces; and making the right choices in life too much for children. What I noticed since nothing has changed is that we as parents and parents before us, think that children have nothing to worry about. That’s a lie! We think just because we pay the bills and buy the food as well as their clothes that they don’t have nothing to worry about but remember we are the ones that put the most pressure on them and then have the audacity to tell them that they don’t have nerves yet but wait. We frighten them into adulthood while screwing up their childhood. For a matter of fact our lives right now are the way they are because someone did the same thing to us.

It might seem like what we should do because it was done to us, but it isn’t fair. It wasn’t fair when it was done to us and it isn’t fair now that it is being done to yours. For a matter of fact I know some of you are saying I turned out just fine, but are you really okay or just getting by with what you were taught and learned along the way? Do you have moments of regret based upon the choices that were made for you? You went along with them because there were no other choices given. Now as an adult you think that if you had other options that you would have made different decision for your life? I know we pay the bills, put the food on the table, keep the roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, shoes on their feet, lights on in the house and water for drinking and cleaning, but why do we do it?

We do it for them. So why keep reminding them of it when they can see the struggle from it. They can see the hurt in our faces, the pain in our bodies and the worry in our eyes. They don’t want that for you nor for themselves. They just want to live as children right now, just like we wanted to when we were children, but the pressure is what’s overwhelming them and more now that life have changed and not for the better. We want whats best for our children but we give them what we think is best based on what you were taught by the same people who said the same thing to us. Break the cycle and really sit down and understand your children needs and feelings. We owe it to the child in us.

Maybe, just maybe we will stop struggling to survive and start #Living.

Sending you love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Sunday, Let’s Talk Food With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Proper Proportions

I know we all like to eat but for some, they love to eat. This isn’t something new, some people even made a career out of it, as well just enjoy it. Obesity though is also something that isn’t new and well something that is deadly to those who each out of control, either for a disorder or “just because they love it.” I am not criticizing anyone for their love of food nor their weight but I do want to see you all as I pass by and know that you will be there and not just remember this is where I meet you but you are no longer with us, for this exact reason.

The love of food isn’t a bad thing but it could be a took much thing. When it comes down to eating I can tell you this, eating until you are stuffed isn’t the way to go. It is more than okay to save some for later, or take it with you to go. Let me tell you what my biggest problem is, when I cook I manage to overcook so my family over eats. I tell them though you don’t have to eat it all here, you are more then entitled to take some home for later or the next day meal. All you have to do is stick it in the over to warm it up. For those who can’t wait, the microwave maybe your friend, but either way don’t overdo it just because it is there. I only bring this up because the holiday is upon us and I know that a lot of us will be cooking for Thanksgiving I just want everyone safe and around for years to come.

Not everyone knows how to cook healthy and that is fine. This is when control should come in place. A serving spoon of everything is more then enough to satisfy everyone. I know that they will come back for second helpings but that when you need to let them know that you made it in a to go plate and they should leave room for desert. This isn’t mean just helping with control, if you know that they have none.

My dinner for Thanksgiving usually consist of :

  1. 26lb Turkey
  2. 15lb or more of Ham
  3. Roast Duck or Lamb
  4. Fried Cabbage
  5. Baked Macaroni and Cheese
  6. Shrimp Macaroni Salad
  7. Candy Yams
  8. Pasta Salad
  9. Mixed Greens
  10. Corn on the Cob
  11. Mashed Potatoes or Baked Potatoes
  12. Sauerkraut
  13. Chitterlings
  14. Crab Cakes or Crab balls
  15. Strawberry Short Cake
  16. Pineapple Upside down Cake
  17. Lemon Pound Cake
  18. Sweet Potato Pie
  19. Apple Pie
  20. Ice cream at least three flavors
  21. Berry Berry Surprise
  22. Variety of Drinks
  23. Variety of Breads
  24. Bread Pudding
  25. Rice Pudding

It sounds like a lot but I always manage to leave off dishes for the Christmas holidays. With all this food, I serve in Proper Proportions just to make sure everyone gets enough and save room for desert. I know it is a heart attack waiting to happen. Reason I only spurge on this holiday any other day I am eating healthy and my family hates it. They can’t wait for this holiday to get here. It is the only time I go crazy with sugar. This holiday will be death of someone if I let them go crazy eating out of control. So, on this day, I don’t use and serving spoon of food but half that size just for portion control. They appreciate me for it in the long run but hate me right then and there for it. It doesn’t bother me, I just ignore them and move on to the next person.

A eating disorder or obesity isn’t nothing to laugh at nor disregard or to dismiss easily and if you know someone who could use help. Please by all means help them to keep them around. Love them wherein they are not loving themselves. Over eating and snacking leads to a lifetime of heart ache, disappointment, state of depression, devastation and most of all dead. Let’s keep our love one close and full of life.

Only because I care do I tell you to eat smaller portions even if you decide not to eat healthy, that is on you. It can save your life.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove