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Getting To The Truth Thursday

Getting To The Truth Thursday

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Lets jump straight into it shall we. How many of you all think you are in a one on one relationship only to find out you’re not? Well don’t be discourage because a lot of people found that out over the Valentine Day extravaganza, that they are in multiple situations. This is why this holiday doesn’t hold water to me. Yes I know I always get something and this year made no difference, but in reality if I didn’t get anything I wouldn’t be disappointed. I mean I get gifts and love 365 days a year so one day will not destroy me in any way.

What I do understand is that this is all that most have to look forward to and that is because this is what they allow. Is this your fault? Yes and no. I say that because you didn’t get involved in your life or your relationship. What you have been doing in belonging into a relationship or an endless marriage but not involved. I know you all do so much together, but how many of you share the deepest darkest secrets? How many of you know what your mate is doing when you decide to do you? Think about it, if you think you are getting away with it, so do she or he. When you think that you are in this committed relationship and find out that you are in a triangle web of lies is horrifying. When you find out that there is multiple partners involved is more devastating. When there is a child now present that wasn’t there when you met. When there is a boyfriend wherein you thought you were the husband or a girlfriend wherein you thought you vowed your life to him forever. When you find out an ex is a still ongoing thing and now you are the side piece. I see it all the time and much too often. How about when you find out that everyone knew but you? Then you blame everyone for not telling you about it. Please open your own damn eyes to see the truth and not hide behind what is given to you or what is being said to you. Yes, anyone can say that they love you but if they aren’t showing it then that’s where the problem lye. Why do you make it someone else’s business to get in your life, love and relationship? When they are there you then tell them to mind their business when isn’t beneficial to you. Then question their loyalty when it is hurtful only because you didn’t want to hear it in the beginning. Well my friends we all stand in our own way to shame the hurt and cover up the pain. We force ourselves to believe that there is no way this person could do this to me. “Not after all I have done for them!” “Not after all I have given up for them!” “Not after what I have given them!” “Not when I could have been with or loved, or done or did!” My question to you is why didn’t you just go with your instincts? Because you got in your own way and thought you could change a person instead of just moving to the side and allow nature to take it course. We have that I am better than; I can make you feel; I know I have; I am the right person syndrome and come to find out you weren’t. Your aren’t or weren’t the better; You couldn’t make them feel; You didn’t have; and of course they end up with someone else still.

The problem is no communication. People are afraid to ask the hard questions. Are you seeing someone else? Is there a new child I need to know about? Where is you loyalty and love in this relationship? Is there new skeletons I need to be aware of? Make bold statements like, I scheduled both of us for STD testing. I am going to the doctors with you and no I will not sit in the waiting room. There is no confidentiality when it comes to my health and we are married or in a committed relationship. I do it all the time. I tell my mate come go in the room with me and be there for the examination. There is no secrets when it come to me. If we are sharing bodily fluids we might as well share a doctors appointment, health report, dental visit, eye examination, or specialist visit. People say there are in a relationship and then do everything by themselves. Reason for uncertainty and secrecy. Not me I am an open book and invite my mate to all my appointments, even Gynecology because if anything is different then you made it different. I don’t play with my health, life, family, love, or money and yes in that order. So get all involved in your life, love, health, and family business. Because at the end of the day it matters to you as well. Do not rely on someone who barely holds their head up when speaking to you the truth to tell you the truth. Because I know that I am who I am and I am not here to make your feel better and me feel worse. I am not here to make life better for you while I live like shit. I am not here to play guessing games with my life, health, nor this relationship. I am here to better us and if there is no us then I surely know how to leave for the better. I am not going to throw dirt on your name because that isn’t in my character. I will however, turn a blind eye when you see the grass wasn’t greener. I will however, forgive you for your ignorance. I will however, continue to wish you the best of luck because you did me a favor. You help me dodge you; that bullet that is killing that current relationship. Thank you for showing me a different side of the mirror. I only saw the reflection I wanted to see and not the image that was stirring back.

Your life is in your hands so don’t just give someone the power of your freedom, love, health, journey, nor destiny. Don’t allow anyone to decide when any of it is over. You are your director, publicity, narrator, producer, writer and critic. So feel free to live your life like you think it should go and not how someone else views it. Get Involved in your relationships, marriage, family, home, and life. If you don’t someone else will!

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Deal With Your Own Shit

Deal With Your Own Shit

Goddess morning Royals.

I have been dealing with other people’s mess for as long as I can remember. I have intervened where I was needed and nothing more. I just go where I am allowed or asked to be. Once I have put my two cents in I try to leave it alone but parties involved don’t allow that to happen.

Everyone knows I raised my siblings from children to adults. I even call their children my nieces and nephews/glam babies. Honestly, I have my own problems that come up that I don’t really deal with because I am always dealing with someone else’s shit. Sometimes I don’t mind, but it be times when I just want to yell “DEAL WITH YOUR OWN SHIT!” What pisses me off the most is when they try to be as clueless as hell to their problems, but very knowledgeable about other’s problems. “Oh really, now you have an opinion about what and why?” Then it causes controversy and then there is more I have to defuse or settle. I just want people to at least try to handle it before you all bring me into it. When I get involved all parties are part of the problem and none of the solution. If they were then I wouldn’t be needed at all. The worst part about the whole thing is they want me to take side and when it doesn’t happen, I am the mean one or the bitch of the whole situation. Do you think I care at that point? “Hell NO!” I really don’t have cut cards with people who doesn’t address their issues as they have created their issues. I am a straight shooter and I shoot right from the hip no lie. I have told that I have a temper but I really don’t I just have an opinion that is strong, forceful and blunt. If you don’t like it then don’t ask for my advice, opinion or my intervention. It is 2019, and the way this world is going, we are heading straight to hell in a hand basket with gasoline draws on. Think its a game look out of your box and see what the world went through and still haven’t recovered for us to be about to head into the fire.

Where is the recovery point? When did the recovery happen? It didn’t we are just going to keep spiraling into hell until we get our shit together. Wake the fuck up and pay attention, we cannot keep allowing history to repeat itself. The results aren’t never good but always the same, DEATH of MILLIONS. Are we sure we are ready to say goodbye to millions, with the great chance that hundreds if not thousands will be family, friends or love ones so close you want to kill yourself as well. Enough is enough! Put on your grown folks pants and stand for something because we are failing and at a rapid rate. Extinction is clear and then what? NOTHING! There is not what after the extinction of man! There is no future in this direction so deal with the shit at hand so that there will be a future, even if you can’t see.

STEP UP, STEP IN AND DEFUSE SITUATION NOT KILL TO MAKE A STATEMENT WHICH NO ONE HEARS.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Sensational Saturday

Good morning Royals.

How is everyone doing?

Yesterday, I made steps to improve someone else life besides mine.  Vision to the non-profit organization “The Village Cry” founded by myself is closer than ever.  I promised myself that I would make a difference in this world before I am called home to my final resting place.

Today, like every day I do educate myself and try to improve on my life as well. I strive to be better not only for the greatness that is instilled in me, but for the greatness that is my family.  I see in them what they only dream of or say that wish could be.  I try to encourage them to make it a reality and not just a dream.  A vision worth sharing with the world as they know it and not as for the world in which is destructive.

Everyday you should try to make someone’s life different even if they have no idea that you’re doing so.  They may need the help or the push, but without a straight knowledge or recommendation, nor validation of you doing so. Don’t do it because you want something from it or for recognition, do it because you want to see someone do better.  You will feel better even if no one knows you did it.

Self praise or the glory of knowing you did something for someone gives me a sense of accomplishment and enlightenment, even when no one knows I have done anything for anyone.

Have a sensational Saturday and do someone out of the ordinary for someone who you know could use a miracle or an angel.

Sending you all love and kisses.  #GoddessLove

Update

Update

Goddess Morning Royals.

Okay so first off my glam baby is gone.  She is in North Carolina with her family but I get to talk to her when she have a free moment.  So I take it she is having a great time.  Still miss her like crazy though.

Up next is my book I have finished chapter 11 and now working on 12.  I am also working on “The Truth About Her” as well as “The Other Woman” and “The Family Bond”.  Which I believe I am going to have to release this year because so much is going on that I believe it is needed.  However, I have taken a break from “The Train Rider” as well as “The Lonely Englishman”.  I have to pace myself now because I am really sketching out the plans for The Village Cry.  I am seeking my non-profit license to make it all come together.

I have been extremely busy but I am learning to make sure I give everything a portion of my time if only to say hello or ask how others are doing.

Well how are you all doing?

I think that is it for now, if I remember more I will share more.

Sending you all love and kisses.  #GoddessLove

Where are we now?

Goddess Evening Royals

We have been so many place and seen so many face but still we live in selfishness.  I am not going to say all but I will say some.  It make no sense to have and refuse to want to give.  Some have nothing and give so much while some have so much and gives nothing.  Is this who and where we are now?

I have been a person who gives of myself all the time and without a need from anything in return.  It is called unconditional giving.  I don’t want or expect anything in return. It has to be without praise, conditions, compromise or even influence that you all give.  It have to be from the heart.  This is where we should be but we aren’t.

We as human beings believe that we should give in order to receive, or receive in ordered to give.  We look for what we give to be returned to us, well most of us, but then when it isn’t we have to talk about what we did for someone instead of keeping it to ourselves.  We have to be praised or recognized by someone in order for someone to know how badly someone else needed our help or assistance.

For those who doesn’t need praise, glory or recognition I salute you in all you do for your family, friends, community and for those who you don’t know.  I want to say “Thank You”  because the world could use some more of you in this day and time.  For a matter of fact continue to do what you do so that it will become contagious and others catch on.

You are the HEROs of the millenium and I am more than thankful and appreciative of you and your services you provide to the family, friends. and communities around you.

What do you do that make you a HERO of today, tomorrow and forever.

THANK YOU SO MUCH. SENDING YOU ALL LOVE AND KISSES.  #GODDESSLOVE

Update on My Existence

Goddess Morning Royals

Sorry I haven’t been sharing with you all and yes I know I missed “Timeless Tuesday and Monday as well which is usually Manic but what can you do.  I have a reason but not an excuse.

My son has an amazing opportunity to do STEM (Science Technology Engineering Mathematics) at the Naval Academy for this week and so we have been getting up extra early and leaving for Annapolis to do that.  It is only for a week but it is a grueling week for him.  Then we he is finished there he has been accepted in the STEM Robotics program as well STEM Technology programs for the summer.  This child of mine is great and showing.  On top of all that he will be perfecting the Violin and competing in Karate as a Brown belt.  So yes I have been extremely busy.

My daughter has re-enrolled in school to get her Doctorate in Pediatrics while continuing to work at the Private practice she works now, nursing.  This mean I have become a full-time Grandma now and have to keep up with the glambaby.  She is my life anyway so I am already to do that.

My oldest son will be perfecting his craft in drumming and electric Keyboarding.  He also received his BAHA attachment which mean he will be hearing clearer now.  So I am excited about that.  He will continue to work and love life he tells me.  No arguments there.

As for me, myself and I slowing down on my PH.D in Neuroscience once again so my children can pursue their dreams. I have no problem in doing so because I have a wonderful family.  I may fuss and yell but they are my world and I wouldn’t trade them for anything. I am however proceeding with The Village Cry foundation to help family rebuild, restore and return to the strong family and community we need to keep our children future alive.

There you have it what I have been doing and why I haven’t been blogging.  Not to mention for a few days I was under the weather but I am alive and on my feet so I am still able to make things happen.  So #GOTEAM on all fronts.

Sending you all love and kisses.  #GoddessLove

Lost Children

Goddess Morning Royals

Can someone please tell me why our children aren’t in school?

Seem like every morning I go out to see the city and run errands that is all I see, children out doing absolutely every but learning.  If they are learning it is definitely the wrong things.  They have backpacks but no one is in school and doesn’t seem like they are in a rush to get there either.  I know we need better education to motivate these children to want to learn but at the same time they need to want to learn.

I am not just speaking on black children either.  I see children of all races, creeds, nationalities, and so forth.  I know parents have to do what they need to provide but our children aren’t in school doing their part.  They are literal out and about like there is not place for them to be.  I am not sure how they are graduating these children.  In fact I know “No Child Left Behind” is a set up for failure.  The future of our children, communities, and retirement is bleak if we are relying on these children to do it for us.  We have to step up and get involved because they can’t be getting what is offered if they aren’t there.

No I am suggesting quitting your jobs to make sure they get their education but I am suggesting getting involved and taking more interest in your child’s future other than just graduations.  They maybe graduating but are they graduating with an education or just a piece of paper.  Can they move into the real world to take care of themselves and a family if one comes along or are they just street ready?  Just remember these streets aren’t the same streets you grew up on.  There is no Village raising your children they are doing it on their own or with their peers.  So it’s children educating children with no guidance from parents at all.  So when your child is dead or in jail, don’t question the system look in the mirror and ask where you were doing his or her upbringing.

Sending you all love and kisses.  #GoddessLove