Manic Monday! Don’t Panic It’s Monday!

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

I know this is my topic for today, but I am only writing it because my son experienced something dramatic Friday and made him dread Monday. You want to talk panic! On Friday my son’s school had to experience a threat of a mass shooting.

It was too many police on Friday when I dropped him off to school. He said Ma it looks like our school was in another school on school fight again. I ask him do he get involved in those fights and he told me no. He said I have no beef with no one at another school, because I have friends that goes to those other schools. Looking at how many officers were on the perimeter I told him no this is something else. I told him to find out just in case I had to come back and get him. He got out and an hour later he calls me and tell me I need to come get him because he fear for his life.

I didn’t even want to know what was going on at that time so I rushed to the school to get him. While I was driving he calls me back and say Ma, there is a child here talking of shooting up the school, that’s why the police was on the campus today. I couldn’t even thing at that moment. I know that the night before a 14 years old had shoot several people in a school in California. Prayer are with the family and the victims of that shooting and all of the previous shootings. SideBar: What is going on with our parents that we can’t see the hurt and distress before it comes to a mass shooting? Why is it that we choose to ignore the signs of a mentally disturb child or an abused child until something tragic happens?

I got to the school and was as calm as possible. It was still several police on the campus and I asked them if the situation resolved and one of them said yes but the other said the perpetrator is being sought. Which to me means no. I am not one to blame anyone but those who needs the blame and well I didn’t have have time at that moment. The only person on my mind is my son who was in the bathroom with his cellphone calling me for help. I got him and got out of there. I wasn’t the only one, I saw about 50 other parents getting there children as well.

Now today is Monday, Manic Monday at that and his nerves are all over the place. I am dealing with the situation but I know that he needs more support than just me. So I am calling in the troops and since it is a lot of us we are going to rally around my son for support. Our mission is to help him get through this and back in school, because he told me his isn’t ready to go back just yet. I can understand his concerns especially since we aren’t sure if they have the child in custody. To make matters worse my son told me that he knows the child because they are in the same French class together. He said the child confides in him but he never thought things were this serious. I told him to pray for him and ask the Lord to guide him and send him the necessary help he needs. People talk to your children. Listen to your children. Hear your children even when they aren’t saying anything. Don’t ignore your child’s cry for help or attention.

That’s my Monday so far, what is yours looking like. I tell you one thing I will not panic because it is Monday. I will live this day as any other but more productive than the last.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Confession Thursday – “Are You Really Happy Within Yourself?”

Goddess evening Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

I asked this question because I had a person tell me, “if my significant other can’t make me happy then why be with them?” I replied by asking them were they happy within themself. They replied with “yes I am!” Got sassy with it so then I went on to state this and this is where things got dicy. If you are happy within yourself then you significant other doesn’t need to make you happy. Their job is to provide, love, protect, care for and keep sexually satisfied. That didn’t end well for them at all.

Here’s the thing if you are happy within yourself, then no one else can steal nor make you happy. Because if you aren’t then you will feel like that person isn’t the person for you. Reason being is because you aren’t sure what happiness is so in turn you cannot be sure if that person is doing what you should be doing for yourself.

My number 1 rule is: If you aren’t making yourself happy there is no way a man or woman can do it. That now is a problem between you and your Savor.

My personal saying is: No one can be your everything and you be your nothing.

It just cannot and will not work, not in this lifetime or the next. You have to learn to be really happy within yourself before you can expect for someone not to be able to take that happiness away. So get to know you and what you like before you think that someone else can do what you haven’t been able to do for your lifetime. If you can sit by yourself and not be bored out of your mind, then that mean you are content with you and can appreciate alone time. Most people think alone time is with their homies and not with the people they love because the ones they love is the ones that is making them unhappy. Wrong! You are miserable within yourself and as soon as you come to the conclusion that this is what is making you dislike yourself and being around other the sooner you can get the necessary help you need.

Stop holding other people accountable for your misery as well as your dislike for others. That is all you and you need to face the mirror and find out why you dislike you. In order for you to dislike someone for no apparent reason mean that there is hate for yourself within you and you need to address the issue right away.

Prayer, meditation, writing, singing, or rediscovering yourself is great ways to start to find the happiness within you. Love you and be happy with you so that you can love others and be happy around and for others

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Living

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the al High.

We are just want to live on this rock. Everyone said they struggle to survive. When are we going to stop surviving and start living? I for one would like to wake to my family and say have a great and mean it without the thought of them dodging bullets, running from the police, being harrassed by the drug dealers, worrying about some high ass junkie stabbing them for money they don’t have, or being bullied. It is a shame that we have to live in a world where these are our general worries.

Remember when you were a child and you worried about school, being bullied, getting into fights, homework, classwork, test, food for the family, mommy struggles to make ends meet, daddy out here doing #GodKnowsWhat to make it happen for the family. Yeah, well guess what haven’t much changed at all. Our children go through the same things we went through as a child, and just like our parents we tell them these are grown folk’s problems. We were told the same damn thing. Then when we became teenagers our parent told us we had to find a job or help out around the house. Again nothing has changed! We just want them to learn lessons and learn to mature. I wonder if it is too much pressure. I wonder if forcing us into the struggle at an early age isn’t what makes life a survival and not a way of living.

With school being hard as hell, children being children and making poor decisions; with growing up moving so fast; with trying to find their identities; with the question being asked what are you going to do with your life when you grow up being on the table and in the back of their minds; with what you do now determine who you will be in the future being thrown in their faces; and making the right choices in life too much for children. What I noticed since nothing has changed is that we as parents and parents before us, think that children have nothing to worry about. That’s a lie! We think just because we pay the bills and buy the food as well as their clothes that they don’t have nothing to worry about but remember we are the ones that put the most pressure on them and then have the audacity to tell them that they don’t have nerves yet but wait. We frighten them into adulthood while screwing up their childhood. For a matter of fact our lives right now are the way they are because someone did the same thing to us.

It might seem like what we should do because it was done to us, but it isn’t fair. It wasn’t fair when it was done to us and it isn’t fair now that it is being done to yours. For a matter of fact I know some of you are saying I turned out just fine, but are you really okay or just getting by with what you were taught and learned along the way? Do you have moments of regret based upon the choices that were made for you? You went along with them because there were no other choices given. Now as an adult you think that if you had other options that you would have made different decision for your life? I know we pay the bills, put the food on the table, keep the roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, shoes on their feet, lights on in the house and water for drinking and cleaning, but why do we do it?

We do it for them. So why keep reminding them of it when they can see the struggle from it. They can see the hurt in our faces, the pain in our bodies and the worry in our eyes. They don’t want that for you nor for themselves. They just want to live as children right now, just like we wanted to when we were children, but the pressure is what’s overwhelming them and more now that life have changed and not for the better. We want whats best for our children but we give them what we think is best based on what you were taught by the same people who said the same thing to us. Break the cycle and really sit down and understand your children needs and feelings. We owe it to the child in us.

Maybe, just maybe we will stop struggling to survive and start #Living.

Sending you love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Manic Monday! Is Your House A Mad House?

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High. Second, HAPPY VETERAN DAY! THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR SERVICE

Is everything about your house screaming HELP ME?! Is the children running around driving you nuts? Is the animals in the house becoming too damn much? Is asking for help from your significant other becoming a battlefield not worth visiting? Is stress from work causing everything at home less tolerable?

Well just scream! Find you a quiet room and I mean don’t say words just SCREAM and then BREATHE. Watch the reaction you get from everyone when you do so. First, they are going to come to your rescue because they heard you yell. Then they are going to ask you what happened and what is wrong? DON’T SAY NOTHING! I REPEAT DON’T SAY NOTHING! Then they are going to start looking around because they themselves are sure what happened. Now they are curious as to what happened and what cause you to be either frightened or caught off guard. JUST WALK AWAY AND SAY NOTHING. This will hold there attention for a while, long enough for you to have a little piece and quiet. They will be puzzled and not know what is next.

Do this at least two to three times a day for no damn reason and they will not understand that it is the same noise that you hear from them. They will think that you are going crazy when in fact the nerve wrecking sounds of them yelling, and carrying on is what cause you to be a little disoriented in the first place. Soon or later they will understand that if they don’t yell, help take care of the animals, cleanup after themselves, eat what is giving to them and not what they think they should have, and learn to speak to one another without trying to dimension one another. This is a technique I call distraction from the norm.

Clearly, be patient, calm cool and collected isn’t working so a loud scream will do the trick. It might even alarm the neighbors especially if they never heard you yell before. They might call the police but assure them that everything is alright. Besides we don’t want another #PoliceInvolvedShooting with a homeowner or otherwise. Beside screaming and yelling release endorphins that help get the blood flowing and keep you on your toes. Also it keeps the blood pressure from going through the roof from stress of not getting things done or help with getting things done. It also prevents you from wanting to do things you normally wouldn’t do as well as get you attention so you can calmly ask for help.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Saturday Sit Down With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Last week we talked about stress while dancing around her cousin depression. This week we are going to talk about depression. First let’s define the word depression.

*Depression –

  1. feelings of severe despondency and dejection.”self-doubt creeps in and that swiftly turns to depression”

*Despondency-

  • a state of low spirits caused by loss of hope or courage:”he hinted at his own deep despondency

*Dejection

lowness of spirits

From where I stand on the whole issue it is a state of being and not a mindset. Yes we all know that the mind plays tricks on you especially when the devil is busy and you allowed him in your space. With all the definitions it still isn’t in the mind it is all in the body and spirit. Your mind however allows for you to feel this way because your body not your mind have giving up. Your spirit has been interrupted by something that is not of you and so your mind isn’t sure how to process if your body will not cooperate. It’s like broken heart, you mind is straight but your spirit will not allow you to go through that emotion again so your feelings take over and now you aren’t sure of your trust in people. Not just that one person who broke your heart but everyone. Even though everyone wasn’t involved just this one person somehow manage to take it out on everyone. Once again a state of being heart broken but it isn’t a mindset it is a feeling.

Depression is just like that, if you allow your body to die then the mind will not fight it, it will do as you body wants until your spirit is high again then your body will react to that. When we loose someone from this planet, our memories of that person don’t die just the love and life we had with them. So it isn’t in our minds that we are having the problem it’s in our hearts and spirit that take us down into darkness and despair. We still can reminisce on this person or people we loss, we can still see their face, hear their voice, and identify with their scent even when we know there aren’t there. Some ever visualize people in to spirit because we so badly need them to still be a part of us. This can’t be a mind thing because if so we would be able to do all this concentrating, the focus will be off and we wouldn’t shut down. Depression however leads to mental illness wherein we are will to cope with life anymore. We rather just give up instead of dealing. We can identify with there is a problem but we refuse to acknowledge that help is needed before we shut down completely. You refuse to let joy in where someone has suffered. It isn’t your fault and you shouldn’t allow what you remember most about this person to leave your spirit because once you do then you have giving up on theirs. In order to allow their life to continue then you should allow yours to continues so that they can live through you.

We have learned to shut our minds off so that we will not be able to live with the pain. It is not depression it is mental blockage. Once we start turning things off we go dark and then blank. We think it is easier to deal with darkness and silence then reality so there is wherein the confusion comes in. It’s like turning off the lights in the house but the bill is paid and all you have to do is slowly turn all the lights back on, but you refuse and after while you stop paying the bill and now without lights you adapt to the darkness then you get comfortable and live that state. Medication will not help and doctors know it, but they medicate you anyway. They know it has to come from within and if you don’t want out then you will die in that darkness and know one will ever know your truth, they will just say you were depressed. They will never say you suffered from a broken heart and never recovered. They will never say your spirit gave up and so you turned yourself off. They will simply say you were depressed.

Get help now because you know in your spirit, heart, and soul your need it.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Confession Thursday – Living In Your Truth

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

A lot of us refuse to live in our truth because it hurt too much. It is a mirror most of us cannot stand to look into. We know our truth but refuse to admit to it so we play dumb or try out best not to face it at all. We rather live a complete fabricated lie instead of what is real. Reality is a motherfucker and most of us will not lay down with a clear conscience. We rather knowingly lay down with a dog with fleas.

Here the thing though if you are a good for nothing type of person then be the best good for nothing type of person you can be. But if you know that you are capable of change then why not put your best foot forward and make changes in your life. No one said it will be easy to do so but wouldn’t it be better than living in a constant state of lying? Everyday you have to either remember the lie you told yesterday or make up a new one. Then after while “crying wolf” doesn’t make anyone trust you when you need them the most. Then you find another way to make it seem like all you know is fake people when you are the one that is faking it to make it.

If you are a slut then be the best slut you can be but try to make money from it and not just giving it away for a reputation. Yes, everyone call you a slut but in your head you aren’t a slut you just like flirt and fucking everyone. Well honey that makes you a little slutty, especially if there is no funds being transferred for your services. Now I am not recommending that you start selling yourself but I do recommend you stop giving it away for free to anyone who will have it. That goes double for you men. It isn’t cool for you to have community dick and think that you are going to find wifey and she not be a cheater. Reality check that is how you found her she was doing exactly what you were doing slutting around. You all might seem like the perfect couple but really you all are just havens for communicable diseases. 🤢Ewe don’t no one want any of that.

Okay we know you don’t work but do you do anything else around the house besides live off someone else? Hello, lazy ass I am talking to you! I don’t care if you live with your mother, father, niece or nephew (which is definitely a sign that you have no life), aunt; uncle, daughter or son, (clearly it might be there turn to take care of you) or cousin. All I am saying is while they are doing what they need to be doing to pay their bills what in the hell are you doing to assist? If you are think or answering nothing then you are #homeless and well I would put your ass out. Okay there is situations wherein you can’t do much and I get that. There is even more situations wherein you can’t do nothing but I am not referring to any of those situations. I am referring to those able bodies that aren’t doing anything with them. I mean the ones that can work but refuse to or those who are felons but can’t get a decent job. You need to become “Cinderella” and fast. You need to do the cook, cleaning, mending, sewing, picking up and dropping off. Grab the store list and make marketing, be the best “Cinderella” a person ever seen. Make Disney feel bad about all that “Cinderella” didn’t do. You can’t just lay around in someone else house, eating, shitting, cursing, running up the bills and do absolutely nothing. Get the fuck up and do something. I know when if you were in mine, the dishes better be done, food better be on the stove warming, the dogs and cats better been fed and walked, the house better be clean, the laundry better be done, the floors mopped, and the children home from school doing homework. There is no fuck a woman or a man think that it is okay to live off someone and not contribute at all. I’m telling you #homeless and I wouldn’t feel bad about it at all.

For those children that think that they can do no wrong in their parent’s eye and those parents who believes it; REALLY! I am not stupid and for you parents who wants to be blinded by facts, know that they have monsters because well they treat you the same way they treat people in the streets is the same way they treat you. I know that you don’t want to be believe that you have a demon seed or that your child is bad but face facts that sweet child is sour and you know it. Stop thinking that they can change without you doing your part and parenting. I mean if you laughed at his or her first curse words and didn’t correct it then it is your fault that this sour patch kid is out of control. If you watched him or her beat a child up for no reason and thought they just children then when they start beating on you, tell yourself that same shit. Don’t reach out for help when it is too late, reach when you see the warning sign that your child is a demon. Allowing it to manifest is a clear sign of bad parenting. If you work more then you parent then sorry you are a bad parent. If you shop when you should be punishing then you are a bad parent. If you are rewarding bad behavior again, bad parent. If you laugh when you should be helping, bad parent. You know better you just refuse to do better. Shame on you for allow this type of behavior to get so out of control. Then you expect the official to take over when you didn’t do in the beginning. #BadParent. Know the signs of a cry for help. No children will not come straight out and say I need help they will do everything in their power to deny it but when you see it you know it is a cry for help. They cannot explain exactly what is troubling them all they know is that there is something wrong and they need help. With what they aren’t sure so be a good parent and work with them through it, seek help if you aren’t able to help or don’t know where to begin.

This is why the world is in chaos now because no one wants to live in their truth.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Aging

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship tot he all High.

I feel like getting up in age makes me better with everything.

My patience is better now. When I was younger, I had no time for anything or anyone. It was all about me and I focused on me and what I wanted to do. As time when on I noticed that my siblings were falling behind in life so I had to find time to give them to make sure they got the proper quality time they needed to make them better in life. Then my parents started moving out of their lives and so I moved right in. I can’t say it was for the best though, but I did what I could and some times it was hard. Now that we are older they tell me that I was mean but they get it now. They told me as children they wish that our parents were better at taking care of them because I was a dictator. I told them that I was a child raising children. I only knew what I knew and that was how my parents treated me. They said that now that they have children they get it now. They can sympathize and empathize with me. Then they reminded me that I told them that when they were little. “Wait until you have children you will see why my patients is none existing.” Well they had to find out the hard way and now they can relate. Children will try your patience if they try noting else.

Then having your own life is a hard thing to do when you have children or assisting someone else with raising their children. After while it seems to weigh heavy on you, like you don’t want to or can’t do it anymore. You learn things about yourself that you never knew as well as don’t like. You even find ways to like yourself after you found out you don’t like something about your actions. Anything and everything helps when dealing with children. You definitely need to know how to divide yourself so that giving your all won’t overwhelm you at all. I know first hand that you need time for yourself. I know that isn’t a realistic thing but find it, even if it is a few minutes out of a day, wherein, you can just take a deep breath and breathe in the silence. Allow your body to become relaxed as well as your mind. For a few minutes a day, clear your mind of all thoughts and just relax. Don’t worry or stress about what needs to be done, just smile on the things that have already been done. Then let it all go. when you are relax, it will all come to you in a manner of order and not of chaos. It will show up where in you can accomplish it step by step. We are getting old not young people and our bodies will show if it doesn’t tell us.

Now that I am well in my 40’s my days are less stressful because I take a few minutes a day to think about me, not about everyone else and what everyone else needs, just me. I focus on me and what I need and what I want. I just take a moment to collect my thoughts on me. Did I eat today? Did I do all I wanted to do today for me? Do I have anything else I need to do for me before I get started on finishing what everyone else need? If no is my answer then I find time to do what I need for me. Then I proceed to carry out the mission of those who I love but I do remember me in the course of my day.

Remember without you there is no us. There is only them. So make time for yourself and enjoy life, you only get one.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove