Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.
Lets jump straight into it shall we. How many of you all think you are in a one on one relationship only to find out you’re not? Well don’t be discourage because a lot of people found that out over the Valentine Day extravaganza, that they are in multiple situations. This is why this holiday doesn’t hold water to me. Yes I know I always get something and this year made no difference, but in reality if I didn’t get anything I wouldn’t be disappointed. I mean I get gifts and love 365 days a year so one day will not destroy me in any way.
What I do understand is that this is all that most have to look forward to and that is because this is what they allow. Is this your fault? Yes and no. I say that because you didn’t get involved in your life or your relationship. What you have been doing in belonging into a relationship or an endless marriage but not involved. I know you all do so much together, but how many of you share the deepest darkest secrets? How many of you know what your mate is doing when you decide to do you? Think about it, if you think you are getting away with it, so do she or he. When you think that you are in this committed relationship and find out that you are in a triangle web of lies is horrifying. When you find out that there is multiple partners involved is more devastating. When there is a child now present that wasn’t there when you met. When there is a boyfriend wherein you thought you were the husband or a girlfriend wherein you thought you vowed your life to him forever. When you find out an ex is a still ongoing thing and now you are the side piece. I see it all the time and much too often. How about when you find out that everyone knew but you? Then you blame everyone for not telling you about it. Please open your own damn eyes to see the truth and not hide behind what is given to you or what is being said to you. Yes, anyone can say that they love you but if they aren’t showing it then that’s where the problem lye. Why do you make it someone else’s business to get in your life, love and relationship? When they are there you then tell them to mind their business when isn’t beneficial to you. Then question their loyalty when it is hurtful only because you didn’t want to hear it in the beginning. Well my friends we all stand in our own way to shame the hurt and cover up the pain. We force ourselves to believe that there is no way this person could do this to me. “Not after all I have done for them!” “Not after all I have given up for them!” “Not after what I have given them!” “Not when I could have been with or loved, or done or did!” My question to you is why didn’t you just go with your instincts? Because you got in your own way and thought you could change a person instead of just moving to the side and allow nature to take it course. We have that I am better than; I can make you feel; I know I have; I am the right person syndrome and come to find out you weren’t. Your aren’t or weren’t the better; You couldn’t make them feel; You didn’t have; and of course they end up with someone else still.
The problem is no communication. People are afraid to ask the hard questions. Are you seeing someone else? Is there a new child I need to know about? Where is you loyalty and love in this relationship? Is there new skeletons I need to be aware of? Make bold statements like, I scheduled both of us for STD testing. I am going to the doctors with you and no I will not sit in the waiting room. There is no confidentiality when it comes to my health and we are married or in a committed relationship. I do it all the time. I tell my mate come go in the room with me and be there for the examination. There is no secrets when it come to me. If we are sharing bodily fluids we might as well share a doctors appointment, health report, dental visit, eye examination, or specialist visit. People say there are in a relationship and then do everything by themselves. Reason for uncertainty and secrecy. Not me I am an open book and invite my mate to all my appointments, even Gynecology because if anything is different then you made it different. I don’t play with my health, life, family, love, or money and yes in that order. So get all involved in your life, love, health, and family business. Because at the end of the day it matters to you as well. Do not rely on someone who barely holds their head up when speaking to you the truth to tell you the truth. Because I know that I am who I am and I am not here to make your feel better and me feel worse. I am not here to make life better for you while I live like shit. I am not here to play guessing games with my life, health, nor this relationship. I am here to better us and if there is no us then I surely know how to leave for the better. I am not going to throw dirt on your name because that isn’t in my character. I will however, turn a blind eye when you see the grass wasn’t greener. I will however, forgive you for your ignorance. I will however, continue to wish you the best of luck because you did me a favor. You help me dodge you; that bullet that is killing that current relationship. Thank you for showing me a different side of the mirror. I only saw the reflection I wanted to see and not the image that was stirring back.
Your life is in your hands so don’t just give someone the power of your freedom, love, health, journey, nor destiny. Don’t allow anyone to decide when any of it is over. You are your director, publicity, narrator, producer, writer and critic. So feel free to live your life like you think it should go and not how someone else views it. Get Involved in your relationships, marriage, family, home, and life. If you don’t someone else will!
Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove