Confession Thursday – “Are You Really Happy Within Yourself?”

Goddess evening Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

I asked this question because I had a person tell me, “if my significant other can’t make me happy then why be with them?” I replied by asking them were they happy within themself. They replied with “yes I am!” Got sassy with it so then I went on to state this and this is where things got dicy. If you are happy within yourself then you significant other doesn’t need to make you happy. Their job is to provide, love, protect, care for and keep sexually satisfied. That didn’t end well for them at all.

Here’s the thing if you are happy within yourself, then no one else can steal nor make you happy. Because if you aren’t then you will feel like that person isn’t the person for you. Reason being is because you aren’t sure what happiness is so in turn you cannot be sure if that person is doing what you should be doing for yourself.

My number 1 rule is: If you aren’t making yourself happy there is no way a man or woman can do it. That now is a problem between you and your Savor.

My personal saying is: No one can be your everything and you be your nothing.

It just cannot and will not work, not in this lifetime or the next. You have to learn to be really happy within yourself before you can expect for someone not to be able to take that happiness away. So get to know you and what you like before you think that someone else can do what you haven’t been able to do for your lifetime. If you can sit by yourself and not be bored out of your mind, then that mean you are content with you and can appreciate alone time. Most people think alone time is with their homies and not with the people they love because the ones they love is the ones that is making them unhappy. Wrong! You are miserable within yourself and as soon as you come to the conclusion that this is what is making you dislike yourself and being around other the sooner you can get the necessary help you need.

Stop holding other people accountable for your misery as well as your dislike for others. That is all you and you need to face the mirror and find out why you dislike you. In order for you to dislike someone for no apparent reason mean that there is hate for yourself within you and you need to address the issue right away.

Prayer, meditation, writing, singing, or rediscovering yourself is great ways to start to find the happiness within you. Love you and be happy with you so that you can love others and be happy around and for others

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Wednesday – Is This Really What You/I Need?

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

There are times when we really want more than we can handle. When we get it we ask why God put all this on us. Never realizing that we put this on ourselves. God had nothing to do with your own sabatosh. We then find other avenues or people to point the finger too. Still no ones fault but your own. We are afraid to admit when we have caused our own demise; it is better just to find someone to blame for our mistakes. Just take a break from what is causing you to doubt yourself and then ask yourself; “Is this really what you need?” Ask it as if someone else if posing the question. Then turn around and repeat the question; asking for yourself this time. “Is this really what I need?”

You know what you want and what you want from it but is what you need even in the picture. We tend to think that somehow the two are the same when in fact they are very much different.

“What I want?” Based on what you see but not necessary what you need. You just want it because it is either the latest trend, idea look, with get you the attention you really don’t want, or is what someone else has. Or the biggest and most problematic thing of all, to show others I can afford it. Of \course you could afford it at the time but then you didn’t need it so now it is costing you and you can’t handle it.

“What I need?” This is going to enhance what I already have in place. This will increase my flow, marketing, and strategy to get further. I will have enough capital to create more. This will make my life a lot better and I will be able to do more than I have ever done. Profits will soar and my opportunities will increase and 100 fold.

See the difference isn’t what others see, it is what you see. It makes life better when you know what you need versus what you want. Stop focusing on what others have so you can get what you really need. Your wants will be covered by your needs as long as you wants aren’t ahead of your needs.

Note* People will be your friend because of their wants while tearing down your needs. People will praise your downfall, but hate your come up. This method applies to those who claim you as well as those who dismiss you. Ask yourself is this person someone I want in my circle or someone that I need in my circle? If you can’t decide then ask the hardest question of all. What do they bring to my circle that make them worthy of my presence? If still you can’t come up with nothing then that person is a want and yes, they can be fun to be around but they aren’t a necessity and so they really only get the attention you want them to have which is little to none.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Sunday, Let’s Talk Food With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Proper Proportions

I know we all like to eat but for some, they love to eat. This isn’t something new, some people even made a career out of it, as well just enjoy it. Obesity though is also something that isn’t new and well something that is deadly to those who each out of control, either for a disorder or “just because they love it.” I am not criticizing anyone for their love of food nor their weight but I do want to see you all as I pass by and know that you will be there and not just remember this is where I meet you but you are no longer with us, for this exact reason.

The love of food isn’t a bad thing but it could be a took much thing. When it comes down to eating I can tell you this, eating until you are stuffed isn’t the way to go. It is more than okay to save some for later, or take it with you to go. Let me tell you what my biggest problem is, when I cook I manage to overcook so my family over eats. I tell them though you don’t have to eat it all here, you are more then entitled to take some home for later or the next day meal. All you have to do is stick it in the over to warm it up. For those who can’t wait, the microwave maybe your friend, but either way don’t overdo it just because it is there. I only bring this up because the holiday is upon us and I know that a lot of us will be cooking for Thanksgiving I just want everyone safe and around for years to come.

Not everyone knows how to cook healthy and that is fine. This is when control should come in place. A serving spoon of everything is more then enough to satisfy everyone. I know that they will come back for second helpings but that when you need to let them know that you made it in a to go plate and they should leave room for desert. This isn’t mean just helping with control, if you know that they have none.

My dinner for Thanksgiving usually consist of :

  1. 26lb Turkey
  2. 15lb or more of Ham
  3. Roast Duck or Lamb
  4. Fried Cabbage
  5. Baked Macaroni and Cheese
  6. Shrimp Macaroni Salad
  7. Candy Yams
  8. Pasta Salad
  9. Mixed Greens
  10. Corn on the Cob
  11. Mashed Potatoes or Baked Potatoes
  12. Sauerkraut
  13. Chitterlings
  14. Crab Cakes or Crab balls
  15. Strawberry Short Cake
  16. Pineapple Upside down Cake
  17. Lemon Pound Cake
  18. Sweet Potato Pie
  19. Apple Pie
  20. Ice cream at least three flavors
  21. Berry Berry Surprise
  22. Variety of Drinks
  23. Variety of Breads
  24. Bread Pudding
  25. Rice Pudding

It sounds like a lot but I always manage to leave off dishes for the Christmas holidays. With all this food, I serve in Proper Proportions just to make sure everyone gets enough and save room for desert. I know it is a heart attack waiting to happen. Reason I only spurge on this holiday any other day I am eating healthy and my family hates it. They can’t wait for this holiday to get here. It is the only time I go crazy with sugar. This holiday will be death of someone if I let them go crazy eating out of control. So, on this day, I don’t use and serving spoon of food but half that size just for portion control. They appreciate me for it in the long run but hate me right then and there for it. It doesn’t bother me, I just ignore them and move on to the next person.

A eating disorder or obesity isn’t nothing to laugh at nor disregard or to dismiss easily and if you know someone who could use help. Please by all means help them to keep them around. Love them wherein they are not loving themselves. Over eating and snacking leads to a lifetime of heart ache, disappointment, state of depression, devastation and most of all dead. Let’s keep our love one close and full of life.

Only because I care do I tell you to eat smaller portions even if you decide not to eat healthy, that is on you. It can save your life.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Confession Thursday – Living In Your Truth

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

A lot of us refuse to live in our truth because it hurt too much. It is a mirror most of us cannot stand to look into. We know our truth but refuse to admit to it so we play dumb or try out best not to face it at all. We rather live a complete fabricated lie instead of what is real. Reality is a motherfucker and most of us will not lay down with a clear conscience. We rather knowingly lay down with a dog with fleas.

Here the thing though if you are a good for nothing type of person then be the best good for nothing type of person you can be. But if you know that you are capable of change then why not put your best foot forward and make changes in your life. No one said it will be easy to do so but wouldn’t it be better than living in a constant state of lying? Everyday you have to either remember the lie you told yesterday or make up a new one. Then after while “crying wolf” doesn’t make anyone trust you when you need them the most. Then you find another way to make it seem like all you know is fake people when you are the one that is faking it to make it.

If you are a slut then be the best slut you can be but try to make money from it and not just giving it away for a reputation. Yes, everyone call you a slut but in your head you aren’t a slut you just like flirt and fucking everyone. Well honey that makes you a little slutty, especially if there is no funds being transferred for your services. Now I am not recommending that you start selling yourself but I do recommend you stop giving it away for free to anyone who will have it. That goes double for you men. It isn’t cool for you to have community dick and think that you are going to find wifey and she not be a cheater. Reality check that is how you found her she was doing exactly what you were doing slutting around. You all might seem like the perfect couple but really you all are just havens for communicable diseases. 🤢Ewe don’t no one want any of that.

Okay we know you don’t work but do you do anything else around the house besides live off someone else? Hello, lazy ass I am talking to you! I don’t care if you live with your mother, father, niece or nephew (which is definitely a sign that you have no life), aunt; uncle, daughter or son, (clearly it might be there turn to take care of you) or cousin. All I am saying is while they are doing what they need to be doing to pay their bills what in the hell are you doing to assist? If you are think or answering nothing then you are #homeless and well I would put your ass out. Okay there is situations wherein you can’t do much and I get that. There is even more situations wherein you can’t do nothing but I am not referring to any of those situations. I am referring to those able bodies that aren’t doing anything with them. I mean the ones that can work but refuse to or those who are felons but can’t get a decent job. You need to become “Cinderella” and fast. You need to do the cook, cleaning, mending, sewing, picking up and dropping off. Grab the store list and make marketing, be the best “Cinderella” a person ever seen. Make Disney feel bad about all that “Cinderella” didn’t do. You can’t just lay around in someone else house, eating, shitting, cursing, running up the bills and do absolutely nothing. Get the fuck up and do something. I know when if you were in mine, the dishes better be done, food better be on the stove warming, the dogs and cats better been fed and walked, the house better be clean, the laundry better be done, the floors mopped, and the children home from school doing homework. There is no fuck a woman or a man think that it is okay to live off someone and not contribute at all. I’m telling you #homeless and I wouldn’t feel bad about it at all.

For those children that think that they can do no wrong in their parent’s eye and those parents who believes it; REALLY! I am not stupid and for you parents who wants to be blinded by facts, know that they have monsters because well they treat you the same way they treat people in the streets is the same way they treat you. I know that you don’t want to be believe that you have a demon seed or that your child is bad but face facts that sweet child is sour and you know it. Stop thinking that they can change without you doing your part and parenting. I mean if you laughed at his or her first curse words and didn’t correct it then it is your fault that this sour patch kid is out of control. If you watched him or her beat a child up for no reason and thought they just children then when they start beating on you, tell yourself that same shit. Don’t reach out for help when it is too late, reach when you see the warning sign that your child is a demon. Allowing it to manifest is a clear sign of bad parenting. If you work more then you parent then sorry you are a bad parent. If you shop when you should be punishing then you are a bad parent. If you are rewarding bad behavior again, bad parent. If you laugh when you should be helping, bad parent. You know better you just refuse to do better. Shame on you for allow this type of behavior to get so out of control. Then you expect the official to take over when you didn’t do in the beginning. #BadParent. Know the signs of a cry for help. No children will not come straight out and say I need help they will do everything in their power to deny it but when you see it you know it is a cry for help. They cannot explain exactly what is troubling them all they know is that there is something wrong and they need help. With what they aren’t sure so be a good parent and work with them through it, seek help if you aren’t able to help or don’t know where to begin.

This is why the world is in chaos now because no one wants to live in their truth.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Wednesday – Getting Through the Week!

Goddess morning Royals. first, give praise and worship to the all High.

So Sunday was supposed to be a relaxing but of course there was a hiccup, but all in all it turned out to be a not so bad day. You got to eat with the family and if not then Sundays are suppose to be time with the family. #SundayIsFunday. Remember spending time with the family strengthens the bond between parents and children, grandparents and grandchildren, aunts and uncles, nieces and nephews. It give the family time to vent as well as time to heel from such a long week and to start off the new week with a fresh start. Monday is the day that everyone hates because it is when you have to be either a parent for real and an employee in someone’s company or a student in someone’s school and if you are the boss you have to manage people whom you probably wish you could just fire, but then who will build the empire. It is the day when you know you have to be somewhere doing something after such a relaxing day on Sunday. You didn’t prepare for Monday and if you did, kudos to you for being ready for the world at large. Now take the bubbly attitude to work and spread the cheer. If you didn’t prepare and is in a horrible mood allow someone else to be your sunshine where you feel the darkness and clouds. Don’t go anywhere to rain on someone else’s parade. Tuesday means that Monday already happened and there is probably a lot of work you didn’t do yesterday because you weren’t feeling it. So now you have to make up for it all today. However, you did make it in on time because you had time to vent and relax after working and studying yesterday. Plus you already know that Tuesday was coming so you had time to get yourself ready for this day, even if you didn’t do it for Monday.

Now we are at the best day of the work week; Wednesday, because we know that Friday isn’t that far away. Which mean the weekend is almost near. It is a shame that this is the only day that make us feel as though we have done something worth while. It is the day when we are feeling better about our jobs as well as our family life. It is the day that they children is excite about because most school do a half day for learning. They are most excited about Wednesdays because they get to slack off on Thursday so they can prepare for Friday. I know that it seem as though I am being too much but look at the children on a Monday and then on a Wednesday. It is like they know something we don’t. Then turn around and look at them on Friday and they are totally different children. I promise you getting over that hump; the middle of the week; is more exciting for them then it is for us as parents. Just remember just like that the week is over when Wednesday is over.

Anyway #HappyHumpDay and enjoy it.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Aging

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship tot he all High.

I feel like getting up in age makes me better with everything.

My patience is better now. When I was younger, I had no time for anything or anyone. It was all about me and I focused on me and what I wanted to do. As time when on I noticed that my siblings were falling behind in life so I had to find time to give them to make sure they got the proper quality time they needed to make them better in life. Then my parents started moving out of their lives and so I moved right in. I can’t say it was for the best though, but I did what I could and some times it was hard. Now that we are older they tell me that I was mean but they get it now. They told me as children they wish that our parents were better at taking care of them because I was a dictator. I told them that I was a child raising children. I only knew what I knew and that was how my parents treated me. They said that now that they have children they get it now. They can sympathize and empathize with me. Then they reminded me that I told them that when they were little. “Wait until you have children you will see why my patients is none existing.” Well they had to find out the hard way and now they can relate. Children will try your patience if they try noting else.

Then having your own life is a hard thing to do when you have children or assisting someone else with raising their children. After while it seems to weigh heavy on you, like you don’t want to or can’t do it anymore. You learn things about yourself that you never knew as well as don’t like. You even find ways to like yourself after you found out you don’t like something about your actions. Anything and everything helps when dealing with children. You definitely need to know how to divide yourself so that giving your all won’t overwhelm you at all. I know first hand that you need time for yourself. I know that isn’t a realistic thing but find it, even if it is a few minutes out of a day, wherein, you can just take a deep breath and breathe in the silence. Allow your body to become relaxed as well as your mind. For a few minutes a day, clear your mind of all thoughts and just relax. Don’t worry or stress about what needs to be done, just smile on the things that have already been done. Then let it all go. when you are relax, it will all come to you in a manner of order and not of chaos. It will show up where in you can accomplish it step by step. We are getting old not young people and our bodies will show if it doesn’t tell us.

Now that I am well in my 40’s my days are less stressful because I take a few minutes a day to think about me, not about everyone else and what everyone else needs, just me. I focus on me and what I need and what I want. I just take a moment to collect my thoughts on me. Did I eat today? Did I do all I wanted to do today for me? Do I have anything else I need to do for me before I get started on finishing what everyone else need? If no is my answer then I find time to do what I need for me. Then I proceed to carry out the mission of those who I love but I do remember me in the course of my day.

Remember without you there is no us. There is only them. So make time for yourself and enjoy life, you only get one.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Sunday, Let’s Talk Food with Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Healthy Food

Tropical Fruits can be used for replacing snacks. They can be eaten dried, fresh or in a salad.

Ascerola Cherry, Apricot, Avocado, Banana, Breadfruit, Kiwi, Carambola, Cantaloupe, Cassava Melon< Cherimoya, Coconut, Dates, Figs, Crandilla Fruit, Guava, Jackfruit, Jujube, Kumquat, Loquat, Mamey, Mango, Papaw, Papaya, Pineapple, Pitanga, Plabtain, Pomegranate, Plum, Quince, Sapote, Soursop, Tamarind.

Breakfast:

Wake to a fresh cup of water to clear the digestive track and clean toxins and mucous build-up. Wait 30 to 40 minutes before eating breakfast. Rolled oats can be eaten for breakfast with vegetable or fruit juice instead of water. Flax seeds or flax seeds meal slightly heated in oatmeal milk, are also good for breakfast. * Drink one glass of fruit juice.

Lunch:

Should be eaten between 10 am and 2 pm; especially one high in fats or protein. Make lunch the heaviest meal of the day.

Dinner:

Brown rice and cauliflower. Sprinkle with Brewer’s yeast, and peanut flour, (may also use peanut butter. Add water so it will pour easier).

Snack

Dried fruit or fresh fruit.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove