Saturday Sit Down With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Last week we talked about stress while dancing around her cousin depression. This week we are going to talk about depression. First let’s define the word depression.

*Depression –

  1. feelings of severe despondency and dejection.”self-doubt creeps in and that swiftly turns to depression”

*Despondency-

  • a state of low spirits caused by loss of hope or courage:”he hinted at his own deep despondency

*Dejection

lowness of spirits

From where I stand on the whole issue it is a state of being and not a mindset. Yes we all know that the mind plays tricks on you especially when the devil is busy and you allowed him in your space. With all the definitions it still isn’t in the mind it is all in the body and spirit. Your mind however allows for you to feel this way because your body not your mind have giving up. Your spirit has been interrupted by something that is not of you and so your mind isn’t sure how to process if your body will not cooperate. It’s like broken heart, you mind is straight but your spirit will not allow you to go through that emotion again so your feelings take over and now you aren’t sure of your trust in people. Not just that one person who broke your heart but everyone. Even though everyone wasn’t involved just this one person somehow manage to take it out on everyone. Once again a state of being heart broken but it isn’t a mindset it is a feeling.

Depression is just like that, if you allow your body to die then the mind will not fight it, it will do as you body wants until your spirit is high again then your body will react to that. When we loose someone from this planet, our memories of that person don’t die just the love and life we had with them. So it isn’t in our minds that we are having the problem it’s in our hearts and spirit that take us down into darkness and despair. We still can reminisce on this person or people we loss, we can still see their face, hear their voice, and identify with their scent even when we know there aren’t there. Some ever visualize people in to spirit because we so badly need them to still be a part of us. This can’t be a mind thing because if so we would be able to do all this concentrating, the focus will be off and we wouldn’t shut down. Depression however leads to mental illness wherein we are will to cope with life anymore. We rather just give up instead of dealing. We can identify with there is a problem but we refuse to acknowledge that help is needed before we shut down completely. You refuse to let joy in where someone has suffered. It isn’t your fault and you shouldn’t allow what you remember most about this person to leave your spirit because once you do then you have giving up on theirs. In order to allow their life to continue then you should allow yours to continues so that they can live through you.

We have learned to shut our minds off so that we will not be able to live with the pain. It is not depression it is mental blockage. Once we start turning things off we go dark and then blank. We think it is easier to deal with darkness and silence then reality so there is wherein the confusion comes in. It’s like turning off the lights in the house but the bill is paid and all you have to do is slowly turn all the lights back on, but you refuse and after while you stop paying the bill and now without lights you adapt to the darkness then you get comfortable and live that state. Medication will not help and doctors know it, but they medicate you anyway. They know it has to come from within and if you don’t want out then you will die in that darkness and know one will ever know your truth, they will just say you were depressed. They will never say you suffered from a broken heart and never recovered. They will never say your spirit gave up and so you turned yourself off. They will simply say you were depressed.

Get help now because you know in your spirit, heart, and soul your need it.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Confession Thursday – Living In Your Truth

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

A lot of us refuse to live in our truth because it hurt too much. It is a mirror most of us cannot stand to look into. We know our truth but refuse to admit to it so we play dumb or try out best not to face it at all. We rather live a complete fabricated lie instead of what is real. Reality is a motherfucker and most of us will not lay down with a clear conscience. We rather knowingly lay down with a dog with fleas.

Here the thing though if you are a good for nothing type of person then be the best good for nothing type of person you can be. But if you know that you are capable of change then why not put your best foot forward and make changes in your life. No one said it will be easy to do so but wouldn’t it be better than living in a constant state of lying? Everyday you have to either remember the lie you told yesterday or make up a new one. Then after while “crying wolf” doesn’t make anyone trust you when you need them the most. Then you find another way to make it seem like all you know is fake people when you are the one that is faking it to make it.

If you are a slut then be the best slut you can be but try to make money from it and not just giving it away for a reputation. Yes, everyone call you a slut but in your head you aren’t a slut you just like flirt and fucking everyone. Well honey that makes you a little slutty, especially if there is no funds being transferred for your services. Now I am not recommending that you start selling yourself but I do recommend you stop giving it away for free to anyone who will have it. That goes double for you men. It isn’t cool for you to have community dick and think that you are going to find wifey and she not be a cheater. Reality check that is how you found her she was doing exactly what you were doing slutting around. You all might seem like the perfect couple but really you all are just havens for communicable diseases. 🤢Ewe don’t no one want any of that.

Okay we know you don’t work but do you do anything else around the house besides live off someone else? Hello, lazy ass I am talking to you! I don’t care if you live with your mother, father, niece or nephew (which is definitely a sign that you have no life), aunt; uncle, daughter or son, (clearly it might be there turn to take care of you) or cousin. All I am saying is while they are doing what they need to be doing to pay their bills what in the hell are you doing to assist? If you are think or answering nothing then you are #homeless and well I would put your ass out. Okay there is situations wherein you can’t do much and I get that. There is even more situations wherein you can’t do nothing but I am not referring to any of those situations. I am referring to those able bodies that aren’t doing anything with them. I mean the ones that can work but refuse to or those who are felons but can’t get a decent job. You need to become “Cinderella” and fast. You need to do the cook, cleaning, mending, sewing, picking up and dropping off. Grab the store list and make marketing, be the best “Cinderella” a person ever seen. Make Disney feel bad about all that “Cinderella” didn’t do. You can’t just lay around in someone else house, eating, shitting, cursing, running up the bills and do absolutely nothing. Get the fuck up and do something. I know when if you were in mine, the dishes better be done, food better be on the stove warming, the dogs and cats better been fed and walked, the house better be clean, the laundry better be done, the floors mopped, and the children home from school doing homework. There is no fuck a woman or a man think that it is okay to live off someone and not contribute at all. I’m telling you #homeless and I wouldn’t feel bad about it at all.

For those children that think that they can do no wrong in their parent’s eye and those parents who believes it; REALLY! I am not stupid and for you parents who wants to be blinded by facts, know that they have monsters because well they treat you the same way they treat people in the streets is the same way they treat you. I know that you don’t want to be believe that you have a demon seed or that your child is bad but face facts that sweet child is sour and you know it. Stop thinking that they can change without you doing your part and parenting. I mean if you laughed at his or her first curse words and didn’t correct it then it is your fault that this sour patch kid is out of control. If you watched him or her beat a child up for no reason and thought they just children then when they start beating on you, tell yourself that same shit. Don’t reach out for help when it is too late, reach when you see the warning sign that your child is a demon. Allowing it to manifest is a clear sign of bad parenting. If you work more then you parent then sorry you are a bad parent. If you shop when you should be punishing then you are a bad parent. If you are rewarding bad behavior again, bad parent. If you laugh when you should be helping, bad parent. You know better you just refuse to do better. Shame on you for allow this type of behavior to get so out of control. Then you expect the official to take over when you didn’t do in the beginning. #BadParent. Know the signs of a cry for help. No children will not come straight out and say I need help they will do everything in their power to deny it but when you see it you know it is a cry for help. They cannot explain exactly what is troubling them all they know is that there is something wrong and they need help. With what they aren’t sure so be a good parent and work with them through it, seek help if you aren’t able to help or don’t know where to begin.

This is why the world is in chaos now because no one wants to live in their truth.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Aging

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship tot he all High.

I feel like getting up in age makes me better with everything.

My patience is better now. When I was younger, I had no time for anything or anyone. It was all about me and I focused on me and what I wanted to do. As time when on I noticed that my siblings were falling behind in life so I had to find time to give them to make sure they got the proper quality time they needed to make them better in life. Then my parents started moving out of their lives and so I moved right in. I can’t say it was for the best though, but I did what I could and some times it was hard. Now that we are older they tell me that I was mean but they get it now. They told me as children they wish that our parents were better at taking care of them because I was a dictator. I told them that I was a child raising children. I only knew what I knew and that was how my parents treated me. They said that now that they have children they get it now. They can sympathize and empathize with me. Then they reminded me that I told them that when they were little. “Wait until you have children you will see why my patients is none existing.” Well they had to find out the hard way and now they can relate. Children will try your patience if they try noting else.

Then having your own life is a hard thing to do when you have children or assisting someone else with raising their children. After while it seems to weigh heavy on you, like you don’t want to or can’t do it anymore. You learn things about yourself that you never knew as well as don’t like. You even find ways to like yourself after you found out you don’t like something about your actions. Anything and everything helps when dealing with children. You definitely need to know how to divide yourself so that giving your all won’t overwhelm you at all. I know first hand that you need time for yourself. I know that isn’t a realistic thing but find it, even if it is a few minutes out of a day, wherein, you can just take a deep breath and breathe in the silence. Allow your body to become relaxed as well as your mind. For a few minutes a day, clear your mind of all thoughts and just relax. Don’t worry or stress about what needs to be done, just smile on the things that have already been done. Then let it all go. when you are relax, it will all come to you in a manner of order and not of chaos. It will show up where in you can accomplish it step by step. We are getting old not young people and our bodies will show if it doesn’t tell us.

Now that I am well in my 40’s my days are less stressful because I take a few minutes a day to think about me, not about everyone else and what everyone else needs, just me. I focus on me and what I need and what I want. I just take a moment to collect my thoughts on me. Did I eat today? Did I do all I wanted to do today for me? Do I have anything else I need to do for me before I get started on finishing what everyone else need? If no is my answer then I find time to do what I need for me. Then I proceed to carry out the mission of those who I love but I do remember me in the course of my day.

Remember without you there is no us. There is only them. So make time for yourself and enjoy life, you only get one.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Saturday Sit Down With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

There is so many issues plaguing us in this day and time, but we aren’t certain how to deal with them, who can we turn to or who can we trust with our problems. We know that keeping things inside hiding our feelings and not acting on our emotions will cause us stress which in case cause us harm; like mental illness, depression, heart attacks, kidney failure, diabetes, liver malfunction and more. Why because either we eat too much or not enough.

There is no real balance when stress is the headliner. It is the number one killer within the black community, but it doesn’t show favoritism. Stress causes health problems in all races, nationalities and communities. It is just black people have a problem with learning to coop with it more than others. We have way of making it more than what it really is and then worry more about it than doing something about it. I know because I see and have witnessed it first hand.

I have stressed about an issue or two that when I look back on it, was so minor that I didn’t have to waste that much time on worry about it. Then as I think back I could have done something a lot sooner than when i did to resolve the issue. But me being me I allow it to manifest into something way more than it was. Now that I try my best not to stress about anything or worry myself to death about issues. I am now try to help my children not worry or stress either. Here are a few things I do when I think that I am going to stress or worry myself over an issue that may seem big but could be minor.

  1. Take a deep breath.
  2. Look at it from another point of view.
  3. Weigh my odds on if it needs attention now or could it wait.
  4. If it needs immediate attention then I give it just enough attention but don’t allow it to weigh me down.
  5. I put it in a perspective of importance so that I will know the level of attention it will require.
  6. Then I come up with 3 and only 3 ways of solving it. Starting at the most high, then medium and last the least. *What I don’t do is I don’t give it another option because that is where the stress come in. Three is the limit.
  7. After that I predict the outcome of the three and the one that is less stressful it where i start. If the high is less stress then that is where I go, but if the less is the least amount of stress then that is my option. Either way I don’t go the stress factor and allow it to manifest into more than I can handle.
  8. Then when it is done and I feel as though I have accomplished what needed to be done about it, I immediately put it away as completed. I don’t revisit it with the idea that maybe I should have done, also that is allowing it to manifest into worry which leads to stress.
  9. Just put it away! It is done and you should be satisfied. But if you are a person who is always worry about things after you have done something about it then you need professional help because you are going to have a nervous breakdown or a heart attack.
  10. Once again let it go. It is done and over with.

If all you can do is worry about one thing what is going on in your life about the other things that is really important, health, family, living, and most of all enjoying life. Remember breathing is the key to life and if you are holding your breathe just so that you can worry then you are killing yourself that in which is worrying you.

Until next Saturday with the “Saturday Sit Down.”

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

The Family Bond! The Journey

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Chapter 10.  The Family Journey

Now that we have established some rules and highlighted things that we know is bad.  We can now be on a greater path to continuous living.  Of course, this journey will have great obstacles but we been through diverse situations before and pulled through.  Now the healing begins and shall continue on through our seeds and those forth coming. 

We have empowered our minds, souls, and spirits.  Our bodies are no longer withered with drugs and alcohol or tarred from tobacco.  We are looking clean, clear, and confident that the future will and shall change.  We are saying no to “society” and yes to reality.  Giving the community and the village a thumb’s up.

We are putting our families first again and starting a new.  Fresh ideas and making sense of them, while implementing them.  Our streets are safer for our children.  They are able to play in them.  We as women and men are able to walk through them proudly.  The streets are clean, trash cans are on every corner.  Children have manners and are respectful.  The village is forming a new and lives are changing for the better.  Help is in every neighborhood and a friend in every door way.  Smiles are brighter, hearts are healthier, thoughts are purified.  The past is at our backs and the future is in our sights. 

We are no longer bound and gagged by “society,” nor are we enslaved in our own mind.  We have been set free and will remain so.  For this is a new day for us and when we find ourselves in trouble or heading backwards, the village will grab our hand and tell us to hold on, “we got you.”  We have reclaimed our thrones as Kings and Queens and shall not be removed ever again, only to pass the torch to our Princesses and Princes. 

We have shut out negativity and brought in love and prosperity in its’ place.  We may not always be happy but we are far from destruction walking our path again.  We have seen the past creep up from behind us and try to make us revert back to our ancestors. 

We know there will be trials and tribulations but we will face them together as a nation.  Only then can we keep the devil himself out of our homes, lives, and communities.  No man’s an island, no man stands alone.  

As a nation, again we stand for justice, against “society,” brutality.  We fight against “society’s” poison into the Black communities.  We build our own homes, financially back our own people.  We recycle our money throughout own communities.  We farm and grow our own fruit and vegetables.  We open the doors to educating our own children properly.   We focus on their future as well as ours.  We plan ahead for uncertainties.

There is no more I in our Team.  From this day forth we are the people for the people, by the people, loving the people, and understanding the people.  The real Gods and Goddess have return to stand with and not above or beyond the people but side by side. 

We are a colorful, flavorful nation in all shapes and size.  We no longer mess with what Mother Earth has blessed us with.  We take pride in our bodies and enjoy life.  We are no longer consumed by what “society” think is healthy, beauty, pretty, or good enough according to their standards and rules.  We all are beautiful and healthy in our own ways.

We are producing movies, and banking for ourselves, carrying the weight of our people together as a nation should.  We are no longer concerned with the punishment of your God for the Higher Power has delivered us and we serve a high power than what is written in your book.  Our religion is not based upon hate but full of love and understanding with acceptance and joy.  We no longer poisoning our children with your cures which leads to death anyway.  No longer will we be plagued by your rules and violations that lead to our demise.  No longer will we be persecuted or discouraged by your suppression. 

Oppression is no longer a vocabulary word we fear nor hold in a sentence.  Your ways are done and my people are proud to be who they are.  We are a multitude of colors in a variety of shades, but we are no longer divided into light skin and dark skin people.  We are no longer separated or segregated into field niggers and house niggers.  We are black proud people South Africans and South African Americans.  We are one nation under the Higher Power and Savior.  Understand we are proud people no matter the circumstance, we learned to hold our heads up high with nothing long time ago, but we have more than we think we have.  We have enriched knowledge and understanding of our lives and ancestors for we have done the research and pass what they wanted us to know but more of what we needed to know.  So even when we have nothing, we still have something, but now we have a reason to always keep our heads held high because we are bettering ourselves and accomplishing more.  We are loving and caring more for our people.  We are no longer harming the next man for what he has because we have as well.  We have the power, respect, and money to buy what we want when we want. 

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

The Family Bond!

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

So, if we aren’t watching over our children and guiding them with a strong and safe heart, the predators are watching them and can’t wait until they are vulnerable enough to strike.  They lead our children right from our homes with promises that what they can offer will be better.  Our children not knowing that we punish them and discipline them because we love them, believe that these predators can offer more.  When they find out that they have been tricked, it’s too late.  We need to educate our children of the seriousness of these monsters and speak to them on matters that already happened.  Show them all these children that are exploited every day and are taken from their families to do God knows what to whom or vice versa to have God knows what done to them.  Be very careful and mindful that not all people are good and not all people are evil.  Educate them and teach them how to recognize the difference between the two. 

Like I said education starts at home, because it begins in the womb. 

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Yesterday a child was kidnapped from her parent’s car at a traffic light! A week ago a 2 years and 3 years old was shot, both fighting for their lives. A three years old was kidnapped from a party and later found dead by officials. In Baltimore alone 100 children from the ages of 12 -17 have been shot or murdered on these streets. There are thousands upon thousands of missing children across this world. Where are the morals and values for the future. Why is it that our children doesn’t stand a chance of survival in this world? I wish I could say it was all at the hands of others, but I would be lying. We, the people have to believe in the people in order to have a future. Otherwise, all we shall ever have is the past and death, history is teaching us that.

I saw first hand yesterday, wherein a boy; because I cannot in good faith call him a man; approached me and my mechanic with intentions of harming us. I asked him what was the problem and his clearly stated to me that my mechanic keeps looking at him funny. I asked him is that your reason for coming into our space. He said I can go where I please. I told him this is almost true, but you cannot violate someone else’s space and think that they are supposed to say something or look at you to understand why you are within their comfort zone. He told me that my mechanic should apologize and stop looking at him. I told him to move on with all that nonsense because no one is dying here today nor are we for the bull. He then walked away but not without provoking the situation. I told my mechanic to pack up because there is no way I am going to allow him to do harm to you nor I. He was allured to the idea of harming him now in the line of self defense. I told him that, that will not be necessary because I am a peace maker if nothing else. I sent my mechanic away as well as the boy. I checked on my mechanic and he is doing fine, still a little heated but I told him had the situation escalated that he wouldn’t be able to tell me that he is just a little heated. He would have either been dead or in jail for nothing when clearly this man wanted something that we both refused to give him reason to harm either of us. #MakeADifference not a scene.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

The Family Bond! Chapter 9…Segment 6.

Goddess morning Royals. First, gie praise and worship to the all High.

I was down and out for the count last week. I do apologize for the delay and the lack of warning for the posts. Something nasty had came over me an had me in here feeling like a steam roller ran me over. I was sick beyond reason so I rested and now I am back and ready to finish our journey.

We as people must learn a different strategy to living in order to be a better nation of people.  Our strategy is to just fold and submit.  We can no longer submit to those who oppose us, enslave us, beat us, demoralize us, nor humiliate us.  We have to be smarter because we are smarter.  We are the race they fear, we are the creators and inventors of all things unearthly.  We believe in a higher being just not the one they want us to believe in.

For me the biggest part of slavery for slaves was;

F – Frightened of their surroundings and their captives.

E – Emotionally cried for familiarity.

A – Afraid for the life of their love one more than their own.

R – Run to where or whom? To have worst done than what is being done or have less than they were given.

Being force into a strange land and not knowing the outcome of where to go, what to do, or who to trust, created a safe haven in their master/captives.  Obedience became a necessity and submission became the only choice.  I believe this is the same reason our people live the way they do now.  Afraid of rocking the boat, afraid that their captive will no longer take care of them.  Afraid for their lives they rather hurt one another than to have the massive upset, but if your only fear the unknown, because who are the massive, then that make you just as stupid as you are afraid.  If you’re not sure of who you are, how can you be sure of who they are?  For all you know you could be the massive.

If you learn nothing else in this life learn how not to give your life to the system.  Once they have you, they will never want to let go.  They always will refer to that one incident or think nothing more for you than a criminal.  You may have some that understand that you were in the wrong place at the wrong time, but not very many.  Your past will come to haunt your life, your future is calling on it.

With all your wisdom, your ability to learn and grow, your desire of freedom, your pleasure of calling your own shots, your motivation for better; stay out of the system.  Do your part so that you can show our youngsters that being tough isn’t about going to jail, no that is easy, being tough is about staying out of trouble and out of jail!

Because as we all know it is easy to get into trouble but hard as hell to stay out of it or it’s way; not to mention get out of it once you’re in it.  Teaching and educating our children shouldn’t be a challenge it should be an everyday thing like feeding them, “a necessity.”

As a child growing up in Baltimore, crime was specific to men only, meaning no one killed women and children.  You had a curfew not by the city or state but by your parents.  Had to be on the steps by time the street lights came on or else.  You knew to respect your elders and mind your P’s and Q’s (your own business).  Stay out of grown folks faces and conversations.  Children should be seen and not heard unless spoken is a rule but not such a great rule any longer.  *This is how I see predators getting to the children without them being able to tell parents about it.  Learn something new every day.  Once on the block that’s where you stay until it was time to go in for bed.

Saturday morning chores was washing the house, clothes, mop the floors, doing the dishes and bathe.  Clean the steps, sweep the front, and windows.  Then you could go anywhere, if you said where and be back before night fall.  Sunday was church no, if, and or butts about it.  Monday – Friday was school or learning depending on the season.

Summers was extra fun, because as long as we were on the block and moms or dads of the village was out, we could be outside.  Once there were no adults you had to go in.  Now days all that’s out the window.  Children don’t want to learn, they don’t want to do chores, they don’t want to respect home so out in the street is out of the question.  They don’t play games because technology is killing their brain cells.  All they want is the latest technology and to share all their personal business on social media.  Then have the audacity to say someone is snitching on them. Child bye!  Hello!  Stupid social media is a tracking station for stupidity.  If you stop doing stupid and idiotic bullshit then you wouldn’t think that someone have time to snitch on you.  Then you know there are cameras everywhere you go and that “society” is watching everything you do.  So how can say someone is snitching, dummy you snitched on yourself.

Anyone who share stupid, illegal situations are being tracked straight to the front door. 

While we are on the subject of educating our children, how about we teach them manners and how to use them.  Respect could take them a long way and we all know that.  Teach them how to speak to people and that “huh”, or “sup” is not a proper way to speak to an adult who opens their mouth to speak to them. 

“Hello, Good Morning, Good Afternoon, Good Evening,” proper ways of addressing someone.  Also, teach them that when entering a room or walking pass someone that speaking will not hurt them at all.  The same way we are learning a new; our children should also be learning a new.  Teach our young men to pull up their pants and not advertise their home life to all.  If they need to vent then they should learn to vent to you or a family member and not complete strangers.  When children open this door, and allow strangers into their lives they become prey and all types of things starts to happen in which they are not equipped to handle.  Now if they are a part of that trusting village that you have built then yes, sure go right ahead and vent to the village but if not, then family it is.  Teach our young women to dress appropriate so they don’t have to worry about uninvited or unwarranted attention from predators or perverts. 

Remember child predators likes both sex and all ages and doesn’t really care who knows it. 

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove