Goddess morning Royals 👑. First give praise and worship to the all High.
So I’ve been conversing with several people and they admitted they want change but several of things haven’t accepted the idea of change. I have friends who always believe there’s good in everyone they meet but come to realize it isn’t.
Some know how to move on but others well they beat the dead horse hoping it jumps up and gallop to freedom. I tell them it’s dead what else is there after death? No one can answer because none have died and came back. Exactly, once it’s dead, end it and move on. I know easier said than done. It is better than wrecking your life and brain about it. There is nothing no one can do from the moment on but to let death be that; the end. Instead you keep trying in an relationship that’s never going to go anywhere just because you are afraid of being alone. You keep working in a dead end job with no line to promotions, increase in pay or credit for your work. You keep allowing yourself the same pity party and want everyone to attend. You keep doing the same thing that makes you miserable only because you are afraid to try new things or accept change. You want so much to do and live differently but afraid to step out of your old pattern. You have become accustomed to defeat, pity, self loathing, failure, and misery that you don’t know what happiness is anymore.
Admitting when you have taken on more than you can handle is excepting your change. Some people put it on themselves and then wonder why God is allowing all this stress when in fact it is you and not God. You have to learn to take responsibility for your own actions and not always think it is the High putting something out for you to achieve. Sometimes obstacles are put in your way by those you affiliate yourself with and not by God. Meaning you allow others to put their burdens on you and instead of telling them to work it out you take them on. That’s not accepting change that’s just stupidity on your behalf. Give them people back their problems and deal with your own issues. Stop trying to be the savior when you’re only the messenger. Know your position in others lives so you won’t be overwhelmed in yours. You’re not always the root; sometimes you are just a leaf sent to help that tree nourish. Is not up to you if they will or not. You aren’t supposed to pick this person up from the ground you are supposed to encourage them to get up and that’s it.
You will know the ones that you are supposed to go beyond for when it’s your turn to be the savior and no longer the messenger. See if you don’t know when to be what to whom then you overwhelm yourself and fail at it all. Not everything that’s broken need you to fix it and not everything that’s fix needs to be encouraged. Sometimes fixed people needs to be broken in order to know their worth and broken people needs to stay broken to find their strength to be whole again. Stop meddling where your not needed and ignoring where you are! It’s not your place to fix everyone you come encounter with because some just need a listen ear to hear them. If they already have the solution to their problems then allow them to solve it. Don’t jump in and make it about you when it isn’t. Say your peace and be done with it, whether encouraging or not just be done with it. Don’t start beating that dead horse you know isn’t going to move. If what you spoke was the truth and from the heart it will either get heard or fall on death ears either way you done your part.
Don’t beat yourself up when you see that person spiral out of control either because that maybe what they need to get themselves together. You aren’t in charge of their life nor their death. You don’t know their destiny so don’t interfere where you don’t belong. I’m not saying standby and watch anyone die but their death might be someone else’s wake up call. You can’t stop it all you can do is delay it at that moment but if death is their destiny then it will happen. Knowing your role will sustain your strength, love, life, mentality, mental health, and pain. Accepting your role will guide you to where you are needed to assist growth in the right person life.
Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove