Confession Thursday – “Are You Really Happy Within Yourself?”

Goddess evening Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

I asked this question because I had a person tell me, “if my significant other can’t make me happy then why be with them?” I replied by asking them were they happy within themself. They replied with “yes I am!” Got sassy with it so then I went on to state this and this is where things got dicy. If you are happy within yourself then you significant other doesn’t need to make you happy. Their job is to provide, love, protect, care for and keep sexually satisfied. That didn’t end well for them at all.

Here’s the thing if you are happy within yourself, then no one else can steal nor make you happy. Because if you aren’t then you will feel like that person isn’t the person for you. Reason being is because you aren’t sure what happiness is so in turn you cannot be sure if that person is doing what you should be doing for yourself.

My number 1 rule is: If you aren’t making yourself happy there is no way a man or woman can do it. That now is a problem between you and your Savor.

My personal saying is: No one can be your everything and you be your nothing.

It just cannot and will not work, not in this lifetime or the next. You have to learn to be really happy within yourself before you can expect for someone not to be able to take that happiness away. So get to know you and what you like before you think that someone else can do what you haven’t been able to do for your lifetime. If you can sit by yourself and not be bored out of your mind, then that mean you are content with you and can appreciate alone time. Most people think alone time is with their homies and not with the people they love because the ones they love is the ones that is making them unhappy. Wrong! You are miserable within yourself and as soon as you come to the conclusion that this is what is making you dislike yourself and being around other the sooner you can get the necessary help you need.

Stop holding other people accountable for your misery as well as your dislike for others. That is all you and you need to face the mirror and find out why you dislike you. In order for you to dislike someone for no apparent reason mean that there is hate for yourself within you and you need to address the issue right away.

Prayer, meditation, writing, singing, or rediscovering yourself is great ways to start to find the happiness within you. Love you and be happy with you so that you can love others and be happy around and for others

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Wednesday – Is This Really What You/I Need?

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

There are times when we really want more than we can handle. When we get it we ask why God put all this on us. Never realizing that we put this on ourselves. God had nothing to do with your own sabatosh. We then find other avenues or people to point the finger too. Still no ones fault but your own. We are afraid to admit when we have caused our own demise; it is better just to find someone to blame for our mistakes. Just take a break from what is causing you to doubt yourself and then ask yourself; “Is this really what you need?” Ask it as if someone else if posing the question. Then turn around and repeat the question; asking for yourself this time. “Is this really what I need?”

You know what you want and what you want from it but is what you need even in the picture. We tend to think that somehow the two are the same when in fact they are very much different.

“What I want?” Based on what you see but not necessary what you need. You just want it because it is either the latest trend, idea look, with get you the attention you really don’t want, or is what someone else has. Or the biggest and most problematic thing of all, to show others I can afford it. Of \course you could afford it at the time but then you didn’t need it so now it is costing you and you can’t handle it.

“What I need?” This is going to enhance what I already have in place. This will increase my flow, marketing, and strategy to get further. I will have enough capital to create more. This will make my life a lot better and I will be able to do more than I have ever done. Profits will soar and my opportunities will increase and 100 fold.

See the difference isn’t what others see, it is what you see. It makes life better when you know what you need versus what you want. Stop focusing on what others have so you can get what you really need. Your wants will be covered by your needs as long as you wants aren’t ahead of your needs.

Note* People will be your friend because of their wants while tearing down your needs. People will praise your downfall, but hate your come up. This method applies to those who claim you as well as those who dismiss you. Ask yourself is this person someone I want in my circle or someone that I need in my circle? If you can’t decide then ask the hardest question of all. What do they bring to my circle that make them worthy of my presence? If still you can’t come up with nothing then that person is a want and yes, they can be fun to be around but they aren’t a necessity and so they really only get the attention you want them to have which is little to none.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Living

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the al High.

We are just want to live on this rock. Everyone said they struggle to survive. When are we going to stop surviving and start living? I for one would like to wake to my family and say have a great and mean it without the thought of them dodging bullets, running from the police, being harrassed by the drug dealers, worrying about some high ass junkie stabbing them for money they don’t have, or being bullied. It is a shame that we have to live in a world where these are our general worries.

Remember when you were a child and you worried about school, being bullied, getting into fights, homework, classwork, test, food for the family, mommy struggles to make ends meet, daddy out here doing #GodKnowsWhat to make it happen for the family. Yeah, well guess what haven’t much changed at all. Our children go through the same things we went through as a child, and just like our parents we tell them these are grown folk’s problems. We were told the same damn thing. Then when we became teenagers our parent told us we had to find a job or help out around the house. Again nothing has changed! We just want them to learn lessons and learn to mature. I wonder if it is too much pressure. I wonder if forcing us into the struggle at an early age isn’t what makes life a survival and not a way of living.

With school being hard as hell, children being children and making poor decisions; with growing up moving so fast; with trying to find their identities; with the question being asked what are you going to do with your life when you grow up being on the table and in the back of their minds; with what you do now determine who you will be in the future being thrown in their faces; and making the right choices in life too much for children. What I noticed since nothing has changed is that we as parents and parents before us, think that children have nothing to worry about. That’s a lie! We think just because we pay the bills and buy the food as well as their clothes that they don’t have nothing to worry about but remember we are the ones that put the most pressure on them and then have the audacity to tell them that they don’t have nerves yet but wait. We frighten them into adulthood while screwing up their childhood. For a matter of fact our lives right now are the way they are because someone did the same thing to us.

It might seem like what we should do because it was done to us, but it isn’t fair. It wasn’t fair when it was done to us and it isn’t fair now that it is being done to yours. For a matter of fact I know some of you are saying I turned out just fine, but are you really okay or just getting by with what you were taught and learned along the way? Do you have moments of regret based upon the choices that were made for you? You went along with them because there were no other choices given. Now as an adult you think that if you had other options that you would have made different decision for your life? I know we pay the bills, put the food on the table, keep the roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, shoes on their feet, lights on in the house and water for drinking and cleaning, but why do we do it?

We do it for them. So why keep reminding them of it when they can see the struggle from it. They can see the hurt in our faces, the pain in our bodies and the worry in our eyes. They don’t want that for you nor for themselves. They just want to live as children right now, just like we wanted to when we were children, but the pressure is what’s overwhelming them and more now that life have changed and not for the better. We want whats best for our children but we give them what we think is best based on what you were taught by the same people who said the same thing to us. Break the cycle and really sit down and understand your children needs and feelings. We owe it to the child in us.

Maybe, just maybe we will stop struggling to survive and start #Living.

Sending you love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Manic Monday! Is Your House A Mad House?

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High. Second, HAPPY VETERAN DAY! THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR SERVICE

Is everything about your house screaming HELP ME?! Is the children running around driving you nuts? Is the animals in the house becoming too damn much? Is asking for help from your significant other becoming a battlefield not worth visiting? Is stress from work causing everything at home less tolerable?

Well just scream! Find you a quiet room and I mean don’t say words just SCREAM and then BREATHE. Watch the reaction you get from everyone when you do so. First, they are going to come to your rescue because they heard you yell. Then they are going to ask you what happened and what is wrong? DON’T SAY NOTHING! I REPEAT DON’T SAY NOTHING! Then they are going to start looking around because they themselves are sure what happened. Now they are curious as to what happened and what cause you to be either frightened or caught off guard. JUST WALK AWAY AND SAY NOTHING. This will hold there attention for a while, long enough for you to have a little piece and quiet. They will be puzzled and not know what is next.

Do this at least two to three times a day for no damn reason and they will not understand that it is the same noise that you hear from them. They will think that you are going crazy when in fact the nerve wrecking sounds of them yelling, and carrying on is what cause you to be a little disoriented in the first place. Soon or later they will understand that if they don’t yell, help take care of the animals, cleanup after themselves, eat what is giving to them and not what they think they should have, and learn to speak to one another without trying to dimension one another. This is a technique I call distraction from the norm.

Clearly, be patient, calm cool and collected isn’t working so a loud scream will do the trick. It might even alarm the neighbors especially if they never heard you yell before. They might call the police but assure them that everything is alright. Besides we don’t want another #PoliceInvolvedShooting with a homeowner or otherwise. Beside screaming and yelling release endorphins that help get the blood flowing and keep you on your toes. Also it keeps the blood pressure from going through the roof from stress of not getting things done or help with getting things done. It also prevents you from wanting to do things you normally wouldn’t do as well as get you attention so you can calmly ask for help.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Sunday, Let’s Talk Food With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Proper Proportions

I know we all like to eat but for some, they love to eat. This isn’t something new, some people even made a career out of it, as well just enjoy it. Obesity though is also something that isn’t new and well something that is deadly to those who each out of control, either for a disorder or “just because they love it.” I am not criticizing anyone for their love of food nor their weight but I do want to see you all as I pass by and know that you will be there and not just remember this is where I meet you but you are no longer with us, for this exact reason.

The love of food isn’t a bad thing but it could be a took much thing. When it comes down to eating I can tell you this, eating until you are stuffed isn’t the way to go. It is more than okay to save some for later, or take it with you to go. Let me tell you what my biggest problem is, when I cook I manage to overcook so my family over eats. I tell them though you don’t have to eat it all here, you are more then entitled to take some home for later or the next day meal. All you have to do is stick it in the over to warm it up. For those who can’t wait, the microwave maybe your friend, but either way don’t overdo it just because it is there. I only bring this up because the holiday is upon us and I know that a lot of us will be cooking for Thanksgiving I just want everyone safe and around for years to come.

Not everyone knows how to cook healthy and that is fine. This is when control should come in place. A serving spoon of everything is more then enough to satisfy everyone. I know that they will come back for second helpings but that when you need to let them know that you made it in a to go plate and they should leave room for desert. This isn’t mean just helping with control, if you know that they have none.

My dinner for Thanksgiving usually consist of :

  1. 26lb Turkey
  2. 15lb or more of Ham
  3. Roast Duck or Lamb
  4. Fried Cabbage
  5. Baked Macaroni and Cheese
  6. Shrimp Macaroni Salad
  7. Candy Yams
  8. Pasta Salad
  9. Mixed Greens
  10. Corn on the Cob
  11. Mashed Potatoes or Baked Potatoes
  12. Sauerkraut
  13. Chitterlings
  14. Crab Cakes or Crab balls
  15. Strawberry Short Cake
  16. Pineapple Upside down Cake
  17. Lemon Pound Cake
  18. Sweet Potato Pie
  19. Apple Pie
  20. Ice cream at least three flavors
  21. Berry Berry Surprise
  22. Variety of Drinks
  23. Variety of Breads
  24. Bread Pudding
  25. Rice Pudding

It sounds like a lot but I always manage to leave off dishes for the Christmas holidays. With all this food, I serve in Proper Proportions just to make sure everyone gets enough and save room for desert. I know it is a heart attack waiting to happen. Reason I only spurge on this holiday any other day I am eating healthy and my family hates it. They can’t wait for this holiday to get here. It is the only time I go crazy with sugar. This holiday will be death of someone if I let them go crazy eating out of control. So, on this day, I don’t use and serving spoon of food but half that size just for portion control. They appreciate me for it in the long run but hate me right then and there for it. It doesn’t bother me, I just ignore them and move on to the next person.

A eating disorder or obesity isn’t nothing to laugh at nor disregard or to dismiss easily and if you know someone who could use help. Please by all means help them to keep them around. Love them wherein they are not loving themselves. Over eating and snacking leads to a lifetime of heart ache, disappointment, state of depression, devastation and most of all dead. Let’s keep our love one close and full of life.

Only because I care do I tell you to eat smaller portions even if you decide not to eat healthy, that is on you. It can save your life.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Saturday Sit Down With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Last week we talked about stress while dancing around her cousin depression. This week we are going to talk about depression. First let’s define the word depression.

*Depression –

  1. feelings of severe despondency and dejection.”self-doubt creeps in and that swiftly turns to depression”

*Despondency-

  • a state of low spirits caused by loss of hope or courage:”he hinted at his own deep despondency“

*Dejection

lowness of spirits

From where I stand on the whole issue it is a state of being and not a mindset. Yes we all know that the mind plays tricks on you especially when the devil is busy and you allowed him in your space. With all the definitions it still isn’t in the mind it is all in the body and spirit. Your mind however allows for you to feel this way because your body not your mind have giving up. Your spirit has been interrupted by something that is not of you and so your mind isn’t sure how to process if your body will not cooperate. It’s like broken heart, you mind is straight but your spirit will not allow you to go through that emotion again so your feelings take over and now you aren’t sure of your trust in people. Not just that one person who broke your heart but everyone. Even though everyone wasn’t involved just this one person somehow manage to take it out on everyone. Once again a state of being heart broken but it isn’t a mindset it is a feeling.

Depression is just like that, if you allow your body to die then the mind will not fight it, it will do as you body wants until your spirit is high again then your body will react to that. When we loose someone from this planet, our memories of that person don’t die just the love and life we had with them. So it isn’t in our minds that we are having the problem it’s in our hearts and spirit that take us down into darkness and despair. We still can reminisce on this person or people we loss, we can still see their face, hear their voice, and identify with their scent even when we know there aren’t there. Some ever visualize people in to spirit because we so badly need them to still be a part of us. This can’t be a mind thing because if so we would be able to do all this concentrating, the focus will be off and we wouldn’t shut down. Depression however leads to mental illness wherein we are will to cope with life anymore. We rather just give up instead of dealing. We can identify with there is a problem but we refuse to acknowledge that help is needed before we shut down completely. You refuse to let joy in where someone has suffered. It isn’t your fault and you shouldn’t allow what you remember most about this person to leave your spirit because once you do then you have giving up on theirs. In order to allow their life to continue then you should allow yours to continues so that they can live through you.

We have learned to shut our minds off so that we will not be able to live with the pain. It is not depression it is mental blockage. Once we start turning things off we go dark and then blank. We think it is easier to deal with darkness and silence then reality so there is wherein the confusion comes in. It’s like turning off the lights in the house but the bill is paid and all you have to do is slowly turn all the lights back on, but you refuse and after while you stop paying the bill and now without lights you adapt to the darkness then you get comfortable and live that state. Medication will not help and doctors know it, but they medicate you anyway. They know it has to come from within and if you don’t want out then you will die in that darkness and know one will ever know your truth, they will just say you were depressed. They will never say you suffered from a broken heart and never recovered. They will never say your spirit gave up and so you turned yourself off. They will simply say you were depressed.

Get help now because you know in your spirit, heart, and soul your need it.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Freaky Friday – How Do You Like To Be Sexed?

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

This is a question that most people don’t even want to know the answer to. They just figure they know how to fuck so they are going to do them and see if that is a good fit for you. Most don’t even know what they like about sex but the end result. If you know your body and what you like about your body, you will not allow anyone to mistreat it just for their satisfaction. You will take pride in making sure getting there was worth the trip. I understand that most never really had the good experience in the course of the sex life but now that you are older what is your preference. What is it that make you want a man or a woman? What makes you want to hold out until the end? What makes you stand out from the rest of the people this person could be sexing right now? If you say the head game is wicked, then that’s what it is. Here’s the question, is it the same for all the people you give it to and if so, it can’t be wicked? I tell you why, if it was wicked the last thing you would want to do is give it to every person you meet. If it was that you claim to fame then you will be afraid that giving it to wrong person would cause you harm. Note* Not everyone can handle awesome sex and it will literally drive a person insane if it is wicked. It will make a person do bodily harm to anyone who thinks that you are available for the challenge, but most of all they will kill you if they think you are giving it away like that. More often than you think most people who is weak minded think that your sex game is the truth, but if it is what you say it is, you should have a group of followers that will claim for you the fame. They will literally want to fight each other and everyone for what you have to offer. This isn’t a dis it is an acknowledgement that you can’t sex everyone the same because if you do the that mean you have no real sex life just few good moves.

When sexing the next person do understand how to make that person crazy you when you aren’t around. The art of make love or performing sex well is literally make that person know their are the only person that exist. I mean when you leave them they believe that the universe just made love to them. Their mind should always remember that first time with you and never ever forget even if you don’t end with them that you made them feel like life started with them. It’s about living up to the fantasy in their head and making them believe that they have lived the moment in their life wherein they won everything, even when they lost everything.

Good sex or great loving making is about allowing that person a part of you that you can never take back. It’s about making them wish that this moment is forever and no one can take this moment from them. When it is done they have no regrets and that this time will never end. It’s about making a person who you have sex with everyday fell like it’s the first time every time. It’s about a connection of the mind, body and spirit. It’s about two DNA’s inhabiting one soul. It’s like the destiny isn’t the end game but the forever game. When you exit that person life it will take a life time of apologies to get you back or a life time to find someone who make them feel like you made them feel.

I would say it is like rainbows and explosion but it isn’t. It is like a war and even though you have no idea why you are fighting you aren’t leaving until the other person respect what you have to offer. Except the deal or in that moment which up the game and make a different offer but don’t leave without knowing you did what you came to do and that is be remembered. Yeah, I can admit winning the war sound great but if all you got was the nut then what war was won and who won it. If both of you came but neither of you remember any of it or want more than that moment; then who won?

See with me, my goal is when I am not around and you think of me not only do you get hard but you cum as well. Because that whole connection have your body remembering what happened, and how sensual it was when we connected. I want you to be in a state of trans, ready to transition into eternal bliss. I don’t sex everyone the same because everyone is not the same. I watch your moves, I pickup on your tone, I discover your enemies and destroy them. In the moment we are together, you have no worries, no problems exist, there is no job you want to get to, there is no time of day. There is only you and I. You aren’t sure what is real and what isn’t it. You remember me even if we are only here for a one night stand. You carry my DNA like it is a gift from GOD himself. You crave me like your life depends on it and believe it or not I have sworn affidavits that will confirm my abilities, but like I said not everyone get it the same.

I know how I like to be sexed and I do ask questions about what your preferences are and how you like to be handled. Once I have a scope on you then, it’s about you. I know how to be get me where I want to be so all I need to do is get you right there with me.

Now do you like rough or soft; fast or slow; freaky or regular; left or right; upside down, or do you like to ride, in public or private, laying;down or standing up, with one person or multiples, different position or straight to it; foreplay or oral; dress up for the strip down or role play; will a nice dance turn you on or will a good song set the mood; on or back or all fours? Are you will to share this information with others or do you prefer for them to find out the hard way? Are you aggressive or passive? Do you take the lead or like to be led? Do you suck in the middle, beginning or end? Do you talk or are you quiet? Do you moan or just wish it was over already? Do you swallow or spit? Are you giving or getting? Are you a top or bottom? Knowing who you are and what you want will make a difference in being remembered or forgotten. It’s all up to you!!

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove