Timeless Tuesday! Quality Time With The Children

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Have you ever spent quality time with the children doing the things they wanted to do? Have you ever gave in to their wants and allowed them full control of what they wanted to do as a family? Or have you give them the options of doing what you think children should be doing and as long as your money was paying for it that was what they were going to do?

When asking the question what do you want to do as a family allow them to tell you and then do what they suggested. As long as it is legal why not? If they just want to go to the mall and hang out do that. If they want to go shopping and get their nails and toes done do that. If they want to go to the Arcade then do that. If they want to lay around and do nothing but watch tv, well get you ass on the couch and do nothing with them.

While you all are out, do not and I mean do not embarrass them! I can not express this enough, if you do they will never trust you with anything else. Be cool and laid back, they will not try anything stupid especially if you are one of those parents that don’t play. If you play it cool you will learn friends, hangouts, foes (even if they can’t see them), potential girlfriends or boyfriends, hobbies, and their lifestyle I know you don’t think they have one.

Sometimes we just need to enter their world. No not force your way into their life but enter their world so that we as parent can understand our children. We need to know what they are into and what they like to do when we aren’t around. It is still parenting but you are learning who your children are. No don’t become a best friend to them but be that person that they can trust to come to you with everything, honestly. If they want to drink and smoke then you need to march their ass to rehab and fast. That is a cry for help, especially if they are underage. Peer pressure is one thing but if they think they can drink and smoke with you that is a whole other issue that needs to be address. Like the lack of respect that they have for you knowing you are their parent, but if you haven’t been doing much parenting then that is another day for another discussion. If you have been trying to be their friend more than their parent you have lost the battle and the war already, as a parent. There is no turning that around at all.

So make family night about them and not about what you as a parent want to do but including them. No not this time make about them and let them feel like they are including you. They will respect and love you more for being a part of their life and not having to alway be apart of yours. In doing so you will learn signs of when your child is going through things that aren’t for them, like depression, anger, hate, peer pressure, bullying, frustration, broken heart, liking another person of the same sex or the opposite. Yeah I know fears we don’t want to face but as parent we need to address. In turn they learn things like family values, who they can trust with issues and concerns instead of trying to turn to their friends for the answers. They also learn techniques of how to deal with things on another scale and understand who really got their backs.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Manic Monday! Don’t Panic It’s Monday!

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

I know this is my topic for today, but I am only writing it because my son experienced something dramatic Friday and made him dread Monday. You want to talk panic! On Friday my son’s school had to experience a threat of a mass shooting.

It was too many police on Friday when I dropped him off to school. He said Ma it looks like our school was in another school on school fight again. I ask him do he get involved in those fights and he told me no. He said I have no beef with no one at another school, because I have friends that goes to those other schools. Looking at how many officers were on the perimeter I told him no this is something else. I told him to find out just in case I had to come back and get him. He got out and an hour later he calls me and tell me I need to come get him because he fear for his life.

I didn’t even want to know what was going on at that time so I rushed to the school to get him. While I was driving he calls me back and say Ma, there is a child here talking of shooting up the school, that’s why the police was on the campus today. I couldn’t even thing at that moment. I know that the night before a 14 years old had shoot several people in a school in California. Prayer are with the family and the victims of that shooting and all of the previous shootings. SideBar: What is going on with our parents that we can’t see the hurt and distress before it comes to a mass shooting? Why is it that we choose to ignore the signs of a mentally disturb child or an abused child until something tragic happens?

I got to the school and was as calm as possible. It was still several police on the campus and I asked them if the situation resolved and one of them said yes but the other said the perpetrator is being sought. Which to me means no. I am not one to blame anyone but those who needs the blame and well I didn’t have have time at that moment. The only person on my mind is my son who was in the bathroom with his cellphone calling me for help. I got him and got out of there. I wasn’t the only one, I saw about 50 other parents getting there children as well.

Now today is Monday, Manic Monday at that and his nerves are all over the place. I am dealing with the situation but I know that he needs more support than just me. So I am calling in the troops and since it is a lot of us we are going to rally around my son for support. Our mission is to help him get through this and back in school, because he told me his isn’t ready to go back just yet. I can understand his concerns especially since we aren’t sure if they have the child in custody. To make matters worse my son told me that he knows the child because they are in the same French class together. He said the child confides in him but he never thought things were this serious. I told him to pray for him and ask the Lord to guide him and send him the necessary help he needs. People talk to your children. Listen to your children. Hear your children even when they aren’t saying anything. Don’t ignore your child’s cry for help or attention.

That’s my Monday so far, what is yours looking like. I tell you one thing I will not panic because it is Monday. I will live this day as any other but more productive than the last.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Saturday Sit Down With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Death is just a scary word! Everyone wants to go to heaven but not all wants to talk about how they are going to get there. In order to see the Savor you first must move on from the vessel that enclose your spirit. We all know that our vessel is just clothing for the soul and when we take off that fabric finally, that we will not be putting it back on. Our will might be weak but our destiny is strong. It has to come to an end and we all know it but when, I think, is what scares people so much.

I say don’t sit around and think about it nor wait for it. Go out and live within your vessel the best you know how until the day you no longer need your clothing to keep your spirit covered. When your spirit is ready to be exposed to the world, they will not be torn by your vessel but rejoiced by your soul. I think it is only hurtful when people haven’t really understood your purpose in their lives, so they missed their opportunity to know of their own purpose. They can’t find themselves and haven’t found themselves by the time you are ready to shed your fabric. They question death because they aren’t sure when their time is but have no reason to understand why your time is now.

Yes the feeling of losing someone is uneased and very painful but if you really stop and think about it, you haven’t loss them they just transitioned into their next chapter and now you must focus on your story. We cannot live our lives through someone else’s book and think when their story ends so do ours. It isn’t like that! This just mean that you weren’t paying attention to your story being written because your eyes was on someone else’s book. Stop try to step in their success or life and direct, publish, narrate and produce your own story. You never know what extraordinary things you might leave for others to read. Who knows your story might change or direct someone else life into learning to write their story and making it a novel no one can put down.

So when death comes knocking don’t be afraid to open the door because it just mean that another chapter is about to happen for you so that someone else can tell your story in a way no one will believe. It can’t all be fairytales and rainbows, sometimes it has to be horror and thrillers, with a side of danger and mystery. It is all up to you how your story goes, but how it ends will never die with you. There will alway be someone to tell what they have been told or experienced being in your chapters. So in fact your story lives on and on and on. It gets better with each person that tells their part or how they remember it for themselves.

Remember Death is only to be absent in the body but present in the spirit. Let’s see what your story is about and who will tell it as great as it is.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Living

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the al High.

We are just want to live on this rock. Everyone said they struggle to survive. When are we going to stop surviving and start living? I for one would like to wake to my family and say have a great and mean it without the thought of them dodging bullets, running from the police, being harrassed by the drug dealers, worrying about some high ass junkie stabbing them for money they don’t have, or being bullied. It is a shame that we have to live in a world where these are our general worries.

Remember when you were a child and you worried about school, being bullied, getting into fights, homework, classwork, test, food for the family, mommy struggles to make ends meet, daddy out here doing #GodKnowsWhat to make it happen for the family. Yeah, well guess what haven’t much changed at all. Our children go through the same things we went through as a child, and just like our parents we tell them these are grown folk’s problems. We were told the same damn thing. Then when we became teenagers our parent told us we had to find a job or help out around the house. Again nothing has changed! We just want them to learn lessons and learn to mature. I wonder if it is too much pressure. I wonder if forcing us into the struggle at an early age isn’t what makes life a survival and not a way of living.

With school being hard as hell, children being children and making poor decisions; with growing up moving so fast; with trying to find their identities; with the question being asked what are you going to do with your life when you grow up being on the table and in the back of their minds; with what you do now determine who you will be in the future being thrown in their faces; and making the right choices in life too much for children. What I noticed since nothing has changed is that we as parents and parents before us, think that children have nothing to worry about. That’s a lie! We think just because we pay the bills and buy the food as well as their clothes that they don’t have nothing to worry about but remember we are the ones that put the most pressure on them and then have the audacity to tell them that they don’t have nerves yet but wait. We frighten them into adulthood while screwing up their childhood. For a matter of fact our lives right now are the way they are because someone did the same thing to us.

It might seem like what we should do because it was done to us, but it isn’t fair. It wasn’t fair when it was done to us and it isn’t fair now that it is being done to yours. For a matter of fact I know some of you are saying I turned out just fine, but are you really okay or just getting by with what you were taught and learned along the way? Do you have moments of regret based upon the choices that were made for you? You went along with them because there were no other choices given. Now as an adult you think that if you had other options that you would have made different decision for your life? I know we pay the bills, put the food on the table, keep the roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, shoes on their feet, lights on in the house and water for drinking and cleaning, but why do we do it?

We do it for them. So why keep reminding them of it when they can see the struggle from it. They can see the hurt in our faces, the pain in our bodies and the worry in our eyes. They don’t want that for you nor for themselves. They just want to live as children right now, just like we wanted to when we were children, but the pressure is what’s overwhelming them and more now that life have changed and not for the better. We want whats best for our children but we give them what we think is best based on what you were taught by the same people who said the same thing to us. Break the cycle and really sit down and understand your children needs and feelings. We owe it to the child in us.

Maybe, just maybe we will stop struggling to survive and start #Living.

Sending you love and kisses. #GoddessLove

The Family Bond! The Journey

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Chapter 10.  The Family Journey

Now that we have established some rules and highlighted things that we know is bad.  We can now be on a greater path to continuous living.  Of course, this journey will have great obstacles but we been through diverse situations before and pulled through.  Now the healing begins and shall continue on through our seeds and those forth coming. 

We have empowered our minds, souls, and spirits.  Our bodies are no longer withered with drugs and alcohol or tarred from tobacco.  We are looking clean, clear, and confident that the future will and shall change.  We are saying no to “society” and yes to reality.  Giving the community and the village a thumb’s up.

We are putting our families first again and starting a new.  Fresh ideas and making sense of them, while implementing them.  Our streets are safer for our children.  They are able to play in them.  We as women and men are able to walk through them proudly.  The streets are clean, trash cans are on every corner.  Children have manners and are respectful.  The village is forming a new and lives are changing for the better.  Help is in every neighborhood and a friend in every door way.  Smiles are brighter, hearts are healthier, thoughts are purified.  The past is at our backs and the future is in our sights. 

We are no longer bound and gagged by “society,” nor are we enslaved in our own mind.  We have been set free and will remain so.  For this is a new day for us and when we find ourselves in trouble or heading backwards, the village will grab our hand and tell us to hold on, “we got you.”  We have reclaimed our thrones as Kings and Queens and shall not be removed ever again, only to pass the torch to our Princesses and Princes. 

We have shut out negativity and brought in love and prosperity in its’ place.  We may not always be happy but we are far from destruction walking our path again.  We have seen the past creep up from behind us and try to make us revert back to our ancestors. 

We know there will be trials and tribulations but we will face them together as a nation.  Only then can we keep the devil himself out of our homes, lives, and communities.  No man’s an island, no man stands alone.  

As a nation, again we stand for justice, against “society,” brutality.  We fight against “society’s” poison into the Black communities.  We build our own homes, financially back our own people.  We recycle our money throughout own communities.  We farm and grow our own fruit and vegetables.  We open the doors to educating our own children properly.   We focus on their future as well as ours.  We plan ahead for uncertainties.

There is no more I in our Team.  From this day forth we are the people for the people, by the people, loving the people, and understanding the people.  The real Gods and Goddess have return to stand with and not above or beyond the people but side by side. 

We are a colorful, flavorful nation in all shapes and size.  We no longer mess with what Mother Earth has blessed us with.  We take pride in our bodies and enjoy life.  We are no longer consumed by what “society” think is healthy, beauty, pretty, or good enough according to their standards and rules.  We all are beautiful and healthy in our own ways.

We are producing movies, and banking for ourselves, carrying the weight of our people together as a nation should.  We are no longer concerned with the punishment of your God for the Higher Power has delivered us and we serve a high power than what is written in your book.  Our religion is not based upon hate but full of love and understanding with acceptance and joy.  We no longer poisoning our children with your cures which leads to death anyway.  No longer will we be plagued by your rules and violations that lead to our demise.  No longer will we be persecuted or discouraged by your suppression. 

Oppression is no longer a vocabulary word we fear nor hold in a sentence.  Your ways are done and my people are proud to be who they are.  We are a multitude of colors in a variety of shades, but we are no longer divided into light skin and dark skin people.  We are no longer separated or segregated into field niggers and house niggers.  We are black proud people South Africans and South African Americans.  We are one nation under the Higher Power and Savior.  Understand we are proud people no matter the circumstance, we learned to hold our heads up high with nothing long time ago, but we have more than we think we have.  We have enriched knowledge and understanding of our lives and ancestors for we have done the research and pass what they wanted us to know but more of what we needed to know.  So even when we have nothing, we still have something, but now we have a reason to always keep our heads held high because we are bettering ourselves and accomplishing more.  We are loving and caring more for our people.  We are no longer harming the next man for what he has because we have as well.  We have the power, respect, and money to buy what we want when we want. 

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

The Family Bond!

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

So, if we aren’t watching over our children and guiding them with a strong and safe heart, the predators are watching them and can’t wait until they are vulnerable enough to strike.  They lead our children right from our homes with promises that what they can offer will be better.  Our children not knowing that we punish them and discipline them because we love them, believe that these predators can offer more.  When they find out that they have been tricked, it’s too late.  We need to educate our children of the seriousness of these monsters and speak to them on matters that already happened.  Show them all these children that are exploited every day and are taken from their families to do God knows what to whom or vice versa to have God knows what done to them.  Be very careful and mindful that not all people are good and not all people are evil.  Educate them and teach them how to recognize the difference between the two. 

Like I said education starts at home, because it begins in the womb. 

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Yesterday a child was kidnapped from her parent’s car at a traffic light! A week ago a 2 years and 3 years old was shot, both fighting for their lives. A three years old was kidnapped from a party and later found dead by officials. In Baltimore alone 100 children from the ages of 12 -17 have been shot or murdered on these streets. There are thousands upon thousands of missing children across this world. Where are the morals and values for the future. Why is it that our children doesn’t stand a chance of survival in this world? I wish I could say it was all at the hands of others, but I would be lying. We, the people have to believe in the people in order to have a future. Otherwise, all we shall ever have is the past and death, history is teaching us that.

I saw first hand yesterday, wherein a boy; because I cannot in good faith call him a man; approached me and my mechanic with intentions of harming us. I asked him what was the problem and his clearly stated to me that my mechanic keeps looking at him funny. I asked him is that your reason for coming into our space. He said I can go where I please. I told him this is almost true, but you cannot violate someone else’s space and think that they are supposed to say something or look at you to understand why you are within their comfort zone. He told me that my mechanic should apologize and stop looking at him. I told him to move on with all that nonsense because no one is dying here today nor are we for the bull. He then walked away but not without provoking the situation. I told my mechanic to pack up because there is no way I am going to allow him to do harm to you nor I. He was allured to the idea of harming him now in the line of self defense. I told him that, that will not be necessary because I am a peace maker if nothing else. I sent my mechanic away as well as the boy. I checked on my mechanic and he is doing fine, still a little heated but I told him had the situation escalated that he wouldn’t be able to tell me that he is just a little heated. He would have either been dead or in jail for nothing when clearly this man wanted something that we both refused to give him reason to harm either of us. #MakeADifference not a scene.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

The Family Bond! Chapter 9…Segment 6.

Goddess morning Royals. First, gie praise and worship to the all High.

I was down and out for the count last week. I do apologize for the delay and the lack of warning for the posts. Something nasty had came over me an had me in here feeling like a steam roller ran me over. I was sick beyond reason so I rested and now I am back and ready to finish our journey.

We as people must learn a different strategy to living in order to be a better nation of people.  Our strategy is to just fold and submit.  We can no longer submit to those who oppose us, enslave us, beat us, demoralize us, nor humiliate us.  We have to be smarter because we are smarter.  We are the race they fear, we are the creators and inventors of all things unearthly.  We believe in a higher being just not the one they want us to believe in.

For me the biggest part of slavery for slaves was;

F – Frightened of their surroundings and their captives.

E – Emotionally cried for familiarity.

A – Afraid for the life of their love one more than their own.

R – Run to where or whom? To have worst done than what is being done or have less than they were given.

Being force into a strange land and not knowing the outcome of where to go, what to do, or who to trust, created a safe haven in their master/captives.  Obedience became a necessity and submission became the only choice.  I believe this is the same reason our people live the way they do now.  Afraid of rocking the boat, afraid that their captive will no longer take care of them.  Afraid for their lives they rather hurt one another than to have the massive upset, but if your only fear the unknown, because who are the massive, then that make you just as stupid as you are afraid.  If you’re not sure of who you are, how can you be sure of who they are?  For all you know you could be the massive.

If you learn nothing else in this life learn how not to give your life to the system.  Once they have you, they will never want to let go.  They always will refer to that one incident or think nothing more for you than a criminal.  You may have some that understand that you were in the wrong place at the wrong time, but not very many.  Your past will come to haunt your life, your future is calling on it.

With all your wisdom, your ability to learn and grow, your desire of freedom, your pleasure of calling your own shots, your motivation for better; stay out of the system.  Do your part so that you can show our youngsters that being tough isn’t about going to jail, no that is easy, being tough is about staying out of trouble and out of jail!

Because as we all know it is easy to get into trouble but hard as hell to stay out of it or it’s way; not to mention get out of it once you’re in it.  Teaching and educating our children shouldn’t be a challenge it should be an everyday thing like feeding them, “a necessity.”

As a child growing up in Baltimore, crime was specific to men only, meaning no one killed women and children.  You had a curfew not by the city or state but by your parents.  Had to be on the steps by time the street lights came on or else.  You knew to respect your elders and mind your P’s and Q’s (your own business).  Stay out of grown folks faces and conversations.  Children should be seen and not heard unless spoken is a rule but not such a great rule any longer.  *This is how I see predators getting to the children without them being able to tell parents about it.  Learn something new every day.  Once on the block that’s where you stay until it was time to go in for bed.

Saturday morning chores was washing the house, clothes, mop the floors, doing the dishes and bathe.  Clean the steps, sweep the front, and windows.  Then you could go anywhere, if you said where and be back before night fall.  Sunday was church no, if, and or butts about it.  Monday – Friday was school or learning depending on the season.

Summers was extra fun, because as long as we were on the block and moms or dads of the village was out, we could be outside.  Once there were no adults you had to go in.  Now days all that’s out the window.  Children don’t want to learn, they don’t want to do chores, they don’t want to respect home so out in the street is out of the question.  They don’t play games because technology is killing their brain cells.  All they want is the latest technology and to share all their personal business on social media.  Then have the audacity to say someone is snitching on them. Child bye!  Hello!  Stupid social media is a tracking station for stupidity.  If you stop doing stupid and idiotic bullshit then you wouldn’t think that someone have time to snitch on you.  Then you know there are cameras everywhere you go and that “society” is watching everything you do.  So how can say someone is snitching, dummy you snitched on yourself.

Anyone who share stupid, illegal situations are being tracked straight to the front door. 

While we are on the subject of educating our children, how about we teach them manners and how to use them.  Respect could take them a long way and we all know that.  Teach them how to speak to people and that “huh”, or “sup” is not a proper way to speak to an adult who opens their mouth to speak to them. 

“Hello, Good Morning, Good Afternoon, Good Evening,” proper ways of addressing someone.  Also, teach them that when entering a room or walking pass someone that speaking will not hurt them at all.  The same way we are learning a new; our children should also be learning a new.  Teach our young men to pull up their pants and not advertise their home life to all.  If they need to vent then they should learn to vent to you or a family member and not complete strangers.  When children open this door, and allow strangers into their lives they become prey and all types of things starts to happen in which they are not equipped to handle.  Now if they are a part of that trusting village that you have built then yes, sure go right ahead and vent to the village but if not, then family it is.  Teach our young women to dress appropriate so they don’t have to worry about uninvited or unwarranted attention from predators or perverts. 

Remember child predators likes both sex and all ages and doesn’t really care who knows it. 

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove