Confession Thursday – Are You Toxic?

Goddess morning Royals πŸ‘‘. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Do you live for drama? Is your life boring and to spice it you tell little white lies? Are you so damaged that you look for other damaged people to share in your misery?

Yes, you are toxic and spread rumors like the plague you are! Why? I guess it’s because you are not happy with yourself and aren’t sure how to become happy with who you are. I wish I could say it is okay but it isn’t. Your toxicity is the reason no one positive can be around you. You make life hard for yourself by being so negative and spreading lies.

Then you tell people that you are honest and straight forward but never told the truth to save your life. You lie so well that even your family don’t know when you are really telling a lie. They tell people they aren’t sure about you and wouldn’t trust a thing you say even if it was that you were dying. I don’t know about you but that’s a damn shame πŸ˜’. You are the one who cried wolf🐺 when there is no reason for the calvary. You just want the attention to spread more lies about people you really don’t know anything about. Reason is because your never took the time to get to know them, you drawled a conclusion based off someone else’s reaction.

You’re so toxic people come to you for gossip as entertainment because they know you are stupid enough to tell them whatever they want to hear. You agree with everything they say just to make a friend but in reality they are using you to say you are spreading more rumors. Now you are fighting, running, hiding or explaining yourself just to keep from getting hurt when you should have walked away in the beginning.

The worst part is I know you all thinking about a woman right now that is like this but I’m telling you I know a lot is men that are like this as well. In fact neither is grown but still immature and act like children, in which they are classified as boys and girls. They will never be classified as a woman or a man.

Don’t allow these type of people to intoxicate your life and cause you pain, hurt, misery, distrust, hate or loss of a love one or a friend. Tell these people that you aren’t someone I need in my life and walk away with your life and dignity in tact.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Manic Monday! Calm Down

Goddess morning Royals πŸ‘‘. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Yes, we are in an election season and yes there is another killer germ (virus) going around. Stay calm this isn’t the first virus epidemic we have been through and guaranteed it will not be the last. Those happens every time an election term comes around in the U.S.

Let’s look at the facts:

  • 2004 Sars – George W. Bush
  • 2008 Bird Flu – George W. Bush
  • 2010 Swine Flu – Barack Obama
  • 2012 Mers – Barack Obama
  • 2014 Ebola – Barack Obama
  • 2016 Zika – Barack Obama
  • 2018 Ebola – Donald Trump
  • 2020 Corona – Donald Trump

The craziest part about it all is that the public act as if we haven’t been through this before. It’s crazy how quickly they forget about the previous virus that they all you about every time you go to the doctors. Have you traveled outside the US in the past six months? Checking for Ebola still, or Swine Flu and here we are again going through Corona. Germ warfare if just that, germs that will kill you if you aren’t cautious. Meaning cleaning your hands, covering your mouth when you cough or sneeze, being aware of others as well as considered of others. Yes you will get sick, just like when spreading the common cold, any strain of flu (seasonal).

It’s like if you don’t protect yourself from catching a airborne virus, we know you’re not protecting yourself from a bacterial one either nor a sexual transmitted one. Precaution is the key, research is a better one. Don’t take everything someone gives you at face value. You have to do what’s best for you and protect yourself.

Calm down and do what’s right to keep you and yours safe from viral, airborne, and sexually infectious diseases or viruses.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Don’t Waste A Moment Of It!

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

If you are still trying to live a bad boy or bad girl life, let it go. πŸ€” One way or another you have to leave that life alone. You have to learn to grow up and be a man or woman. Trying to fight everyone or take on everyone’s shit isn’t working for you. You have to know when to allow people to clean up their own shit especially is they ate the bull.

In other words you need to allow people who go out and start trouble, fights, arguments, sell drugs, kill, steal, vandalize, etc., to figure shit out on their own. You can’t continue to be their fallback or their crutch when you know they are going to do the same shit over again. That’s when you are wasting your time, money, energy, mind, and hurting yourself. Have you ever noticed how tired, hurt, misguided, misunderstood, inhibited, unwanted, and disassembled you feel when you run behind someone else’s shit; constantly cleaning up after them because they are fuck ups? No, then you are a great person with no life of your own and this is the life you want because it makes you feel wanted. That’s fine we all have to have something, but have you ever stop to think the reason you don’t have a life is because you “chose” this person’s life as your own. Not that it was thrusted upon you, but that you chose it as your own. You are so bored in your life that you have to allow someone else’s misery to be your comfort. You literally love cleaning up after such a person that you make up excuses for them for why are the way they are.

Somewhere this has to STOP. You are the PROBLEM none of the SOLUTION. You think you are the answer but you are the question; the reason why they do what they do or why they are the way they are! It’s all because of you! You haven’t allowed them time to grow up. You are their savory when they’re playing devil’s advocate. They already know your “super” ass is going to jump in and save the day.

Here’s the crazy part about the whole ordeal, after a while you want a life of your own but can’t figure out how. Then your are blessed with one, but still think you can be Captain Save A Motherfucker, but that doesn’t fit your new life, so you feel torn between the two. Let go of the misery and love the joy. Believe it or not it’s just that damn simple. You can’t have it both ways because once envy sets in with your misery, then pain comes next, then the unimaginable. You don’t want to know how the outcome ends when you chose wrong. I know family over everything, but sometimes it’s family that destroys you from within, out. It’s family that plays on your heartstrings. It’s family that bring you down and never allow you to pick yourself up.

Family is everything but not over everything! You figure out from here, to make your time not wasted, but Timeless.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Confession Thursday – Forgiveness Or Entrapment For Torture?

Goddess morning Royals πŸ‘‘. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Have you ever said you forgave someone only to torture them from hurt? They say forgive but never forget. I say forgive and mean it. It’s easy to say you forgive someone for something and not really mean it. You just lied to them but considered yourself staying true to you. When in all actuality you lied to yourself as well.

I understand that there is a lot of things people can never forgive someone for but the question is how many times are you going to beating yourself up about it? Rape is the worst thing in the world to me because it robs a person of their dignity, morals, values, self-worth, joy, happiness, strength, intimacy, ability to love, trust, and commit. It takes so much from you especially your identity. I know there is someone reading this that can identify with what I’m saying. To start to heal by forgiving yourself because it isn’t your fault. Don’t torment your soul with the idea that somehow you caused it, or asked for it, why you, what could you have done differently to prevent it from happening? These are all great questions but wrong questions. You should be asking who didn’t love these motherfucker? Who raised him to hate women? Why wasn’t he taught right from wrong? Why wasn’t he told real men don’t take, it is given to them willingly? πŸ€” So forgive yourself for the thoughts of it being your fault because it isn’t.

Murder, is high on the list as well. Those questions of morals and values come into play again. They only want forgiveness when death or life in prison is looking them in the eyes. They only want forgiveness when someone is retaliating. When there is no forgiveness they want to turn their life over to an Higher Power. That’s where you should have started when your mind was in turmoil and confusion was your cry for help. Before you decided to play judge, jury and executioner. Now you all for forgiveness but all they have for you is entrapment of lies, pain, and suffering. Shame, when all you had to go was call on the Higher Power and ask for guidance, instead you are begging for forgiveness.

Infidelity, is when the entrapment happens the most. You say you forgive only to tell everyone so they can look at that person differently as well. You want that person to be ashamed of walking in a room with their headup. You prefer the dirty looks everyone will give them especially, if you said you forgave then already. You said it but had no intentions of living up to it. You only want pain and suffering, but do that make you just as guilty as their infidelity. Do you know how to forgive after your trust have been broken? Do you know how to love the same after you heart has been ripped from your soul? Probably not but don’t say you forgive only you torment. Think of it like this, how would you want to be treated had the shoe been in the other foot? Walk in that person shoes to see what caused the infidelity to begin with! Was it forced by a lack of but too much fingers pointing? Were you more than they could handle but instead is leaving or getting out they disgraced your trust only to hope to win it back?

Either way if you are the receiver of any of these incidents, then you are the innocent one and how you move forward is your decision, but don’t say you forgive when really you don’t. Forgetting means never reliving it again, but forgiveness mean I accept what had happened as not being intentional on your behave. If you accepted it then don’t relive it out loud nor hold it against them because you hold it against yourself. Forgive and more on with or without but not to do exactly what they did to you.

Forgetting is your option, but I think remembering means your will not allow it happen again without warning. Your eyes see differently and no one can pull the wool over them again. If it has changed to for the worst, you aren’t any better than the accuser by keep playing the victim. Stabbing up for yourself lets them and everyone who comes after them know I’m not a victim but a survivor and I chose to live life as I want and not as you intended.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Wednesday – We All Need Help Getting Over, Mentally!

Goddess morning Royals πŸ‘‘. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

We all suffer mentally from something! Death has a way of making living hard and unbearable. For some it becomes the exit strategy they need to escape reality. Don’t roll your eyes right now because we have all thought about it or experienced it first hand. Some even tried commiting it on several occasions and wasn’t successful, but others were. First I would like to send prayers πŸ™πŸΏto all those who have taken their own life because it was better to face death than to continue on. Only you knew what you could no longer handle! Only you knew of the pain you were suffering! Only you knew of the life you had to leave! Only you understood you! Wish you could have spoken to someone before you did though… not just anyone but someone who would have understood as well.

Right now there is someone going through the same thing; they want out! They want to end it all because life is hard and it doesn’t seem to be letting up. They want so bad for the pain, mental anguish, suicide thoughts, pressure in their head, voices of death calling them to STOP! For some reason they cannot stop it nor them 😑😠 from calling them to their demise. If you know of someone, seen someone, or heard of someone like this; and you are strong willed, empathic, sympathetic, and able to assist; by all means step in and offer your help or recommended the necessary help. Don’t sit and watch someone waste away knowing there was something you could have done. Yes, I know not everyone wants help. Yes, I know unless they say it we shouldn’t get involved, but just think about this…sometimes they aren’t sure how to ask so they show you. You could always be anonymous and help from a distance only because we weren’t sure if it was a silent cry or a loud one.

Saving someone’s life might be your ticket to saving your own. The feeling of knowing you helped someone and not have to brag nor share someone else’s situation with others; that self-praise is rewarding enough. It sometimes help you know that life is worth living you just need to know what you are living for… You! That’s in itself is all the love, understanding and encouragement you need, if it isn’t enough listen to your deep intuition, what does it tell you to do. It will not tell you to end it all because your heart will race which means your core wants to live on.

There’s a lot of people on this planet and we all are going to die for whatever reason, not all at the same time. It maybe natural, painful, by the hands of someone else (suffering from mental health) jealousy, love raging psychopath, unnecessary war, suicide,etc; no we can’t stop it, we can delay it. New generations are being birth everyday so, maybe, just maybe as human beings there is hope for us all…mentally, emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, and consciously.

Saving one mental overload at a time!!!πŸ˜πŸ’˜πŸ™πŸΏ

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! It’s Only Timeless If You Make It.

Goddess morning Royals πŸ‘‘. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Someone asked me why do you always post a Timeless Tuesday? Sometimes it’s a tragic Tuesday but I never ready about that. I replied, first you’re right, but with a Manic Monday; a impossible, possible Wednesday; Confession Thursday; Freaky Friday; a sit down Saturday and Sunday, sometimes you need a memorable Tuesday, when it all made sense.

A terrible Tuesday or a tragic one πŸ˜” does happen but who wants to hold on to those memories? Who wants to remember the time someone passed from suffering? Who wants to remember the day their baby died? Who wants to remember their love one getting killed or brutally murdered? No one! They want to remember and hold onto the good times before all that happened. They want to remember the smile πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜πŸ˜€ on their love one face that made them warm inside every time they caught them smiling. They want to remember their laugh, their enthusiasm, their first embarrassment that wasn’t really embarrassing. You know when Mom or Dad said they love you out loud around your friends, or when they kissed and hugged you in front of your friends. Most of all when they let the person you were crushing on know you had a crush. That’s the things that makes Tuesday’s Timeless not all the pain and suffering.

Yes those things happens but who wants to hold onto them? It’s hard enough not being able to share thoughts with someone after such tragedies but even more painful when you constantly relive them. It’s unhealthy, damaging, destructive, and full of emptiness. We have to learn to love within the good memories and stop holding onto the hurt. When we hold onto the hurt and pain we slip into darkness with little to no hope of returning to the light. When we hold onto the good, there’s hope for a future with us and a life of great memories to share with others.

This is why my Tuesday’s are Timeless. Enjoy your day on purpose. Stop robbing yourself of happiness, joy and a future by holding onto the past hurt. Give it to the Higher Power to deal with so you can live, and love on. No it won’t be easy but you have to try at least!

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Sunday – Let’s Talk Food With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals πŸ‘‘. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

This is for thought not for eating. The consumption is to put a lot of thinking into this food for thought.

If you’ve been eating off someone else’s plate for a while or all your life, you can’t get upset when they don’t allow it anymore. This just mean that they can no longer starve trying to feed the both of you based on your consumption. That’s right you eat more than your share and it is weighing on them, mentally, financially, emotionally and spiritually.

They don’t want to cut you off but you leave them no other choice. You don’t have a fall back, you’re rude like it isn’t a blessing, but like it is mandatory. You don’t have a thank you bone in your body. When there’s no money πŸ€‘, no couch πŸ›‹ to lay on, no free meal 🍜 or no free ride πŸ›€πŸŽοΈβœˆοΈ, you feel as though the love πŸ’” is gone. It’s not! It’s just that the person you’ve been using had finally seen or had their eyes opened to the truth.

Question is what the hell do you, as a user, do now? Get off your lazy ass and start to fend for yourself! Do you not feel less than when someone else does everything for you? Of course not, you feel privileged, like it’s owed to you. Even children grow up into their own and independence. They go from crawling, to waking, to running. When they fall they expect Mommy and Daddy to pick them up a few times, then after while they get up and try again, but not you. When a child is first learning separation they cry, well some and some can’t wait to get away from their parents at an early age, see independence; still not you. If a 5 years old certainly make change and accept it so can you.

No one was promised to take care of you your whole life, just in the beginning and at the end. Don’t make anyone regret their choice by exploiting them with guilt, just man up or woman up and take one for yourself! The team will be happy you did.

Don’t take people kindness for granted because that just pushes then away and when you need them most they won’t be there. Where will your reality be when it happens?

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoodessLove