Author: missk22

I am a free spirit! Speak my mind a lot. Published author! Business & Psychology major! AA in Healthcare Administration; BBA in Accounting/Finance. Working on my masters in Psychology. Mother, hairstylist, nail technician and so much more.

Sunday, Let’s Talk Food With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Unhealthy Foods

Do you like to snack? Do you like fast food? Do you like lots of bread? Do you like soda? Do you like candy?

Let’s be honest, we all either use to love it or just like it now and again. It isn’t all the time that we do it but sometimes we like to splurge a little. We like being able to go to those fast food places and pick up something quick. We might even get to comfortable and order up a meal or two for the family. Question is how often do we do it? Is it twice a week, three times, four times or everyday? How often do we eat the unhealthy things that is leading us to an early demise is the question? I mean we know death is coming but we don’t want to rush it either. We aren’t ready before our time is up or are we? If we are eating away our feeling, emotions, and habits through unhealthy foods then we are ready sooner than expected and we can’t blame anyone but ourselves.

We are parents turn right around and introduce it to our family and then wonder why our family is tired all the time, drained of energy and all they want to do is rest. Why they don’t have the brain power to study, be productive, or ambitious enough to strive for greatness. It’s because we are pushing cancer, laziness, and high blood pressure, obesity, diabetes down their throats and they have no idea that we are doing it. We are the ones that goes grocery shopping and pick up all the snacks, sodas, sugary drinks, candy and over processed foods. We leave out the goodness our family needs. We might pick up fruits and veggies but we focus on things that make our lives more sustainable and not healthier. We want more time to do other things than standing in the kitchen cooking healthy meals or making sure we’re not killing our children.

Don’t do it any longer, remember CANCER is a business not a DISEASE! They don’t have to tell us that they are poisoning us, they just have to please the FDA and only the government and the Savor knows who is really doing their job and who hands are being greased. What we do know is all enriched foods are bleached so they are definitely unhealthy for you. If it’s dead then why even bother, but I do get it. Some meets, if cooked and prepared. suppose to provide nutrients, but honestly I doubt it. I think it is all financial gain with the lies. I know that make it taste so good with all the chemicals and dyes that they put in it but if your not sure then don’t do it. If it is loaded with sugar and sugar by products then we already know it is going to lead to health problems so why do it to ourselves.

Remember your life and those who you love life is in your hands, let’s make the right choices for them until they are old enough to do it for themselves. By then they will know what choices is right because we would have taught them well. Live longer and healthier by making the right choices.

Sending you love and kisses. #GoddessLove.

Saturday Sit Down With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Death is just a scary word! Everyone wants to go to heaven but not all wants to talk about how they are going to get there. In order to see the Savor you first must move on from the vessel that enclose your spirit. We all know that our vessel is just clothing for the soul and when we take off that fabric finally, that we will not be putting it back on. Our will might be weak but our destiny is strong. It has to come to an end and we all know it but when, I think, is what scares people so much.

I say don’t sit around and think about it nor wait for it. Go out and live within your vessel the best you know how until the day you no longer need your clothing to keep your spirit covered. When your spirit is ready to be exposed to the world, they will not be torn by your vessel but rejoiced by your soul. I think it is only hurtful when people haven’t really understood your purpose in their lives, so they missed their opportunity to know of their own purpose. They can’t find themselves and haven’t found themselves by the time you are ready to shed your fabric. They question death because they aren’t sure when their time is but have no reason to understand why your time is now.

Yes the feeling of losing someone is uneased and very painful but if you really stop and think about it, you haven’t loss them they just transitioned into their next chapter and now you must focus on your story. We cannot live our lives through someone else’s book and think when their story ends so do ours. It isn’t like that! This just mean that you weren’t paying attention to your story being written because your eyes was on someone else’s book. Stop try to step in their success or life and direct, publish, narrate and produce your own story. You never know what extraordinary things you might leave for others to read. Who knows your story might change or direct someone else life into learning to write their story and making it a novel no one can put down.

So when death comes knocking don’t be afraid to open the door because it just mean that another chapter is about to happen for you so that someone else can tell your story in a way no one will believe. It can’t all be fairytales and rainbows, sometimes it has to be horror and thrillers, with a side of danger and mystery. It is all up to you how your story goes, but how it ends will never die with you. There will alway be someone to tell what they have been told or experienced being in your chapters. So in fact your story lives on and on and on. It gets better with each person that tells their part or how they remember it for themselves.

Remember Death is only to be absent in the body but present in the spirit. Let’s see what your story is about and who will tell it as great as it is.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Freaky Friday – Love Vs. Sex

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

How many of you have had the can’t breathe, need to caught your breath, knock down, dragged out, hair pulled, sweat dripping, tapped out kind of love? How many of you had that lip biting, toes curling, backaching, headboard breaking, please call me in the morning kind of sex?

Well I have experienced both and I can tell you there is no way in the world I would choose one over the other. Now it matters even more when it is with two different people but when it is with the same person. You just thank the Lord for a partner like that and don’t mess up by trying to educate, teach or preach to another about it. People will hear your story want to either live it or experience it. Either way if you like it keep it to yourself but if it was random then they probably already experienced it.

If it is community oriented then most already know that it’s good but that is all it is needed for, a quick fix. Now if it is new and not community, I say grab it up now because you can’t really find that good thing like that anymore. Now days all you get is wham, bam, thank you and move onto the next. Sorry to say that usually isn’t the sex nor fake as love making I have described, so be glad it went on.

Some of us get stuck on the wham, bam because we haven’t experienced anything descent in a while and try to formulate a relationship from it only to learn that it wasn’t worth the headache nor the orgasim. You probably would have done better giving yourself a treatment and moving right along until you had that connection that would have lead to the time of your life. You know when you can’t stop thinking of that moment and in your fantasy since it happened you can relive it over and over again even if you don’t get it over and over again. The taste is forever apart of your menu. Even though you can’t order it again you can alway remember the taste and how your body love when it was done.

But honestly, which one would you rather have and remember it’s your diet eat as you please?

Sending you love and kisses. #GoddesLove

Confession Thursday – “Are You Really Happy Within Yourself?”

Goddess evening Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

I asked this question because I had a person tell me, “if my significant other can’t make me happy then why be with them?” I replied by asking them were they happy within themself. They replied with “yes I am!” Got sassy with it so then I went on to state this and this is where things got dicy. If you are happy within yourself then you significant other doesn’t need to make you happy. Their job is to provide, love, protect, care for and keep sexually satisfied. That didn’t end well for them at all.

Here’s the thing if you are happy within yourself, then no one else can steal nor make you happy. Because if you aren’t then you will feel like that person isn’t the person for you. Reason being is because you aren’t sure what happiness is so in turn you cannot be sure if that person is doing what you should be doing for yourself.

My number 1 rule is: If you aren’t making yourself happy there is no way a man or woman can do it. That now is a problem between you and your Savor.

My personal saying is: No one can be your everything and you be your nothing.

It just cannot and will not work, not in this lifetime or the next. You have to learn to be really happy within yourself before you can expect for someone not to be able to take that happiness away. So get to know you and what you like before you think that someone else can do what you haven’t been able to do for your lifetime. If you can sit by yourself and not be bored out of your mind, then that mean you are content with you and can appreciate alone time. Most people think alone time is with their homies and not with the people they love because the ones they love is the ones that is making them unhappy. Wrong! You are miserable within yourself and as soon as you come to the conclusion that this is what is making you dislike yourself and being around other the sooner you can get the necessary help you need.

Stop holding other people accountable for your misery as well as your dislike for others. That is all you and you need to face the mirror and find out why you dislike you. In order for you to dislike someone for no apparent reason mean that there is hate for yourself within you and you need to address the issue right away.

Prayer, meditation, writing, singing, or rediscovering yourself is great ways to start to find the happiness within you. Love you and be happy with you so that you can love others and be happy around and for others

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Wednesday – Is This Really What You/I Need?

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

There are times when we really want more than we can handle. When we get it we ask why God put all this on us. Never realizing that we put this on ourselves. God had nothing to do with your own sabatosh. We then find other avenues or people to point the finger too. Still no ones fault but your own. We are afraid to admit when we have caused our own demise; it is better just to find someone to blame for our mistakes. Just take a break from what is causing you to doubt yourself and then ask yourself; “Is this really what you need?” Ask it as if someone else if posing the question. Then turn around and repeat the question; asking for yourself this time. “Is this really what I need?”

You know what you want and what you want from it but is what you need even in the picture. We tend to think that somehow the two are the same when in fact they are very much different.

“What I want?” Based on what you see but not necessary what you need. You just want it because it is either the latest trend, idea look, with get you the attention you really don’t want, or is what someone else has. Or the biggest and most problematic thing of all, to show others I can afford it. Of \course you could afford it at the time but then you didn’t need it so now it is costing you and you can’t handle it.

“What I need?” This is going to enhance what I already have in place. This will increase my flow, marketing, and strategy to get further. I will have enough capital to create more. This will make my life a lot better and I will be able to do more than I have ever done. Profits will soar and my opportunities will increase and 100 fold.

See the difference isn’t what others see, it is what you see. It makes life better when you know what you need versus what you want. Stop focusing on what others have so you can get what you really need. Your wants will be covered by your needs as long as you wants aren’t ahead of your needs.

Note* People will be your friend because of their wants while tearing down your needs. People will praise your downfall, but hate your come up. This method applies to those who claim you as well as those who dismiss you. Ask yourself is this person someone I want in my circle or someone that I need in my circle? If you can’t decide then ask the hardest question of all. What do they bring to my circle that make them worthy of my presence? If still you can’t come up with nothing then that person is a want and yes, they can be fun to be around but they aren’t a necessity and so they really only get the attention you want them to have which is little to none.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Living

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the al High.

We are just want to live on this rock. Everyone said they struggle to survive. When are we going to stop surviving and start living? I for one would like to wake to my family and say have a great and mean it without the thought of them dodging bullets, running from the police, being harrassed by the drug dealers, worrying about some high ass junkie stabbing them for money they don’t have, or being bullied. It is a shame that we have to live in a world where these are our general worries.

Remember when you were a child and you worried about school, being bullied, getting into fights, homework, classwork, test, food for the family, mommy struggles to make ends meet, daddy out here doing #GodKnowsWhat to make it happen for the family. Yeah, well guess what haven’t much changed at all. Our children go through the same things we went through as a child, and just like our parents we tell them these are grown folk’s problems. We were told the same damn thing. Then when we became teenagers our parent told us we had to find a job or help out around the house. Again nothing has changed! We just want them to learn lessons and learn to mature. I wonder if it is too much pressure. I wonder if forcing us into the struggle at an early age isn’t what makes life a survival and not a way of living.

With school being hard as hell, children being children and making poor decisions; with growing up moving so fast; with trying to find their identities; with the question being asked what are you going to do with your life when you grow up being on the table and in the back of their minds; with what you do now determine who you will be in the future being thrown in their faces; and making the right choices in life too much for children. What I noticed since nothing has changed is that we as parents and parents before us, think that children have nothing to worry about. That’s a lie! We think just because we pay the bills and buy the food as well as their clothes that they don’t have nothing to worry about but remember we are the ones that put the most pressure on them and then have the audacity to tell them that they don’t have nerves yet but wait. We frighten them into adulthood while screwing up their childhood. For a matter of fact our lives right now are the way they are because someone did the same thing to us.

It might seem like what we should do because it was done to us, but it isn’t fair. It wasn’t fair when it was done to us and it isn’t fair now that it is being done to yours. For a matter of fact I know some of you are saying I turned out just fine, but are you really okay or just getting by with what you were taught and learned along the way? Do you have moments of regret based upon the choices that were made for you? You went along with them because there were no other choices given. Now as an adult you think that if you had other options that you would have made different decision for your life? I know we pay the bills, put the food on the table, keep the roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, shoes on their feet, lights on in the house and water for drinking and cleaning, but why do we do it?

We do it for them. So why keep reminding them of it when they can see the struggle from it. They can see the hurt in our faces, the pain in our bodies and the worry in our eyes. They don’t want that for you nor for themselves. They just want to live as children right now, just like we wanted to when we were children, but the pressure is what’s overwhelming them and more now that life have changed and not for the better. We want whats best for our children but we give them what we think is best based on what you were taught by the same people who said the same thing to us. Break the cycle and really sit down and understand your children needs and feelings. We owe it to the child in us.

Maybe, just maybe we will stop struggling to survive and start #Living.

Sending you love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Manic Monday! Is Your House A Mad House?

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High. Second, HAPPY VETERAN DAY! THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR SERVICE

Is everything about your house screaming HELP ME?! Is the children running around driving you nuts? Is the animals in the house becoming too damn much? Is asking for help from your significant other becoming a battlefield not worth visiting? Is stress from work causing everything at home less tolerable?

Well just scream! Find you a quiet room and I mean don’t say words just SCREAM and then BREATHE. Watch the reaction you get from everyone when you do so. First, they are going to come to your rescue because they heard you yell. Then they are going to ask you what happened and what is wrong? DON’T SAY NOTHING! I REPEAT DON’T SAY NOTHING! Then they are going to start looking around because they themselves are sure what happened. Now they are curious as to what happened and what cause you to be either frightened or caught off guard. JUST WALK AWAY AND SAY NOTHING. This will hold there attention for a while, long enough for you to have a little piece and quiet. They will be puzzled and not know what is next.

Do this at least two to three times a day for no damn reason and they will not understand that it is the same noise that you hear from them. They will think that you are going crazy when in fact the nerve wrecking sounds of them yelling, and carrying on is what cause you to be a little disoriented in the first place. Soon or later they will understand that if they don’t yell, help take care of the animals, cleanup after themselves, eat what is giving to them and not what they think they should have, and learn to speak to one another without trying to dimension one another. This is a technique I call distraction from the norm.

Clearly, be patient, calm cool and collected isn’t working so a loud scream will do the trick. It might even alarm the neighbors especially if they never heard you yell before. They might call the police but assure them that everything is alright. Besides we don’t want another #PoliceInvolvedShooting with a homeowner or otherwise. Beside screaming and yelling release endorphins that help get the blood flowing and keep you on your toes. Also it keeps the blood pressure from going through the roof from stress of not getting things done or help with getting things done. It also prevents you from wanting to do things you normally wouldn’t do as well as get you attention so you can calmly ask for help.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove