Good evening đź‘‘. First give praise and worship to the all High.
How many of you wonder why you were with someone for so long and the relationship stayed stagnated? It’s because once something looks, feels and sounds good we start looking at life through our movie eyes. We see what we want, feel what we believe and hear what we need instead of viewing things through our naked eyes. Abuse becomes love, discomfort becomes comfort, and pain becomes compromise and we call it human nature instead of what it really is…trauma.
As young people we have fun, as teenagers we are learning, as young adults we desire, as maturing adults we sacrifice and as elders we have enough experience to know none of it was ever love. By then it’s too late to be compassionate for others and their journey. We taste the bitterness of our past that we can’t except any kind of future while destroying what is now being giving, not wanted.
A boy sees a girl but a man sees a woman. If you know the difference then you act accordingly but if not you accept the title. A woman sees a husband while a girl sees a baby daddy. If you want a future you create one not accept the idea of one. A boy sees a phat ass and a smile while a man sees his wife and happiness. Don’t believe that they don’t cross paths and mistake one for the other because they do. A girl sees a bank account while a woman sees growth and prosperity. One will build a future while the other drains one’s future. None of it is up for debate!!! Now look deep into yourself to know who you are and what your relationship looks like. If there’s no problem and nothing to worry about you have your movie vision on but if you see clearly with the naked eye and see that your relationship is stagnating and going no where or only moving at a turtle pace; then you must decide are you a boy or a man, a girl or a woman.
Because it’s not always the other person it just might be you. Most people can’t look into a mirror and see their true self they can only look in the mirror and see what they want to see. The most frightening part of this is knowing you are the problem and none of the solution but continue on with being who you are and not wanting or looking to change! A lot of people are afraid of being an adult that they continue on in the grown child phase until they are forced into being alone. Not because they are ugly, difficult, stupid, toxic, or hostile; it’s because they are knowingly immaturely, ignorantly selfish.
As humans we have faults and are supposed to but we also have brains but refuse to use them. We are so afraid of losing someone or something that was never meant for us to keep or have. Sometimes people enter our lives for a reason and a reason but not for longevity or prosperity. Sometimes they are just passing through on their road of destiny and we become confused and believe that this is our destiny. So when it’s taken from us we become combative about their timeframe in our lives. The confrontation between these two people become a war that wasn’t either of their to begin nor to start.
It’s like a vacation sometimes you live where you are so much you forget you are only in vacation. Then you drive up a bill you didn’t prepare for and drain your bank account while exhausting yourself. When you return home if you return home it feels strange to you because you got comfortable in a place you were only meant to visit and not stay. Then you try to recreate your home to fit your vacation but something goes amiss. You can’t figure it out and can’t put your finger on it so you point your finger at it; the other people around you. Never seeing you are the problem so you can never find the solution, because your brain is still in vacation mode. Your eyes are still in movie mode and your heart is still on fantasy island. Your body came home but your mind hadn’t making home difficult to deal with and the people around you feel fake and phony.
Here’s what you can’t see, you! You can’t see you are the problem! You can’t see that you are home! You only speak about your vacations and hate your home. You feel like you are sacrificing your needs for your wants when it’s totally the opposite. You’re trying to replace your needs for your wants. Then you do something crazy and quit your life and enter your vacation. You leave your job, home, love ones, family and trade it all in for your fantasy. For some this is their destiny to be alone and always chasing that perfect dream for others it becomes a disaster and failure.
They find out the hard way the grass isn’t greener on the other side!
Then want to return to their old life like nothing happened and date their to be any consequences. Here’s where it gets interesting! They expect everything and everyone to just go back to the way it is to be or be excepting of their return. They don’t hold grudges or no ill will but things have changed! Just like you changed abruptly for your fantasy life the real world changed with it. Family moved differently around you. Jobs hire you in stricter probationary conditions. Friends don’t treat you the same or don’t bother with you at all. Old relationships or partners have moved on and in a way that makes you feel ostracized.
Now if your naked eye is opened you will see why but if your movie eyes are still open then you will start your selfish bull shit and start attacking people’s character and choices. You will think you’re in the right and everyone else is in the wrong. Things will spiral down fast you will try two of three things 1. Start drama where there was none 2. Become depressed and try suicide for attention or 3. Try to run again thinking you are making people think you’re the victim and everyone hates you. When all else fails turn into a grown child and thrown a tantrum instead of owning your shit and try to mend the fences you tore down.
I know this sounds more like woman but look at it right in your face for both sexes across all genders. Boys gossip just like girls. Boys create drama just like girls. Notice I say boys and girls not women and men, because grown men and women accept responsibility for their actions and know the difference between right and wrong, fantasy and real life, vacation and home, family and associates, movies and the naked truth whether it’s a hard reality or a soft truth.
I wasn’t sure the title for this one but definitely want your opinion about it. Come let’s discuss this one.
Sending you all prayers and love where they are needed. #GoddessLove
