The Family Bond! Chapter 3…Segment 2.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

How fucked up do we have to be to know there is a home for him and continue like it doesn’t matter.  Our responsibilities to ourselves has be to in question at this point.  Why are we allowing this to happen to us?  What has gone so wrong in our life where we think this is a good idea?  How many other women have he done this to since his relationship has soured?  Are we this desperate for a companionship to allow this to go further?  When are we going to step our lives up and be more than a side piece?  How much do we really value our lives?  Is this what we want for our children; our sons to dog women like so, or for our daughters to be dogged like so?

Once we can answer these questions honestly, then we are ready for the next step in our lives.  Getting to know who we really are and what we want from our husbands could help us in choosing and making better decision about our relationships.  We will no longer think on a scale of boyfriends, side men, lovers, one-night stands but as long-term life partners, husbands.  For we are women who deserves to be treated like so by our married Kings; no not married to another Queen but to us.

Some people expectations are different and some have other Queens but the fact remains, just be the only one.  If your man/woman isn’t loyal then dethrone them.  Remember wait for your King because the Higher Power only really sends you one.  All the others are imposters, playing a role, but you must be the writer, director, producer, and narrator of your story, if not then you yourself will just play a part in a role not fit for you.  I guarantee you will not like the ending!

Look at it like this, life is a movie.  You can make it short and sweet or you can make it long with twists and turns to keep the audience (on lookers) guessing.  The cast is your choice but remember there is always a price for the more actors you put in place.  Being the director of your life as well as the producer means when the movie isn’t cast as you want you can change the people.  When it’s not written to your pleasure you can rewrite the script and when it’s not being played out in your favor redirect your characters.  This mean that you will lose some friends and family, but remember it’s your life so plan it accordingly.

People you do have the power to change so do it, you do have the will to live differently and the strength to help change others.  We know better so why don’t we as a black race do better.  Our mental capacity is blocked by the world’s and “society’s” chaos.  We give “society” to much credit for all their materialistic crap and then follow suit.  What we haven’t figure out just yet is that “society” cannot survive without us.

All the money we spend and all the trouble our kind get into feeds “society,” putting food on their tables, and their children through those Ivy League schools.  So technically we are their bread winners.  We still make and take care of them and deny our own.  The worst part is when one of us makes it we all are supposed to make it, but we don’t.  The one’s who makes it give “society” all their praise but leave their own kind behind to starve.  The one thing they do know is that without the less fortunate or the little people they wouldn’t have achieved anything, but we get stepped on. 

We as women have been putting up with “society’s” and black men bull shit since the beginning.  We know we are the back bone to the household without our strength the black man would fall.  What we see today is a lack of black women standing behind the black man because they are fed up.  We now stand in front or alone because the black man has fallen and felt hard.  As a black woman, I cannot standby and allow any of my black men to continue to fall.  If we as black women would learn to pick them up when they fall, they will be grateful but only if those single women stay out of your way.  Single ladies be alert for their own King; everything will go accordingly.  I must try to stand him up and uplift his spirits and motivate his mind, believe in his ability to do better than what he has shown me.

If I am of his “rib” then when he fails, I fail and I don’t believe in failure.  No more, when he fails, I am to give him life and restore what has caused the failure.  I shall not criticize nor ridicule him of his manhood or his mistakes.

C – Cast aside his strength, tries and abilities.

A – Abuse them mentally, and physically

S – Sexual denial of his woman from her man, please.

T – Testimony of his/her betrayal afterwards

R – Referencing negativity repeatedly.

A – Afraid of responsibilities for your actions.

T – Torment and taunt the soul when it’s fragile.

E – Embellish the truth to stay faced.

Now is the time to stand up and tell our men, son, brothers, and fathers, be a man and take your throne back.  I will fight by your side but only for the right reason.  I can no longer ride or die for you for negative or unproductive shit.  Tell them you are going to die alone and for nothing because you have nothing, no morals, values, self-respect and now no life.

Sending you all kisses and love. #GoddessLove

The Family Bond! Chapter 1… Segment 4

Goddess Morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all high.

Crime rose but only to a point
M – Maliciously a coward by self-doubt
U – Unaware of the potential to be better.
R – Redirecting anger onto others.
D – Disconnected from a community with Love.
E – Economically desensitized by materialistic things.

R – Release into a broken society of poverty to fight for

S – Savages who killed, raped, maliciously beaten and
denounced my people.
O – Over privilege creatures of ignorance, hate, stupidity,
but corruption and manipulation.
C – Cut throats to their own kind and pushes their ways on
other cultures for pleasure.
I – Inapt, ignorant and delusional inhumane creatures of
E – Economically unstable terrorist of habit
T – Terrorist who govern “society” as the government or
higher power
Y – Yours and mine, enemies of the world.

Where do we all turn when we need help, we call on God
or go to church for the support. This is what they are
supposed to provide support, so that is what we were told.
Well they do provide to those who give to their “cause” or
shall I say to their pockets. I know that this may sound
wrong, but they are supposed to provide service even if
you aren’t part of their flock. I don’t believe God
separated us because of our wealth but I could be wrong
considering how things look down on earth. I’m sure that when God gave them their calling he didn’t say make sure
you get a congregation with lots of money, if they don’t
have then they aren’t to be ministered to or
accommodated. This why I’m not sure if the spiritual
leaders are for the communities or just for themselves. We
rely on the spiritual leaders to help or at least have some
kind of answer from God to help with the problems that
the blacks communities face but without money in your
hand, they just turn their backs on you. I’m not laying
waste to them all but the majority of them have shown me
that this is what their ministry is really about. I have seen
“Men of the Cloth” turn their back on beggars, homeless
people, and even community members who needs help.
Religion was the grounds for salvation, but are being
taught by the DEVIL himself. “Society” forced their
religion down our throats only to led us where they wanted
us to go. When we got there, there was nothing for us but
more lies, hate and destruction of black people. There is
no GOD in the hate of judgement, being preached by the
shepherds of the flock. The DEVIL himself relied only on
SIN and the SINNERS who follows. They are being told
they are SAINTS, because they came to the house of
worship. All LIES, it doesn’t take a place (building), but it does take a
person, or two, the good book, and some acknowledgment
of what you are reading. How you interpret what you are
reading or hearing is yours and yours alone to decide if this is your faith or path to follow. Now I’m not saying
that the BIBLE is the way to go because it is all up to you
and what you want to believe in as far as your HIGHER
POWER. Everyone has the right to choose their own
religion but there will always be one Higher Power, no
matter what anyone call him. I’m going to stop here and
leave this subject alone. This isn’t the cause for the book
or the reason why we as blacks people can’t think for
ourselves to control our actions. The problem is we rely
on others so much that we have become submissive to
what others have to offer and not what we have to give.
We have stop thinking for ourselves and have given the
power of thought to those we think may have the answers.
one can do your thinking for you all they can do is offer
suggestions and ideas into your thought pattern for you to
decide, or lead you to think for yourself. We have been so
badly broken that some of us think it hurts us to think for
ourselves. That if we do we somehow upset the balance
of nature. So not true, if we weren’t made to think for
ourselves then why do we have a brain.
No one has the right to tell you, you are wrong just because
the two or more interpretations are different. GOD didn’t
create any one man the same so, why should we all think
the same? No this isn’t an attack on the BIBLE or any
religion, just on how people who think of you as a sinner because, your brain is wired different. Same thing for
family, life, and love. If there is a family, it will never be
hard to keep it together and the love cannot be destroyed.
But, “society” has found many ways to try and
deformalize the blacks family values, morals, and love.
They came up with so many avenues, but always run into
a brick wall or a dead end. That doesn’t stop them from
trying still to this day.

Sending you all kisses and love. #GoddessLove

The Family Bond “The Introduction”

Good Afternoon Royals. First give praise and worship to the all High.

This is going to get a little controversial for some and or other they simply will not give a fuck. Either way this is the I decided to release this book. I believe this form is better so that I can answer any and all questions head on.


If all men are created equally then why is it that Black Men are born with 2 strikes against them and others aren’t?

If all men are created equally then why is it that only Black or colored people walked around with a tree on their backs or died by the hands of society?

If all men are created equally then tell me why all men weren’t chosen to rise after death?


First, allow me the privilege of introducing myself I am Kenya Denise Spann, and no I am not a sociologist, or anthropologist or am I a scientist of any kind, yet.  However, my studies are in neuroscience.  Which mean my functionality will be the study of the human brain, psyche, development, capabilities, and growth.  My reason for this profession was simple, my oldest son’s brain doesn’t quite work as mine or others does.  I’m not saying he is slow but wired different.  This isn’t necessary a bad thing, but it isn’t necessary a great thing.  I have learned a lot from watching and raising him but need to study more of him to know more about him.  Please note this book isn’t about him per say but it is about the black or colored men in our communities and this world as a whole.

Now let me tell you who I am.  I am just a mother of three, one daughter, two sons and most recently a grandmother of one beautiful granddaughter.  She is also the reason I am writing this book.  It is because I know there is no place on this planet she can go without racism, hatred, judgement, lies, or fear.  I know that there isn’t much I can do but isn’t it time that we try.  We as black people and I say colored people because we come in all shades.  We are the only people on the planet that does come in a variety of colors and can produce a variety of colors from our reproduction of two very different shades of beings.  So, when this simple, mother, sister of many siblings, aunt of many nieces, and nephews, cousin of thousands, and friend to many tell you that I see, saw and seen things that I should have, didn’t want to, nor should I have, believe me.  I am not writing this book to put fear in anyone but to open the hearts and minds of many who is closed off and have been lied to their whole lives.  We all have been lied to base on His-Story but will never tell you Our-Story.  That’s where the problem come into play, what is Our-Story.  Where do we hail from and why do they not want us united?  Why is our demise so important to their survival?     

This isn’t going to be your average run of the mill book.  I’m not going to sugar coat nothing or try to hide anything.  I’m going to do my best to improve your mind, open your eyes, and push you to be better.  My sister said this is a self-help book, I said it is a telling it like it is book.  You be the judge of that!  You can either accept what you about to read, or you can deny it, and continue to live the way are you now.

If how you are living as Kings and Queens well great, and you can say you are an asset to the world, then by all means read the book anyway, but if not then give this book a try, and see what you can do to improve yourself, and the community around you?

No longer will you or anyone else have tunnel vision but we will be able to see further and understand pass where we stand if we just listen, comprehend, and acknowledge.  When dealing with color on color we cannot be indirect, demanding, but blunt, direct, strong willed, and forceful.

What is the most a colored family should look forward to in any colored populated environment?  Let’s see if we together can break down the family’s perspective to rebuild its values.

What does the word family mean?  According to the dictionary it means; a basic social unit consisting of parents, and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not.

What do family mean to you?

Tomorrow I will drop the first chapter of the book “The Family Bond” so we can analyze where we as a black nation, community went wrong and where we can revitalize our community, while restoring the bond within our homes.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove