Saturday Sit Down With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Last week we talked about stress while dancing around her cousin depression. This week we are going to talk about depression. First let’s define the word depression.

*Depression –

  1. feelings of severe despondency and dejection.”self-doubt creeps in and that swiftly turns to depression”

*Despondency-

  • a state of low spirits caused by loss of hope or courage:”he hinted at his own deep despondency

*Dejection

lowness of spirits

From where I stand on the whole issue it is a state of being and not a mindset. Yes we all know that the mind plays tricks on you especially when the devil is busy and you allowed him in your space. With all the definitions it still isn’t in the mind it is all in the body and spirit. Your mind however allows for you to feel this way because your body not your mind have giving up. Your spirit has been interrupted by something that is not of you and so your mind isn’t sure how to process if your body will not cooperate. It’s like broken heart, you mind is straight but your spirit will not allow you to go through that emotion again so your feelings take over and now you aren’t sure of your trust in people. Not just that one person who broke your heart but everyone. Even though everyone wasn’t involved just this one person somehow manage to take it out on everyone. Once again a state of being heart broken but it isn’t a mindset it is a feeling.

Depression is just like that, if you allow your body to die then the mind will not fight it, it will do as you body wants until your spirit is high again then your body will react to that. When we loose someone from this planet, our memories of that person don’t die just the love and life we had with them. So it isn’t in our minds that we are having the problem it’s in our hearts and spirit that take us down into darkness and despair. We still can reminisce on this person or people we loss, we can still see their face, hear their voice, and identify with their scent even when we know there aren’t there. Some ever visualize people in to spirit because we so badly need them to still be a part of us. This can’t be a mind thing because if so we would be able to do all this concentrating, the focus will be off and we wouldn’t shut down. Depression however leads to mental illness wherein we are will to cope with life anymore. We rather just give up instead of dealing. We can identify with there is a problem but we refuse to acknowledge that help is needed before we shut down completely. You refuse to let joy in where someone has suffered. It isn’t your fault and you shouldn’t allow what you remember most about this person to leave your spirit because once you do then you have giving up on theirs. In order to allow their life to continue then you should allow yours to continues so that they can live through you.

We have learned to shut our minds off so that we will not be able to live with the pain. It is not depression it is mental blockage. Once we start turning things off we go dark and then blank. We think it is easier to deal with darkness and silence then reality so there is wherein the confusion comes in. It’s like turning off the lights in the house but the bill is paid and all you have to do is slowly turn all the lights back on, but you refuse and after while you stop paying the bill and now without lights you adapt to the darkness then you get comfortable and live that state. Medication will not help and doctors know it, but they medicate you anyway. They know it has to come from within and if you don’t want out then you will die in that darkness and know one will ever know your truth, they will just say you were depressed. They will never say you suffered from a broken heart and never recovered. They will never say your spirit gave up and so you turned yourself off. They will simply say you were depressed.

Get help now because you know in your spirit, heart, and soul your need it.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Freaky Friday – How Do You Like To Be Sexed?

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

This is a question that most people don’t even want to know the answer to. They just figure they know how to fuck so they are going to do them and see if that is a good fit for you. Most don’t even know what they like about sex but the end result. If you know your body and what you like about your body, you will not allow anyone to mistreat it just for their satisfaction. You will take pride in making sure getting there was worth the trip. I understand that most never really had the good experience in the course of the sex life but now that you are older what is your preference. What is it that make you want a man or a woman? What makes you want to hold out until the end? What makes you stand out from the rest of the people this person could be sexing right now? If you say the head game is wicked, then that’s what it is. Here’s the question, is it the same for all the people you give it to and if so, it can’t be wicked? I tell you why, if it was wicked the last thing you would want to do is give it to every person you meet. If it was that you claim to fame then you will be afraid that giving it to wrong person would cause you harm. Note* Not everyone can handle awesome sex and it will literally drive a person insane if it is wicked. It will make a person do bodily harm to anyone who thinks that you are available for the challenge, but most of all they will kill you if they think you are giving it away like that. More often than you think most people who is weak minded think that your sex game is the truth, but if it is what you say it is, you should have a group of followers that will claim for you the fame. They will literally want to fight each other and everyone for what you have to offer. This isn’t a dis it is an acknowledgement that you can’t sex everyone the same because if you do the that mean you have no real sex life just few good moves.

When sexing the next person do understand how to make that person crazy you when you aren’t around. The art of make love or performing sex well is literally make that person know their are the only person that exist. I mean when you leave them they believe that the universe just made love to them. Their mind should always remember that first time with you and never ever forget even if you don’t end with them that you made them feel like life started with them. It’s about living up to the fantasy in their head and making them believe that they have lived the moment in their life wherein they won everything, even when they lost everything.

Good sex or great loving making is about allowing that person a part of you that you can never take back. It’s about making them wish that this moment is forever and no one can take this moment from them. When it is done they have no regrets and that this time will never end. It’s about making a person who you have sex with everyday fell like it’s the first time every time. It’s about a connection of the mind, body and spirit. It’s about two DNA’s inhabiting one soul. It’s like the destiny isn’t the end game but the forever game. When you exit that person life it will take a life time of apologies to get you back or a life time to find someone who make them feel like you made them feel.

I would say it is like rainbows and explosion but it isn’t. It is like a war and even though you have no idea why you are fighting you aren’t leaving until the other person respect what you have to offer. Except the deal or in that moment which up the game and make a different offer but don’t leave without knowing you did what you came to do and that is be remembered. Yeah, I can admit winning the war sound great but if all you got was the nut then what war was won and who won it. If both of you came but neither of you remember any of it or want more than that moment; then who won?

See with me, my goal is when I am not around and you think of me not only do you get hard but you cum as well. Because that whole connection have your body remembering what happened, and how sensual it was when we connected. I want you to be in a state of trans, ready to transition into eternal bliss. I don’t sex everyone the same because everyone is not the same. I watch your moves, I pickup on your tone, I discover your enemies and destroy them. In the moment we are together, you have no worries, no problems exist, there is no job you want to get to, there is no time of day. There is only you and I. You aren’t sure what is real and what isn’t it. You remember me even if we are only here for a one night stand. You carry my DNA like it is a gift from GOD himself. You crave me like your life depends on it and believe it or not I have sworn affidavits that will confirm my abilities, but like I said not everyone get it the same.

I know how I like to be sexed and I do ask questions about what your preferences are and how you like to be handled. Once I have a scope on you then, it’s about you. I know how to be get me where I want to be so all I need to do is get you right there with me.

Now do you like rough or soft; fast or slow; freaky or regular; left or right; upside down, or do you like to ride, in public or private, laying;down or standing up, with one person or multiples, different position or straight to it; foreplay or oral; dress up for the strip down or role play; will a nice dance turn you on or will a good song set the mood; on or back or all fours? Are you will to share this information with others or do you prefer for them to find out the hard way? Are you aggressive or passive? Do you take the lead or like to be led? Do you suck in the middle, beginning or end? Do you talk or are you quiet? Do you moan or just wish it was over already? Do you swallow or spit? Are you giving or getting? Are you a top or bottom? Knowing who you are and what you want will make a difference in being remembered or forgotten. It’s all up to you!!

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Confession Thursday – Living In Your Truth

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

A lot of us refuse to live in our truth because it hurt too much. It is a mirror most of us cannot stand to look into. We know our truth but refuse to admit to it so we play dumb or try out best not to face it at all. We rather live a complete fabricated lie instead of what is real. Reality is a motherfucker and most of us will not lay down with a clear conscience. We rather knowingly lay down with a dog with fleas.

Here the thing though if you are a good for nothing type of person then be the best good for nothing type of person you can be. But if you know that you are capable of change then why not put your best foot forward and make changes in your life. No one said it will be easy to do so but wouldn’t it be better than living in a constant state of lying? Everyday you have to either remember the lie you told yesterday or make up a new one. Then after while “crying wolf” doesn’t make anyone trust you when you need them the most. Then you find another way to make it seem like all you know is fake people when you are the one that is faking it to make it.

If you are a slut then be the best slut you can be but try to make money from it and not just giving it away for a reputation. Yes, everyone call you a slut but in your head you aren’t a slut you just like flirt and fucking everyone. Well honey that makes you a little slutty, especially if there is no funds being transferred for your services. Now I am not recommending that you start selling yourself but I do recommend you stop giving it away for free to anyone who will have it. That goes double for you men. It isn’t cool for you to have community dick and think that you are going to find wifey and she not be a cheater. Reality check that is how you found her she was doing exactly what you were doing slutting around. You all might seem like the perfect couple but really you all are just havens for communicable diseases. 🤢Ewe don’t no one want any of that.

Okay we know you don’t work but do you do anything else around the house besides live off someone else? Hello, lazy ass I am talking to you! I don’t care if you live with your mother, father, niece or nephew (which is definitely a sign that you have no life), aunt; uncle, daughter or son, (clearly it might be there turn to take care of you) or cousin. All I am saying is while they are doing what they need to be doing to pay their bills what in the hell are you doing to assist? If you are think or answering nothing then you are #homeless and well I would put your ass out. Okay there is situations wherein you can’t do much and I get that. There is even more situations wherein you can’t do nothing but I am not referring to any of those situations. I am referring to those able bodies that aren’t doing anything with them. I mean the ones that can work but refuse to or those who are felons but can’t get a decent job. You need to become “Cinderella” and fast. You need to do the cook, cleaning, mending, sewing, picking up and dropping off. Grab the store list and make marketing, be the best “Cinderella” a person ever seen. Make Disney feel bad about all that “Cinderella” didn’t do. You can’t just lay around in someone else house, eating, shitting, cursing, running up the bills and do absolutely nothing. Get the fuck up and do something. I know when if you were in mine, the dishes better be done, food better be on the stove warming, the dogs and cats better been fed and walked, the house better be clean, the laundry better be done, the floors mopped, and the children home from school doing homework. There is no fuck a woman or a man think that it is okay to live off someone and not contribute at all. I’m telling you #homeless and I wouldn’t feel bad about it at all.

For those children that think that they can do no wrong in their parent’s eye and those parents who believes it; REALLY! I am not stupid and for you parents who wants to be blinded by facts, know that they have monsters because well they treat you the same way they treat people in the streets is the same way they treat you. I know that you don’t want to be believe that you have a demon seed or that your child is bad but face facts that sweet child is sour and you know it. Stop thinking that they can change without you doing your part and parenting. I mean if you laughed at his or her first curse words and didn’t correct it then it is your fault that this sour patch kid is out of control. If you watched him or her beat a child up for no reason and thought they just children then when they start beating on you, tell yourself that same shit. Don’t reach out for help when it is too late, reach when you see the warning sign that your child is a demon. Allowing it to manifest is a clear sign of bad parenting. If you work more then you parent then sorry you are a bad parent. If you shop when you should be punishing then you are a bad parent. If you are rewarding bad behavior again, bad parent. If you laugh when you should be helping, bad parent. You know better you just refuse to do better. Shame on you for allow this type of behavior to get so out of control. Then you expect the official to take over when you didn’t do in the beginning. #BadParent. Know the signs of a cry for help. No children will not come straight out and say I need help they will do everything in their power to deny it but when you see it you know it is a cry for help. They cannot explain exactly what is troubling them all they know is that there is something wrong and they need help. With what they aren’t sure so be a good parent and work with them through it, seek help if you aren’t able to help or don’t know where to begin.

This is why the world is in chaos now because no one wants to live in their truth.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Wednesday – Getting Through the Week!

Goddess morning Royals. first, give praise and worship to the all High.

So Sunday was supposed to be a relaxing but of course there was a hiccup, but all in all it turned out to be a not so bad day. You got to eat with the family and if not then Sundays are suppose to be time with the family. #SundayIsFunday. Remember spending time with the family strengthens the bond between parents and children, grandparents and grandchildren, aunts and uncles, nieces and nephews. It give the family time to vent as well as time to heel from such a long week and to start off the new week with a fresh start. Monday is the day that everyone hates because it is when you have to be either a parent for real and an employee in someone’s company or a student in someone’s school and if you are the boss you have to manage people whom you probably wish you could just fire, but then who will build the empire. It is the day when you know you have to be somewhere doing something after such a relaxing day on Sunday. You didn’t prepare for Monday and if you did, kudos to you for being ready for the world at large. Now take the bubbly attitude to work and spread the cheer. If you didn’t prepare and is in a horrible mood allow someone else to be your sunshine where you feel the darkness and clouds. Don’t go anywhere to rain on someone else’s parade. Tuesday means that Monday already happened and there is probably a lot of work you didn’t do yesterday because you weren’t feeling it. So now you have to make up for it all today. However, you did make it in on time because you had time to vent and relax after working and studying yesterday. Plus you already know that Tuesday was coming so you had time to get yourself ready for this day, even if you didn’t do it for Monday.

Now we are at the best day of the work week; Wednesday, because we know that Friday isn’t that far away. Which mean the weekend is almost near. It is a shame that this is the only day that make us feel as though we have done something worth while. It is the day when we are feeling better about our jobs as well as our family life. It is the day that they children is excite about because most school do a half day for learning. They are most excited about Wednesdays because they get to slack off on Thursday so they can prepare for Friday. I know that it seem as though I am being too much but look at the children on a Monday and then on a Wednesday. It is like they know something we don’t. Then turn around and look at them on Friday and they are totally different children. I promise you getting over that hump; the middle of the week; is more exciting for them then it is for us as parents. Just remember just like that the week is over when Wednesday is over.

Anyway #HappyHumpDay and enjoy it.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Aging

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship tot he all High.

I feel like getting up in age makes me better with everything.

My patience is better now. When I was younger, I had no time for anything or anyone. It was all about me and I focused on me and what I wanted to do. As time when on I noticed that my siblings were falling behind in life so I had to find time to give them to make sure they got the proper quality time they needed to make them better in life. Then my parents started moving out of their lives and so I moved right in. I can’t say it was for the best though, but I did what I could and some times it was hard. Now that we are older they tell me that I was mean but they get it now. They told me as children they wish that our parents were better at taking care of them because I was a dictator. I told them that I was a child raising children. I only knew what I knew and that was how my parents treated me. They said that now that they have children they get it now. They can sympathize and empathize with me. Then they reminded me that I told them that when they were little. “Wait until you have children you will see why my patients is none existing.” Well they had to find out the hard way and now they can relate. Children will try your patience if they try noting else.

Then having your own life is a hard thing to do when you have children or assisting someone else with raising their children. After while it seems to weigh heavy on you, like you don’t want to or can’t do it anymore. You learn things about yourself that you never knew as well as don’t like. You even find ways to like yourself after you found out you don’t like something about your actions. Anything and everything helps when dealing with children. You definitely need to know how to divide yourself so that giving your all won’t overwhelm you at all. I know first hand that you need time for yourself. I know that isn’t a realistic thing but find it, even if it is a few minutes out of a day, wherein, you can just take a deep breath and breathe in the silence. Allow your body to become relaxed as well as your mind. For a few minutes a day, clear your mind of all thoughts and just relax. Don’t worry or stress about what needs to be done, just smile on the things that have already been done. Then let it all go. when you are relax, it will all come to you in a manner of order and not of chaos. It will show up where in you can accomplish it step by step. We are getting old not young people and our bodies will show if it doesn’t tell us.

Now that I am well in my 40’s my days are less stressful because I take a few minutes a day to think about me, not about everyone else and what everyone else needs, just me. I focus on me and what I need and what I want. I just take a moment to collect my thoughts on me. Did I eat today? Did I do all I wanted to do today for me? Do I have anything else I need to do for me before I get started on finishing what everyone else need? If no is my answer then I find time to do what I need for me. Then I proceed to carry out the mission of those who I love but I do remember me in the course of my day.

Remember without you there is no us. There is only them. So make time for yourself and enjoy life, you only get one.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Sunday, Let’s Talk Food with Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Healthy Food

Tropical Fruits can be used for replacing snacks. They can be eaten dried, fresh or in a salad.

Ascerola Cherry, Apricot, Avocado, Banana, Breadfruit, Kiwi, Carambola, Cantaloupe, Cassava Melon< Cherimoya, Coconut, Dates, Figs, Crandilla Fruit, Guava, Jackfruit, Jujube, Kumquat, Loquat, Mamey, Mango, Papaw, Papaya, Pineapple, Pitanga, Plabtain, Pomegranate, Plum, Quince, Sapote, Soursop, Tamarind.

Breakfast:

Wake to a fresh cup of water to clear the digestive track and clean toxins and mucous build-up. Wait 30 to 40 minutes before eating breakfast. Rolled oats can be eaten for breakfast with vegetable or fruit juice instead of water. Flax seeds or flax seeds meal slightly heated in oatmeal milk, are also good for breakfast. * Drink one glass of fruit juice.

Lunch:

Should be eaten between 10 am and 2 pm; especially one high in fats or protein. Make lunch the heaviest meal of the day.

Dinner:

Brown rice and cauliflower. Sprinkle with Brewer’s yeast, and peanut flour, (may also use peanut butter. Add water so it will pour easier).

Snack

Dried fruit or fresh fruit.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Saturday Sit Down With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

There is so many issues plaguing us in this day and time, but we aren’t certain how to deal with them, who can we turn to or who can we trust with our problems. We know that keeping things inside hiding our feelings and not acting on our emotions will cause us stress which in case cause us harm; like mental illness, depression, heart attacks, kidney failure, diabetes, liver malfunction and more. Why because either we eat too much or not enough.

There is no real balance when stress is the headliner. It is the number one killer within the black community, but it doesn’t show favoritism. Stress causes health problems in all races, nationalities and communities. It is just black people have a problem with learning to coop with it more than others. We have way of making it more than what it really is and then worry more about it than doing something about it. I know because I see and have witnessed it first hand.

I have stressed about an issue or two that when I look back on it, was so minor that I didn’t have to waste that much time on worry about it. Then as I think back I could have done something a lot sooner than when i did to resolve the issue. But me being me I allow it to manifest into something way more than it was. Now that I try my best not to stress about anything or worry myself to death about issues. I am now try to help my children not worry or stress either. Here are a few things I do when I think that I am going to stress or worry myself over an issue that may seem big but could be minor.

  1. Take a deep breath.
  2. Look at it from another point of view.
  3. Weigh my odds on if it needs attention now or could it wait.
  4. If it needs immediate attention then I give it just enough attention but don’t allow it to weigh me down.
  5. I put it in a perspective of importance so that I will know the level of attention it will require.
  6. Then I come up with 3 and only 3 ways of solving it. Starting at the most high, then medium and last the least. *What I don’t do is I don’t give it another option because that is where the stress come in. Three is the limit.
  7. After that I predict the outcome of the three and the one that is less stressful it where i start. If the high is less stress then that is where I go, but if the less is the least amount of stress then that is my option. Either way I don’t go the stress factor and allow it to manifest into more than I can handle.
  8. Then when it is done and I feel as though I have accomplished what needed to be done about it, I immediately put it away as completed. I don’t revisit it with the idea that maybe I should have done, also that is allowing it to manifest into worry which leads to stress.
  9. Just put it away! It is done and you should be satisfied. But if you are a person who is always worry about things after you have done something about it then you need professional help because you are going to have a nervous breakdown or a heart attack.
  10. Once again let it go. It is done and over with.

If all you can do is worry about one thing what is going on in your life about the other things that is really important, health, family, living, and most of all enjoying life. Remember breathing is the key to life and if you are holding your breathe just so that you can worry then you are killing yourself that in which is worrying you.

Until next Saturday with the “Saturday Sit Down.”

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove