Vulnerability

Goddezz afternoon Royals 👑. First, give praise and worship to the All High.

Vulnerability is defined as the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.

Vulnerable susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm. (of a person) in need of special care, support, or protection because of age, disability, or risk of abuse or neglect.

Let’s focus on disability, not just physical, but mental disability as well as financial disability. When you are in a position, situation or state wherein you are unable to defend against or protect yourself physically; you are considered vulnerable. When you are mental illness, destruct or otherwise unable to comprehend the consequences, situations, or problems you’re facing; you’re deemed vulnerable. When you aren’t able to provide, feed, nor pay for food, shelter, clothing, or bills; you are considered vulnerably unfit.

Then you’re entering into a societal crisis wherein you are labeled “at risk”,“dangerous”, or a “misfit.” Which none may not be true. This can be a good and bad thing. For some it is good because their pride will not supersede their needs. For others this is a terrible thing because their pride is just the opposite. Even though they are in agreement with the need their pride is bigger than their vulnerability.

This is stupidity but understandable. Some people no matter how hard they fall will not allow someone else to pick them up. They rather struggle to get to a level where they can stand properly. This is for most single men and women.

Now in a relationship it’s different. Vulnerability isn’t something you want your other half to be facing. If they are without food, someone will help to feed them. When it isn’t you don’t be upset that you opened that door for someone to walk through. If you are unable to do so then you both better be facing this situation together, even then it can be problematic. Let’s say you are a man who cannot provide for his family and not an organization but an individual starts to do so. Well you have no reason for complaint because you opened that door for this individual to become head of your family. Understand that your family is considered disabled, and in harms way.

The family attraction will soon focus on what they now have and not what they may need. They will see you as weak, sorry and unworthy of their love, attention,  sorrow or sympathy. They will not empathize with your feelings, relations nor your actions of trying to provide. All they will recognize is the stranger that rescued them from poverty, shame, hurt, and neglect.

Ladies let’s say your man isn’t fed, mentally, physically or emotionally; he is vulnerable for another woman to provide those needs. He will not take in accountability of your status in the long run. He will look to where his mental, stomach, heart, and emotions got fed. He will stay until he see change but if there is none he will project his anger (vulnerability) onto you for attention. He will mope around, say things that out of the norm, even change his behavior just to see if you’re attentive to his presence. If not then he will walk out of your life and into the arms of his savior. The person who saw his vulnerability and responded without hesitation. You will not be the light that once shined in his eyes but the darkest that covered his heart. For he is at risk of becoming the dog (expression) you say you will never date or be in a relationship with in your lifetime. All because you left him vulnerable for another to see and help.

Children are the most vulnerable of us all. Especially, if they grew up with so much trauma, neglect, poverty, emotional abuse, etc., that will turn to the streets or others for attention. Children need to be handled with care and understanding that you were once a child who craved attention, love, support, kindness, compassion, empathy and most of all stability. If these things don’t exist in the home, then they are just as vulnerable as you in your current state. Every child has a story and every adult who was once a child should understand this. It’s not psychology it’s human nature. How the old saying goes, treat others how you want to be treated?

If you know of hardship then understand what that did to you will definitely not work for them. I’m not saying be everything but be the person you wanted someone to be to you. I’m not saying break the bank but be the landing hand that you need when you needed it. I’m not saying be someone’s everything while they are their nothing, but be the best version of the person you wish others was to you. Be yourself while being capable, cautious, confident, humble, kind, compassionate, caring, loving, supportive, empathetic, empowering, comforting and understanding through it all.

From birth we crave, in adulthood we want to death we need someone in your life who can understand your vulnerability and be able to assist you in your journey.

Sending you all love ❤️ , hugs 🫂 and understanding. #GODDEZZLOVE