Goddess morning Royals 👑. First give praise and worship to the all High.
We as a society hold men in high standards for some beyond their abilities to measure. We implement them in our own ideologies and standards until they are superficial beings. Then when they don’t equal what we believe them to be they are considered less than or weak. REMEMBER we built them up in our minds not that we got to know them putting them all in one category.
FUN FACT men are human beings! They cry 😢 like women. They laugh like every other human on this planet. They hurt like we all do. They love like we all can and most do. They need love, support, understanding, empathy, compassion, and sympathy like we all crave. Somehow, we as a society have stipulations on them because they are men, but remove those stereotypes and find out they are fragile creatures just like us.
Their hormones, pheromones, and Testosterone levels makes them human beings who are highly intelligent, capable, beautiful, handsome, dedicated, tolerable, emotional, compassionate, kind, loving, and caring people. Just like you as a woman can be manipulative, deceptive, selfish, annoying, arrogant, petty, insensitive, insecure and trifling so can they. AGAIN education starts at home.
They aren’t born with these traits. They are taught these behaviors from the womb to the time they take their first step to adulthood. If you as parents have these traits GUESS WHAT PEOPLE they will too. The home is where the heart is, mistrust begins, anger forms, dishonesty starts, jealousy emerge, and hate grows. These things aren’t taught in the streets but starts at home. THINK THIS THROUGH! If there is always fussing and yelling; screaming and shouting, cussing and fighting, in the home; where do you think the sponge 🧽 got it from?
After soaking up your toxicity and bad habits for the first 5 years of his life, by the way this also goes for our young girl into adulthood; where else can he go and get more negative energy? OH YEAH, because now it’s time for school! So, he takes all he has learned from home to school, wherein other bad habits can be soaked in his psyche. What started as innocent child now have more untapped energy than the parents can handle. God forbid the father leaves this home for the mother to raise alone!
He doesn’t necessarily show his true colors yet but they are coming. Makes through elementary or primary school thank goodness. Now there’s more hurdles to jump through because middle is where they are going to test his male hood. AS WE CAN SEE THIS HAS ALREADY BEEN CHALLENGING FOR HIM BUT THERE’S MORE. Now he has to prove if GR can handle himself in this streets away from home where he might have protection. HERE’S THE THING DID HE EVEN LEARN THAT MUCH YET? No what he has learned is anger, depression, anxiety, narcissism, manipulation and deception. Now he has to learn self discipline, defense, care, and awareness.
His first fight and fear, uncertainty, anger and frustration is building in his heart, but from what he heard from his parents, he isn’t sure what to do. “Stop babying him he’s gonna be a punk.” “ Stop treating him like a kid he’s gonna to be soft.” “My son better not be scared of being a man.” “My son is going to be a lady killer.” “These boys out here better beware of my son he’s a killer.” KNOWING HE’S NONE OF THESE THINGS HE JUST SWINGS AND HOPES FOR CONTACT!
Poor guy gets his ass whipped, now his manhood is in question. Did I even fight back? Am I a punk for getting beat up? Will everyone laugh at me tomorrow in school? Am I going to have to fight again tomorrow? Should I even tell my parents about this fight? DAMN WHO CAN HE TURN TO FOR ANSWERS? He should be able to go to his parents but he already unsure of their love and affection for him. They can’t even get along amongst themselves so this is going to either drive a wedge between them or cause them to fight more or even worst cause them to come down hard on him.
His first secret and mistrust in his family as well as himself. 🥺 It only takes one, and that first time makes life hard after that. Not knowing who to trust lead to a lifetime of doubt. See it starts at home. SECOND FIGHT IS IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD. Damn why? “My son isn’t scared of nobody.” “He better not run from that little bad motherfucker either.” “ If you run in this house from a motherfucker, I’m gonna kick your ass and make you go back out there and fight him again.” NEVER MIND THAT THE BOY IS TWICE HIS SIZE AND HAVE A REPUTATION FOR BEATING GROWNUPS ASSES!
He feels trapped, but has to take this ass whipping like a man. FACT: HE ISN’T A MAN BUT A CHILD WHO JUST WANT HIS PARENTS LOVE AND SUPPORT! He just wants them to say you don’t have to fight if you don’t want to, but we all know that isn’t going to happen. His faith in his support system is dwindling by the seconds. He fights back but still no win but now he has no fear. He gets his father’s gun come back moments later and kills the bully.
SHOCKED 😳! How? Why would anyone be surprised by his actions? Amazingly, he isn’t charged as an adult but he will due time for his actions. Two lives gone forever all because boys are raised to be bad asses and not human beings. They aren’t raised to have love, respect, compassion, empathy, sympathy, moral, values for themselves so how can they have it for the next human being? They are raised to be tough, hardcore, destructive, mischievous, and unapologetic, only to be this way in their adulthood which reflects in their relationships.
Society wouldn’t approve of a lesser man because he would be ridiculed of his actions. If he showed any kind of self awareness, respect and compassion he would be labeled gay, faggot, soft, weak or killed for being so. WHY? Why do men have to be displayed as warriors when all they want to be is themselves; no matter who that is? Why is it that men have to be hard in order to protect his family why not just brave enough to live to see another day? Why can’t he walk away from danger when he knows it’s going to claim his life? Why he can express himself without being called names?
Damn shame that as a society we can’t be more supportive of our men and accepting of who they are! The pressure we place on them makes life difficult and miserable for them to understand themselves. They learn to hide themselves from the world only to stay face with the world! THAT’S DUMB AS HELL! We are all guilty of these actions and so we are all responsible for the outcome of another tragedy or death of our men.
It isn’t enough that they are born into a world of hate but we force them into self hate. It isn’t enough that society has it out for them but we do nothing about it to say hey enough is enough. Our men can be and live, love and express themselves as the need and want. REMEMBER THESE SAME MEN BECOME LAWYERS, POLICE, JUDGES, DOCTORS, BOUNTY HUNTERS, TEACHERS, COACHES, SERVICEMEN, ETC WITH ANGER ISSUES SO BEWARE WHO YOU RAISE, PISS OFF AND WHO YOU DATE!
Sending you all love and prayers. #GoddessLove
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