Goddess evening Royals š. First give praise and worship to the all High.
So Iāve been conversing with several people and they admitted they want change but several of them havenāt accepted the idea of change. I have friends who always believe thereās good in everyone they meet but come to realize it isnāt.
Some know how to move on but others well they beat the dead horse hoping it jumps up and gallop to freedom. š§ I tell them itās dead what else is there after death? No one can answer because none have died and came back. Exactly, once itās dead, end it and move on. I know easier said than done. It is better than wrecking your life and brain about it. There is nothing no one can do from that moment on but to let death be that; the end. Instead you keep trying in an relationship thatās never going to go anywhere just because you are afraid of being alone.
Itās like you keep working in a dead end job with no line to promotions, increase in pay or credit for your work. You keep allowing yourself the same pity party and want everyone to attend. You keep doing the same thing that makes you miserable only because you are afraid to try new things or accept change. You want so much to do and live differently but afraid to step out of your old pattern.(comfort zone). You have become accustomed to defeat, pity, self loathing, failure, and misery that you donāt know what happiness is anymore.
Admitting when you have taken on more than you can handle is excepting for change. Some people put it on themselves and then wonder why God is allowing all this stress when in fact it is you and not God. You have to learn to take responsibility for your own actions and not always think it is the all High putting something out for you to achieve or more than you can handle. Sometimes obstacles are put in your way by those you affiliate yourself with and not by God. Meaning you allow others to put their burdens on you and instead of telling them to work it out you take them on.
Thatās not accepting change thatās just stupidity on your behalf. Give them people back their problems and deal with your own issues. Stop trying to be the savior when youāre only the messenger. Know your position in others lives so you wonāt be overwhelmed in yours. Youāre not always the root; sometimes you are just a leaf sent to help that tree nourish. Is not up to you if they will or not. You arenāt supposed to pick this person up from the ground you are supposed to encourage them to get up and thatās it.
You will know the ones that you are supposed to go beyond for when itās your turn to be the savior and no longer the messenger. See if you donāt know when to be what to whom then you overwhelm yourself and fail at it all. Not everything thatās broken need you to fix it and not everything thatās fix needs to be encouraged. Sometimes fixed people needs to be broken in order to know their worth and broken people needs to stay broken to find their strength to be whole again. Stop meddling where your not needed and ignoring where you are!
Itās not your place to fix everyone you come encounter with because some just need a listen ear to hear them. If they already have the solution to their problems then allow them to solve it. Donāt jump in and make it about you when it isnāt. Say your peace and be done with it, whether encouraging or not just be done with it. Donāt start beating that dead horse you know isnāt going to move. If what you spoke was the truth and from the heart it will either get heard or fall on death ears either way you done your part.
Donāt beat yourself up when you see that person spiral out of control either because that maybe what they need to get themselves together. You arenāt in charge of their life nor their death. You donāt know their destiny so donāt interfere where you donāt belong. Iām not saying standby and watch anyone die but their death might be someone elseās wake up call. You canāt stop it all you can do is delay it at that moment but if death is their destiny then it will happen. Knowing your role will sustain your strength, love, life, mentality, mental health, and pain. Accepting your role will guide you to where you are needed to assist growth in the right person life.
Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove