Goddess morning Royalsđź‘‘. First give praise and worship to the all High.
Excuse me for this might be a long post. There’s a lot on my mind about this topic. This topic just doesn’t relate to adults but to children as well. The mutual understanding and respect for one another is clearly obliterated. It is my understanding that relationships are a two way process, a common concept of give and receive ( I would say take but there’s been a lot of taking and none of the giving). A mutual respect of push and pull, in and out, up and down, love and be loved.
Let’s start from birth, parents and the children they birth. This relationship is where it all begins, love, respect, commitment, attention, understanding, and most importantly communication. I mean this is where children learn first to communicate properly, effectively and with understanding. Am I correct?
Somehow this is where all that understanding and communication fails. When a parent or parents become consumed with themselves and the children are used as commodities there’s a bond issue or should I say a lack of a bond, it’s broken and trust is not there. When a parent or an authoritarian parent cannot effectively communicate with their child or children, they teaches the child ineffective communication skills.
This further separates the child’s ability to understand and comprehend what is being asked and expected of them. So they develop or piece together a false sense of confidence in their abilities to comprehend. In other words they determine what was being relayed to them but without a clear and comprehensive explanation or understanding. Now they believe they can understand what is being relayed without a full description or explanation from others because of their parent’s lack of communication.
Now we get them in school and they cannot grasp simple concepts of education, directions, objectives, or organization because of the lack of communication in the home. This leads to disciplinary problems or developmental difficulties. NOTE*: Parents never want to hear that their child has developmental difficulties or delays.
But if you take a closer look it is a pattern behavior within the family because of their inability to understand and comprehend what is being relayed to them. This doesn’t mean you’re stupid or ignorant just misunderstanding what is being taught by an ineffective teacher (not necessarily an educator). Most of the time it is frustrating on both sides of the spectrum for many reasons but the most obvious ones is a lack of communication, comprehension, and understanding. parents think children don’t listen and children believe parents are always angry.
If you cannot effectively verbalize yourself then the person on the other end of the conversation cannot effectively understand. It’s just that simple. This will happen throughout these people lives. As puberty starts and the mind becomes more developed, active, focused and the communication gap becomes wider the understanding will become less and more complex to deal with.
Teens already faces challenges with the change in their body development, as well as figuring out what kind of person they want to be, not who they are told to be. This is when they first start mimicking other’s behavior. Following trends, mistakes are made through social interactions and media exposure is important to them, it is and always will be how we develop. School isn’t a factor but because they already feel like they have failed in that department, so they focus less on education and more on personal appearance, (notice I said appearance and not responsibility, or actions). They never learn about their responsibilities until trouble hits them, that’s when they become aware of their responsibilities, surroundings, friends, family, and relationships.
Since the relationship with their parents is on the fence they look to other adults in their life. Some get lucky with grandparents, cousins, teachers, friends, or siblings, but others get the streets and all that entails. Bad or good parenting can lead to bad relationships with their parents. If you start with friendship and not love they will sense the fake shit and use that against you. If you come off militant they will develop respect but hate who you are as the person who suppose to love them. Nurture verse nature is always be an issue because not everyone can be both. Some have mastered the technique of both, but can rarely implement both. Love and protect with kindness and compassion. Live and teach with the understand of authority, wisdom, and individuality.
It’s seems complexed but if you can remember how you felt the moment you didn’t have an identity or your individuality was being affected by those who shit wasn’t together, then understand how your child or children feel now. Remember we all are products of parents before us and parents before them and the ancestry continues. We have a little or more than we want to have of all those before us.
So when you’re an adult, I mean a real adult. You know living your life the way you think or understand it should be lived according to your rules and standards, that your significant others is living and loving the same. By their definition of life, freedom, choice, and ancestry. No one have completely figured it out so don’t get too bogged down when you make a mistake or get it completely wrong, address the issue, take responsibility, and apologize. Because what and who you destroy in this relationship will need understanding from the person in their next relationship. REMEMBER this world is a healing source but a place where karma happens and what you give you will have to take! It might not happen the way you give it but believe me when you lease expect it you will get it back full circle and it may not be in the same manner you gave it.
The first relationship starts between mother, father and child, so please do you best to make it one that lasts into the ages so that their relationships after us isn’t unpleasant and painful to the point of no return and as parents suffer the consequences.
Sending you all love and prayers. #GoddessLove
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