Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.
Respecting one’s individuality! I know it may sound cliche but believe me it isn’t. I have been in homes of all kinds of people and what I have realized is that most people believe that if they are raised that same then they must be the same. They believe that if they go to the same church then their beliefs are the same. They believe that even though they are all raised to be one religion that trying or believing in another religion is going against the family. They believe that born one nationality means that you are supposed to act a certain way and cannot love another who isn’t of your nationality. I hate to be the bare of bad news but it is 2020 and you can be whoever you want to be and love whoever makes you happy and loves you back. That is what is wrong with the world today, no one wants to believe that people are of their own mind, body and spirit That if they were raised or born of a certain status that is what they are supposed to be of. Well it isn’t working out in most of our favors.
Take for instance, I am a homebody, who believe in strong family bonds, values, morals, and love, while giving a person room to be who they want to be, respectively. My sisters on the other hand have different outlooks on who their children are supposed to be as well as how they treat their siblings. Remember that there is 25 of us, so how they expect for all us to be the same is a mystery to me. One of my sisters, thinks because she doesn’t socialize with her family that her children should either. Even though when they do get to come around they enjoy being around their family and have a great time. She removed herself from the family because she did unspeakable things. Why should her children be the result of her horrior? I don’t know but they are suffering at the hands of her mistake. She has it in her mind that everyone is against her for what she done to another sibling of ours. We had our take on it but then we let it go because it is in the past and we can’t do anything about it.
Then I have a sister that blames everyone for her misfortunate. She never looks in the mirror to see that she is the cause of what she doesn’t have or what she does. She refuse to believe that she dealt her own hand or that she can change it. It just feels better blaming others. She doesn’t make her children do more than she does because she doesn’t want to sound like a hypocrite. So she just goes on about her day blaming her lack of on others, instead of applying that energy to make things better for her and her family. She wants the youngest to be exactly like her and mad at the other for not being exactly like her.
Then there is another sister who believes in the individuality too much that she forgets sometimes that she even have children. She goes on about her day as if she has no worries in the world. She has to be given a reality check every now and then. She just do her and well that is the definition of individuality but not the definition of parenting. Remember we don’t want to be like us, we want better for them, but also we have to remember that we have them.
I have sister who have lost everything including her way but she doesn’t let that effect her day. She just goes on about her business as if she doesn’t have a care in the world. She lives as though nothing has happened and since she does well I do as well. Remember the process have to start with wanting help not just jumping the gun assuming that they want help. I make sure she is okay and leave it at that.
Then there’s my brother who I can say came a long way. He has really turned his life around in more ways than one. He only have himself, but cares about everyone to a point. If you show him that you don’t care about yourself then you are no longer a thought process for him. He writes you off like you have written yourself off. He will not show any concern if you refuse to care enough for yourself. I love that about him because he takes care of himself and stay in his own lane.
My youngest brother is a different story, he has issues. After our mother died he took it the worst, and while we as a family rallied around him for moral, and financial support, we had to realize that he is a con artist. He was playing us with the whole heartache thing. He just wanted our money and sympathy so we wouldn’t say anything about his abuse of drugs. He used my mother’s death as a coping mechanism to get high. Well we caught on to that fast and then allowed him to destroy his life if he wanted to and not to bring down ours. He is trying to get clean or so we think but it could just be another con.
My other brothers however is doing well I might add. Well as far as I can see they are doing well. I have one that has did a whole 180 in the art of growing up. He was a terrorist when he was a child. I mean he was bad as hell, now he is about his family and raising his daughter to be the best she can be. He is about promoting non-violence and help brothers get their life right. No he isn’t a preacher but he is a better individual than what he was as a child or a teenager. In his adult life he has made me proud.
I know that we are all of my parents and some have adopted their mentality but we all are individuals and all we can really say about being raised by them is that they tried and failed. I wish I could say that they did their best but I would be lying. I will say this though, what we learned is what not to do but some of us have test the theory anyway. Some have become my parents and well that isn’t working out in their favor just like it didn’t work for my parents. So they followed the process of being raised to be your parents and living it, or should I say struggling in it. While other have adopted their own individuality and living the life that is theirs.
Parents this is a message to you. If you know your life isn’t great or going the way you planned then don’t push it onto your children. Allow them to live their life but instill those morals and values needed to know the difference between right and wrong. If you yourself aren’t sure what they are please get them professional help now so that you won’t be responsible for your children’s downfall.
Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove