Goddess morning Royals 👑. First, give praise and worship to the all High.
Have you ever said you forgave someone only to torture them from hurt? They say forgive but never forget. I say forgive and mean it. It’s easy to say you forgive someone for something and not really mean it. You just lied to them but considered yourself staying true to you. When in all actuality you lied to yourself as well.
I understand that there is a lot of things people can never forgive someone for but the question is how many times are you going to beating yourself up about it? Rape is the worst thing in the world to me because it robs a person of their dignity, morals, values, self-worth, joy, happiness, strength, intimacy, ability to love, trust, and commit. It takes so much from you especially your identity. I know there is someone reading this that can identify with what I’m saying. To start to heal by forgiving yourself because it isn’t your fault. Don’t torment your soul with the idea that somehow you caused it, or asked for it, why you, what could you have done differently to prevent it from happening? These are all great questions but wrong questions. You should be asking who didn’t love these motherfucker? Who raised him to hate women? Why wasn’t he taught right from wrong? Why wasn’t he told real men don’t take, it is given to them willingly? 🤔 So forgive yourself for the thoughts of it being your fault because it isn’t.
Murder, is high on the list as well. Those questions of morals and values come into play again. They only want forgiveness when death or life in prison is looking them in the eyes. They only want forgiveness when someone is retaliating. When there is no forgiveness they want to turn their life over to an Higher Power. That’s where you should have started when your mind was in turmoil and confusion was your cry for help. Before you decided to play judge, jury and executioner. Now you all for forgiveness but all they have for you is entrapment of lies, pain, and suffering. Shame, when all you had to go was call on the Higher Power and ask for guidance, instead you are begging for forgiveness.
Infidelity, is when the entrapment happens the most. You say you forgive only to tell everyone so they can look at that person differently as well. You want that person to be ashamed of walking in a room with their headup. You prefer the dirty looks everyone will give them especially, if you said you forgave then already. You said it but had no intentions of living up to it. You only want pain and suffering, but do that make you just as guilty as their infidelity. Do you know how to forgive after your trust have been broken? Do you know how to love the same after you heart has been ripped from your soul? Probably not but don’t say you forgive only you torment. Think of it like this, how would you want to be treated had the shoe been in the other foot? Walk in that person shoes to see what caused the infidelity to begin with! Was it forced by a lack of but too much fingers pointing? Were you more than they could handle but instead is leaving or getting out they disgraced your trust only to hope to win it back?
Either way if you are the receiver of any of these incidents, then you are the innocent one and how you move forward is your decision, but don’t say you forgive when really you don’t. Forgetting means never reliving it again, but forgiveness mean I accept what had happened as not being intentional on your behave. If you accepted it then don’t relive it out loud nor hold it against them because you hold it against yourself. Forgive and more on with or without but not to do exactly what they did to you.
Forgetting is your option, but I think remembering means your will not allow it happen again without warning. Your eyes see differently and no one can pull the wool over them again. If it has changed to for the worst, you aren’t any better than the accuser by keep playing the victim. Stabbing up for yourself lets them and everyone who comes after them know I’m not a victim but a survivor and I chose to live life as I want and not as you intended.
Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove