Goddess morning Royals. Give praise and worship to the all high.
When working on yourself don’t allow others access to your rehabilitation. You have to know what you want and what you need to make yourself a better person. If not then you will be changing yourself to meet others needs and no longer have control over your life. More or less will have no idea who you have become. Don’t try to be someone you know you don’t like and would never like, hints the reason you are working on yourself.
People will try to change you to fit their needs and not your own. They will offer advise that surrounds their ability to like you more but in fact to just control you more. You have to know what you don’t like about yourself and what you love about yourself. You need to know what you need to tweak and can remain the same. If you think that being too aggressive is what needs to be tweaked then do so but don’t become passive and allow people to now step all over you. Remember this is just a suggestion. When you look in the mirror and it is all physical and none mental then you can work on that as well. If you aren’t happy with your nose then you can get that worked on and make it to your liking and not how other perceive you. If it is your stomach then do the same but for you and not to please the onlookers. Whatever you feel that needs to be worked on do it for you and not for others. They will have to accept the new you or find someone else to criticized because aren’t making you a better person for them but for you.
Here’s the catcher though if you look in the mirror and you find that you are perfect just the way you are and you think you attitude or personality is just great then by all means stay the same. If you, yourself though, have been seen things that you don’t like about yourself and see that you have changed in the worst way for others, then try your best to find your way back to yourself. Remember no one really knows you better than you and if you can say they do then, I’m sorry you don’t know who you are and need to really look in the mirror to find who you are.
Always take time to love yourself; care for yourself; embrace who you are; praise yourself; congratulate yourself on something well done; encourage yourself; motivate yourself; and most of all be at peace with yourself.
It is nothing in the world like not loving yourself and looking for others to do so for you. That’s never self pleasing especially if you really aren’t sure what love is or how it feels.
If you don’t care about you chances are other won’t as well. They can only care so much, if you don’t care enough to do for yourself or want better for you.
Honesty, if you aren’t sure who you are and embrace it there is no way you can sell people on who you are. They will see right through the phony and fake facade you display and will use that to their advantage or destroy you will it.
Self praise is the best praise one can offer. When you are down and there is no one around, cheer yourself up. When you think you look at certain way, be confident enough to say either it doesn’t work for you, or compliment yourself, either way remember you have to wear it or deal with it. Don’t give your power away by allowing other to have to tell you how you look to them. They might praise you and then talk about you, which can be damaging to one’s self-esteem.
Congratulations you are on your way. I have no idea where or onto what but I know that you are doing you. Look at you go. When you can do this to yourself and for yourself then you don’t need someone to do it for you, unless you want it. But when you don’t get it from whoever you so want it from or in the way you thought you should get it, don’t be upset. Just congratulate yourself on a job well done, or on your own accomplishment. Beside you were the one that put in the work and you should be the one that feel good about doing so. Yes recognition is one thing but it may not always come in the form you expect.
Encouragement is a hard one but one that goes hand and hand with motivation. Encouraging yourself to do something is easy, just say it and then try to do it. The task is seeing it through, motivating yourself to the end and knowing the reward afterward is what you desire is the trick. It is easy to say you a new year resolution but it is hard to see it through to the end. Learning to be your own motivator is the best reward because when it seen to the end, the only person to thank is yourself. You don’t have to hear, if it wasn’t for me; you wouldn’t have never…. That isn’t encouragement, nor praise that is control. Don’t give anyone that much power over you because they will make you feel very horrible about yourself every time you feel a sense of accomplishment.
My final thought for you is to be at peace with yourself during any and all things. Being at war just mean you are sure and aren’t pleased with your decisions, accomplishments, or improvements. Never say I could have done better, more or tried harder. This make you feel like you are worthless, like what you accomplished is worth praise, acknowledgement or recognition. Now you are less likely to do anything more motivating because you feel as though you aren’t worth the effort. No you done what you needed to do and will do more when the time presence itself. For right now you done what was necessary and that’s is good enough for now. Remember set your goals at a reasonable level and not at a level in which you can’t accomplish or not going to feel motivated to do. This will only damage your self-esteem and not raise it.
Good luck and get moving, keep motivated, and stay focus on the task at hand. YOU!
Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove