Saturday, Sit Down With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Community Health Check is something that people do not do any longer. I know I get really concerned when I don’t see a neighbor for a while. I start asking questions because I care about my neighbors, after all they are human beings. I know that if I was missing for a while that my neighbors would come and check on me. We are people have the tendency to want to mind our own business, but as soon as police is on the scene, then we want to be noisey. When the yellow crime scene tape then we want to know what is going on. We even have the audacity to want to speak as if we were very friendly or close to whomever it is that is now no longer with us or a criminal. Why?

If they are questionable from the beginning then you keep your eyes on them from the moment they move in. If they have been around for a long time and things change quickly then you should make a note to go and check on them or see why the change has come about so rapidly. Get involved because you could be saving someone’s life. It might now even be a neighbor life you save but someone who is being harmed by your neighbor or held captive by them. You could be saving a older neighbor who have falling ill and need some attention or have even died in their home because they had a heart attack or someone has killed them. Who knows they could be young as well and in need of some assistance.

Being a good neighbor and knowing who your neighbors are is important for your safety as well as theirs. You could be the one in trouble and in need of some assistance. Just happened no one have seen you in a while and wants to know if you are okay, they knock but no answer. They know you are supposed to be home by now and is very concern. They call for help or notify your closest kin of your status. See you never know who is watching and who is noticing your movement. They could be saving your life as well as you saving theirs.

Stay connected in your community so that you know if you neighborhood is in danger or someone is in need of your help. #TheVillageCry

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Freaky Friday – Are You What He/She Really Want In Bed/Life?

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

I know you think that you are the best thing that God could have put on this planet. You should think that about yourself, but not with the intentions of putting someone else down to do so. I know you think that your sex skills is top notch and you should have that confidence. I know I do, but not at the expense of making my mate feeling like shit.

Question: Is sex different now then it was last month, six months ago or a year ago?

If you answer is yes, then you need to ask questions. Not are you cheating but what is different about our sex life? Why is it that we don’t have as much or where are you learning these new things from? If they can’t answer then you need a different approach. You want to know because inside you already have an inclination. You are suspecting they are stepping out on you and your relationship so why just say it out loud. Even if sex haven’t happened just yet you still have the notion that things aren’t the same as before. It could be you but then again it might nothing to do with you at all. They could just be tired of you and want more for themselves. Selfish ass!

Well don’t fret none, you know what is best for you so do you. If you don’t know what is best then I advise you to look in the mirror and see what you offer. Now go out and find someone who will appreciate all that you have to give and want to give. You might just finally get what you want and need in return. So Stop trying to do what is best for others and start doing what is best for you. You never know you might have been right all along. You were the best in the bed and in someone else’s life. Good Luck

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Confession Thursday – Admitting When You Are Wrong & Apologizing.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Happy Thanksgiving to you all. I hope the time with family and friends was as fulfilling as your meal.

Admitting when you are wrong can be a hard thing to do, but not impossible to be done. I know that we have pride but that sometimes gets in the way of life. Especially, if you have wronged a love one or someone you care deeply about. The key is admitting that you have done something wrong and apologizing for it.

We know when we are wrong and really don’t need anyone to point it out but sometimes we need to called on our bullshit. It is when you get caught and can’t admit to yourself that you know you are wrong, where the problem comes into play. You know you did it but then you try to justify your actions or reason for doing it. Knowing you were going to do it beforehand but when you get caught you try to pretend you didn’t do anything. You act as if it is all new to you and you couldn’t have possibly done or said anything like that. It just doesn’t sound like you. Please that is definitely you and you know it!

Then you play the moment of weakness card like it is shocking news to you. Oh you are good but you also are grown and teaching the wrong things if you have children. Admit, confess, and apologize for what you have done, because in the end it will only get worse when it is done to you. You will not like it when it is done in reverse. You are going to be the one looking for an apology but since you didn’t give one, all you gave were excuses, that is what you are going to receive. Don’t allow it to spiral out of control to a point there is no recovering, coming back or a lost to your deception.

Do the right things by being a grown ass person. Growup!

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Confession Thursday- Happy Thanksgiving

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Happy Thanksgiving Eve. Hope all is well and preparing those dinners for you family and friends gatherings.

Did you job only give you tomorrow off for the holidays? Are they always on your back about something that isn’t in your job description to do? Are they always asking of you but not making financial decision that you make you more than happy to do what they ask of you? Are you thinking of quitting? Are you thinking of causing harm? Are you thinking of going off on someone?

STOP! Think about it, is it really worth it? Is throwing your life away for someone else’s pathetic life worth your freedom, your dignity, or self worth. No it isn’t! Is this really want they wanted, to see you fired instead. Do you think they wanted to make life so hard for you that you can’t find another job. When in reality if they need that much from you all you have to do is walk away. I mean just give them two weeks notice if it is getting to be too hard and it isn’t work related. Walk away with your dignity and pride in tact. Don’t give anyone the satisfaction of firing you and making life more difficult for you. When giving your two weeks notice, just tell them it is personal and you rather not discuss it with anyone. Work through some things and then go find you another job and use them as a reference because they have no idea why you left to begin with. So in reality all they have on you is that you a hard worker with great work ethics.

Friends on the job. Why? If you didn’t grow with them or know them before starting that job then just call them associates. I say this because if there is rumors, lies, buzzing, or any other side business coming your way and you don’t know where it came from. Look at the person or people you call friends. For me personally, my home life is just that. My work life is just that and I don’t mix the two. Meaning if you don’t know me outside of the workplace then you have no business knowing of my home life. If you do then, please keep my business out of everyone’s ears, so it won’t have to come out of their mouth incorrect. The thing is I see people just starting jobs and already they have best friends with people they just met. Then when things aren’t going their way or things are looking a little different, they act like they don’t know who to blame. No not the people or person you claimed as your friend but yourself! You have to stop wanting friends so bad that you give your whole life story to people and think that they are your friends, when they are only associates. You think just because they know of your status or situation and can relate that you need to tell them everything. You don’t because it becomes work business and the two just don’t mix.

Growth! It you are planning on growing within your workplace. Don’t tell everyone your business. It becomes more of a competition and that wasn’t the plan. You tell your “friend” who now wants the position as well. They think if you can do it they know they can do it as well. They then start to tell people of your problems and now you aren’t looking like a strong candidate for the position. Not every move you make is for everyone. Sometimes you just have to keep it to yourself and move in silence. Think about it, when you move up you really get to see who your friends are and how much you really know the people you call “friends.” When you do grow, I just want you to step on people. I want you to recognize people for who they are and what they are worth. Elevation is for everyone at some point, so don’t climb that ladder and step on other because you could slip and fall, seeing those same people on you slide down.

Positivity! On the other hand if you are more than excite to be on your job then let the company know. Don’t be afraid to send a thank you note to the supervisor or the CEO or President of the company for your opportunity to prove yourself. Getting recognized for you talent isn’t a bad thing at all. In fact it is what most employer are looking for; people who stand out and make a difference for their company. Now, I didn’t say overstep your boundaries and go to the Director or CEO for a promotion but I mean send them a thank you gift when you get hired will make them remember your name. If you are always being awarded at your job then you are being recognized for your worth. They see you and noticed that you stay out of trouble and don’t bring the drama to the workplace. Meaning you stay to yourself and do your job. Keep up the good work. #Proud

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Timeless Tuesday! Appreciating Your Significant Other

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

We take things that we have so easily for granted. We taking knowing that a person loves us unconditionally for granted. We believe that if they love us they will never leave us. We believe that if we are married and they chose us then we are set for life. We think that if they haven’t cheated by now we are safe.

That isn’t true! If you appreciate having someone to come home to will make you safe then you haven’t lived until you don’t have someone to come home to. You learn to appreciate not only have someone to come home to but someone who wants you to come home to them. It isn’t all about what you want and need it is also about what that person want and needs from you. If they have no desire to see you they will not be there when you get there nor will the rush to get there knowing you are there.

If you appreciate having someone to eat with makes cooking worth the time then keep doing that. It is when you cook and they never come to eat it, or when you cook and they have already eaten someone else’s dinner. When you appreciate them they will not only be home for dinner but they will be there to help or have already made you dinner. It’s the little things like, you cook and they wash that lets you know you are appreciated. Not you cook and they put their dish in the sink and leave it for you to wash.

If you appreciate your significant other and they appreciate you the same. You adore the little things and be humble to the bigger things that they do for you, because they know that it goes without saying. They can see the love in your eyes, smile, face, and actions; your words aren’t needed.

So how much do you appreciate your significant other?

It’s when you have a bad day and they can see it so they make it all go away without you even saying a word. It’s when you come home tired and they have done everything you would have done for them. It’s when you need a break and they offer it without you asking or without them saying. It’s when you are tense and they make you feel relaxed. It’s when you crying and they console you or cry with you. It’s when you laugh and they are so happy they laugh with you. It’s when you are blessed and they know they are as well. It’s when you are filled with joy and somehow they know it is because of them and they feel the same because they know it’s because of you.

So how much do you appreciate you significant other?

When you use the car and fill it up afterwards. It’s when you give them money for lunch knowing they have their own. Better yet its when you got up and make them breakfast and lunch, just because. It’s when you get new tires for their vehicle because he saw the other ones losing tread. It’s when you kiss them on the forehead and say thank you for no reason at all you are just happy to have them in your life. It’s when you initiate sex and they have no idea it was coming. It’s when you get tickets to their favorite show, musical, play or concert. It’s when you in the car and you play their favorite music to put a smile on their face. It’s when you wear their favorite perfume/cologne. It’s when you notice the little things, changes, and the big life changes as well. It’s when you are there when they feel no one else will be there. It’s when death is knocking and you are standing blocking the front door.

Appreciation goes a long way.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Manic Monday! Yes, The Holidays Can Be Madness

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Are you preparing for the Holidays? Are you checking you list and checking it twice? Did you get all that others wanted? Did you remember the cranberry sauce this year? Are you sure your Uncle and Aunt with be here this year? Are you certain that everyone made their flight? Do you think there will be enough food?

Don’t stress! We know that the holidays can be a bit much but it can only take you out of your way if you allow it. Stop! Take a deep breath and just relax, it your holiday as well. Don’t make yourself a mess trying to make sure everyone else holiday is great. You will make them comfortable and yourself a walking nightmare trying to please everyone. We all know that is impossible. You cannot please everyone. There will always be a few that is misery just because. They came that way and they shall level that way, no matter how hard you try. You are the only family that has one or three, we all have them.

Don’t worry! As long as your immediate family enjoy themselves who cares if everyone else have a bad time. They got to eat for free! Some got free room and board! Some took home food because they didn’t cook a thing! Others will come back tomorrow because they enjoy the time you gave them. So don’t worry, everything is handle because you got this.

Feel good! You know you have been doing this for a while, maybe not on this magnitude but still you feed your family so feeding a few more shouldn’t be as hard. Take pride in your accomplishment and smile because you are going a wonderful thing bringing the family together. Family is important even when it is madness. Tomorrow you will have made it through and moving on to the next holiday. Where you and your family will have the opportunity to make someone else nervous. Cheer up your turn is coming.

Happy Holidays to you and your family. Cook, clean, prepare for family and fun. Remember small portions are healthier portions.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove

Sunday, Let’s Talk Food With Lady K.

Goddess morning Royals. First, give praise and worship to the all High.

Is dieting necessary? Is it though, because if you really look at it not everyone is born the same, live the same, eat the same things, nor are they active the same. So is it necessary/?

As for me it doesn’t work. So I can say yes and no. It depend on the person and their health. Let’s look at it like this, if you are overweight according to your body type and height then you should concern it, but it not then don’t do it. If you are slightly overweight and think that you are fat just because, then change the way you eat and the move. I wouldn’t say exercise because any movement is consider exercising in my book.

If you clean your house from top to bottom then you are exercising. If you walk your children to school each morning and get them in the evening you are exercising. If you like to dance and no matter what you find yourself moving while cooking, working, shopping, or etc., then you my friend is exercising. Walking the dog is exercising, taking the baby out for a stroll is exercising, even marketing is exercising. So yes you do a lot in a course of a day which is considered exercising.

However, if none of this is what you do in a course of a day, then we need to get you moving. If you have problems walking because you don’t have the motivation to do so, find someone who loves to walk and take one daily with them. If you find you don’t like to go for long walks then just take one around your block to start to explore, after while other things will grab your attention and soon you will be exploring and walking without realizing this isn’t something you like to do. When it become second nature to you, you will find yourself doing it without planning it. When you walk and talk you find it hard to eat. So your metabolism starts to increase and the weight starts to shed.

When you feel yourself getting hungry remember to bring out a fruit and water. What people fail to realize is that drinking water help them to lose weight. It flushes your system and help rejuvenate your electrolytes, restoring your ability to function and move one. Oh course you could always hit the gym and spend lots of money for a membership which make you feel forced into it, or you can just find things around the house or neighborhood that you can use to help you on your journey to the a healthier you.

So eat right, walk, dance, shop, or just keep moving, drink plenty of water, grab life and well do you because you are doing great.

Sending you all love and kisses. #GoddessLove